truth_seeker Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 ...these are really stupid reasons. put up a profile pic!!! maybe you waited too long?? you wont find out unless you do something about it!!! if he doesnt check his facebook regularly, then that's not your problem. he'll eventually see it and he'll message you back. this is the only way to get ahold of him, so just do it!! and i dont know what 'he wants ignore' means. you are creating a lot of drama over nothing, really. I concur. OP, just put up a profile. Take a selfie if you have to... send the friend request. It's much easier for a woman to get away with this than a guy. If you guys have mutual friends it will only be easier for him to accept. 1
Author crazybestie101 Posted May 19, 2016 Author Posted May 19, 2016 If you wait it might have a worse effect. If he sees a message from you that was sent today and then gets a friend request a week later, I would think you're really into me and after me. Just send it now. Hey, i think i will just leave it at message which i send tuesday. I will post up pic tonight.. I don't feel like to send friend request, don't want to give him impression that i am behind him even though in reality i am. I am hoping someday he will check my message/profile again and see my picture and hopefully message back...
Cinnamonstix Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 I feel like now i just want to leave it at a message that i send on tuesday night. I will post pic tonight and leave it at that. No point on sending friend request. i am hoping he will check back my message/profile again and see me there and hopefully message me back. Else I move to next one I think you should leave it too, but do put a pic at least there is no ambiguity there. He could just as easily get in touch with you if he really wanted to as well.
truth_seeker Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 I feel like now i just want to leave it at a message that i send on tuesday night. I will post pic tonight and leave it at that. No point on sending friend request. i am hoping he will check back my message/profile again and see me there and hopefully message me back. Else I move to next one Does he have FB messenger? Do you? If you do, look next to his pic in the message you sent him. If it has a grey FB icon, then that means he doesn't use messenger and it's in the OTHER folder in his messages box. If next to his pic is a lightning bolt image, then he uses messenger and probably received the message, but still a chance he didn't because you're not friends on FB. I say you should send the FB friend request. You're a woman. If he doesn't accept, you can always spin it to you were just networking. You women are good at lying about these things It's harder for the guys because we can easily be labeled as creeps... a woman will never be labeled a creep. So you're okay no matter what...
truth_seeker Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 I think you should leave it too, but do put a pic at least there is no ambiguity there. He could just as easily get in touch with you if he really wanted to as well. This is where opportunities can be lost... yea he could, but what if he thinks she is not interested in him? He could be clueless or assume she is just being friendly. Sometimes the woman has to step and make the move! She makes the move and suddenly this guy is thinking: "Wow! I never thought you and I... but I'm glad you reached out." Boom. Sparks flying!
Cinnamonstix Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 This is where opportunities can be lost... yea he could, but what if he thinks she is not interested in him? He could be clueless or assume she is just being friendly. Sometimes the woman has to step and make the move! She makes the move and suddenly this guy is thinking: "Wow! I never thought you and I... but I'm glad you reached out." Boom. Sparks flying! She's already made the move. He probably received the message. Most people use FB on their phones these days so it's not likely to just be sitting in the other folder, as was explained in an earlier post on this thread. Usually you'll only find really old messages from randoms in the other folder, before we had FB on our phones. Though she should at least put a pic up, even that part isn't absolutely necessary. If he was really into her, he would remember her. He would think to himself, "I sure hope that is the CrazyBestie from _____" and respond.
truth_seeker Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 She's already made the move. He probably received the message. Most people use FB on their phones these days so it's not likely to just be sitting in the other folder, as was explained in an earlier post on this thread. Usually you'll only find really old messages from randoms in the other folder, before we had FB on our phones. Though she should at least put a pic up, even that part isn't absolutely necessary. If he was really into her, he would remember her. He would think to himself, "I sure hope that is the CrazyBestie from _____" and respond. I logged onto FB using my laptop yesterday and found a message in the archives folder from 6 months ago. It didn't go to the phone because the person doesn't use FB messenger. Do I think this is what happened with OP? Probably not... but you never know. I agree with you on the pic... and she should friend him, too. Yea, if a girl I liked messaged me >> and I received the message, I would be thrilled and write back. Even if I didn't like her in that way and received the message, I would respond back out of courtesy. Everyone is different. He might not have gotten the message or he got it and is purposely taking his time to respond back for who knows what reason (playing it cool because he likes her or thinking how to write back to her to let her down). What if he's seeing someone else right now? Ever think of that?
Author crazybestie101 Posted May 19, 2016 Author Posted May 19, 2016 I logged onto FB using my laptop yesterday and found a message in the archives folder from 6 months ago. It didn't go to the phone because the person doesn't use FB messenger. Do I think this is what happened with OP? Probably not... but you never know. I agree with you on the pic... and she should friend him, too. Yea, if a girl I liked messaged me >> and I received the message, I would be thrilled and write back. Even if I didn't like her in that way and received the message, I would respond back out of courtesy. Everyone is different. He might not have gotten the message or he got it and is purposely taking his time to respond back for who knows what reason (playing it cool because he likes her or thinking how to write back to her to let her down). What if he's seeing someone else right now? Ever think of that? Yes, i use messenger and he does too, i notice that.. There is high chance that he has seen message. I also agree that there is chance he is seeing someone after all its been month from the first time we met. No one waits such long. I should have done all this sooner than wait this long. But you know i wanted to focus on school and career, i just couldn't afford to get distracted. Lets see what happens.. i will update you..
Author crazybestie101 Posted May 19, 2016 Author Posted May 19, 2016 She's already made the move. He probably received the message. Most people use FB on their phones these days so it's not likely to just be sitting in the other folder, as was explained in an earlier post on this thread. Usually you'll only find really old messages from randoms in the other folder, before we had FB on our phones. Though she should at least put a pic up, even that part isn't absolutely necessary. If he was really into her, he would remember her. He would think to himself, "I sure hope that is the CrazyBestie from _____" and respond. Yep, in fact i contacted someone 2 months ago same way on FB. They instantly recognized me without having profile pic. Everytime i write message i give plenty details so they know who i am. Also, my name isn't so common. I am sure he doesn't meet lot of girls with my name. So its quite possible he has seen message but he is ignoring. In that case, i am bit disappointed but its okay i guess..
truth_seeker Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 Yes, i use messenger and he does too, i notice that.. There is high chance that he has seen message. I also agree that there is chance he is seeing someone after all its been month from the first time we met. No one waits such long. I should have done all this sooner than wait this long. But you know i wanted to focus on school and career, i just couldn't afford to get distracted. Lets see what happens.. i will update you.. If he uses messenger then you can tell if he read the message or not. On mine, the person I message, a small circle with their profile pic shows up next to my message to indicate they read it.
Author crazybestie101 Posted May 20, 2016 Author Posted May 20, 2016 If he uses messenger then you can tell if he read the message or not. On mine, the person I message, a small circle with their profile pic shows up next to my message to indicate they read it. I know what you are saying. Next to my message there is circle and ( correct sign) in it which means he hasn't seen it. But recently facebook came up with message request where person can read message without letting sender know. They have option to accept or reject. Only when they accept, you will see that they read. Else there is no way.. Posting pic tonight, lets see if something even happen. honestly, i have less hopes of something even happening. Thanks for your help!!
truth_seeker Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 I know what you are saying. Next to my message there is circle and ( correct sign) in it which means he hasn't seen it. But recently facebook came up with message request where person can read message without letting sender know. They have option to accept or reject. Only when they accept, you will see that they read. Else there is no way.. Posting pic tonight, lets see if something even happen. honestly, i have less hopes of something even happening. Thanks for your help!! Send the friend request after you post the pic. I already told you >>> you're a girl. You can get away with this. I'm a guy. If I sent a friend request to a girl I can come off like a creep. If she accepts, and we don't hit it off, I'll get deleted. lol. If he doesn't accept, you can play it off like you were networking and he's an idiot for thinking you had romantic interest in him
LostOne1 Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 I know what you are saying. Next to my message there is circle and ( correct sign) in it which means he hasn't seen it. But recently facebook came up with message request where person can read message without letting sender know. They have option to accept or reject. Only when they accept, you will see that they read. Else there is no way.. Posting pic tonight, lets see if something even happen. honestly, i have less hopes of something even happening. Thanks for your help!! I'm sorry but I have to call your ass out. #1 you don't deserve this guy. You can't even put up a simple picture of yourself. Why does it matter how you look? He's seen you in person, he's not going to judge you off a picture. #2 stop worrying about if he read your message or not. Put up a freaking picture right now. Even if you're on the freaking toilet you could put it up and he'd still respond if he liked you. #3 stop freaking about the message. You sent one now let it go. Go do something else and if he ever gets back to you great. If not big whoop.... You just seem like someone that wants to whine about it all. You need to relax and FOLLOW the advice 10 other people have given you..... If I was a guy and the profile had no picture I'd not reply at all. If it was a girl and I saw her picture and recognized her regardless if I like her or not. I'd at least say Hi back.
Author crazybestie101 Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 Send the friend request after you post the pic. I already told you >>> you're a girl. You can get away with this. I'm a guy. If I sent a friend request to a girl I can come off like a creep. If she accepts, and we don't hit it off, I'll get deleted. lol. If he doesn't accept, you can play it off like you were networking and he's an idiot for thinking you had romantic interest in him Picture posted!! Still can't get enough courage to send request..
Author crazybestie101 Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 Send the friend request after you post the pic. I already told you >>> you're a girl. You can get away with this. I'm a guy. If I sent a friend request to a girl I can come off like a creep. If she accepts, and we don't hit it off, I'll get deleted. lol. If he doesn't accept, you can play it off like you were networking and he's an idiot for thinking you had romantic interest in him you know why because we are likely to run into same professional environment and don't want to make awkward. I get your point but honestly i am very shy and i don't want come off too agressive.. I kinda accepted that i wont hear from him..
Author crazybestie101 Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 I'm sorry but I have to call your ass out. #1 you don't deserve this guy. You can't even put up a simple picture of yourself. Why does it matter how you look? He's seen you in person, he's not going to judge you off a picture. #2 stop worrying about if he read your message or not. Put up a freaking picture right now. Even if you're on the freaking toilet you could put it up and he'd still respond if he liked you. #3 stop freaking about the message. You sent one now let it go. Go do something else and if he ever gets back to you great. If not big whoop.... You just seem like someone that wants to whine about it all. You need to relax and FOLLOW the advice 10 other people have given you..... If I was a guy and the profile had no picture I'd not reply at all. If it was a girl and I saw her picture and recognized her regardless if I like her or not. I'd at least say Hi back. May be because i felt that there was something there at the time we used to see each other in person. And now it's gone since i waited so long.. I posted pic thogh.. not expecting much since so many days have passed since my message..
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