crazybestie101 Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 Last fall while attending this student organization meeting, i was introduced to this guy. We talked here and there, nothing detailed. I thought he was cute but nothing else. I may have seen him every other week. I knew i wasnt going to keep going to the meeting so thought before i would stop i will just ask him for his number. Just because i thought he was cutie, would love to keep in touch. But that never happened as stuff happened and i abruptly stopped going, i heard from someone that he was asking for me.. Fast forward after few months now, i am still thinking about him and urge to contact him via facebook (only option left). Here are my some of concerns: Is it too late to contact??? I am not sure if i want to add him in my social media.. Is it weird to ask for his number on facebook and not add him there. If i were to contact this is what i would say: Hey xyz, this is abc ( we met at ####).. I always thought of friending you here but never got chance and i was kinda scared. I thought you were pretty cool and wanted to keep in touch.. LOL, i would be much better at talking in person than sending such message on FB but as i said thats only option left. If anyone got better ideas for message please comment below, thanks!!
Erik30 Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 Contacting him on Facebook is fine, especially since he was asking about you so that's a good sign. Why not just add him but keep parts of your profile private if you don't want him to see everything? Only asking for his number might appear to be kind off weird since you're saying you want to keep in touch. That's basically the point of using Facebook I would leave out the part of you being "scared" in your message, but other than that it seems good. 4
truth_seeker Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 The fact that you're a girl doing this makes it okay. If it were a guy it would be 50/50 that he comes off a creep. 1
Cinnamonstix Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 If you're going to go the FB route, I would send a message but not a friend request. And as another user said, leave out the scared part. Be confident! 1
GenuineAttraction Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 Last fall while attending this student organization meeting, i was introduced to this guy. We talked here and there, nothing detailed. I thought he was cute but nothing else. I may have seen him every other week. I knew i wasnt going to keep going to the meeting so thought before i would stop i will just ask him for his number. Just because i thought he was cutie, would love to keep in touch. But that never happened as stuff happened and i abruptly stopped going, i heard from someone that he was asking for me.. Fast forward after few months now, i am still thinking about him and urge to contact him via facebook (only option left). Here are my some of concerns: Is it too late to contact??? I am not sure if i want to add him in my social media.. Is it weird to ask for his number on facebook and not add him there. If i were to contact this is what i would say: Hey xyz, this is abc ( we met at ####).. I always thought of friending you here but never got chance and i was kinda scared. I thought you were pretty cool and wanted to keep in touch.. LOL, i would be much better at talking in person than sending such message on FB but as i said thats only option left. If anyone got better ideas for message please comment below, thanks!! You should ABSOLUTELY contact him. Men don't often get approached, and it's nice to have it happen. Especially if he likes you, and it sounds like he's interested. Send him a private message on facebook, say, "Hi, we met you at (such and such), and wanted to get to know you better but I never got the chance. I would love to hear from you! and give him your number. That should be all you have to do. Then get the hell off facebook and do the romancing in person. If he doesn't respond, send him one more message a week later. If he doesn't respond to your second request. Forget about him, he's unavailable for whatever reason. 2
truth_seeker Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 You should ABSOLUTELY contact him. Men don't often get approached, and it's nice to have it happen. Especially if he likes you, and it sounds like he's interested. Send him a private message on facebook, say, "Hi, we met you at (such and such), and wanted to get to know you better but I never got the chance. I would love to hear from you! and give him your number. That should be all you have to do. Then get the hell off facebook and do the romancing in person. If he doesn't respond, send him one more message a week later. If he doesn't respond to your second request. Forget about him, he's unavailable for whatever reason. This may or may not work because if you're not friends on FB, he may not even see the message! From what I've seen, you both have to have FB Messenger if you're not friends so the message will be delivered. If you don't, then it will go to the OTHER folder and the person won't see the message. 1
truth_seeker Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 Another Idea to consider: You could mention he appeared in your People You May Know list. Usually, people you know (more so acquaintances) who suddenly appear in your list, they have been viewing your profile. Not to freak you out, but if you've been browsing his profile, you could be showing up in his PYMK list. Anyway, because what I mentioned about the message not getting to him, if you send a friend request, your excuse can be, if he accepts, "Hey! you came up in my PYMK list and I was like, I know him! lol! How are you?" 1
Author crazybestie101 Posted May 15, 2016 Author Posted May 15, 2016 Unfortuntely, i haven't been able to contact him as i was stressed out with some work related issues. I think the problem here is that i feel like he is totally out of my league and i am scared of rejection. I have been putting of dating for same reasons. I recently got friend request which seemed to be fake profile of girl which happen to be from same town as this guy i am interested in. As soon i got notification of friend request i checked out profile and first things i notice was profile picture. It seemed like someone took screen shot of this girl picture on phone and just uploaded that without even cropping. Within minuts it was all fixed. I am suspecting that the person behind this might be this guy. i even saw lot of guys from same area popped up in my " people you may know" list. So i am guessing he has asked his friends to look me up??? I don' t have profile picture on my fb account, may be that's why this guy isn't contacing me there directly??? From past few days i have been getting anxious and wanted to message him on FB but don't know how and what should i say. Its been like 9 months of our orginal encounter.
preraph Posted May 15, 2016 Posted May 15, 2016 You can't very well use FB to contact him and then refuse to add him. And I wonder what situation makes you want to keep him off there. Whoever it is that told you he asked after you, friend that person on FB and then you can say "Hey, I was just on "X's" FB and saw you on there and wanted to say hi.
Author crazybestie101 Posted May 18, 2016 Author Posted May 18, 2016 This may or may not work because if you're not friends on FB, he may not even see the message! From what I've seen, you both have to have FB Messenger if you're not friends so the message will be delivered. If you don't, then it will go to the OTHER folder and the person won't see the message. So i did contact him by FB messanger and i am guessing my message went to "other" folder I am so pissed that i didn't send him friend request, i felt that it would be too much. What should i do now? How long should i wait to contact him again??
Author crazybestie101 Posted May 18, 2016 Author Posted May 18, 2016 (edited) You can't very well use FB to contact him and then refuse to add him. And I wonder what situation makes you want to keep him off there. Whoever it is that told you he asked after you, friend that person on FB and then you can say "Hey, I was just on "X's" FB and saw you on there and wanted to say hi. I ended up messaging him last night on FB messanger and i haven't heard from him yet. This is what i am thinking that might have happened: 1) my message went in "other" folder 2) i don't have profile pic on facebook, so he isn't sure of me 3) He wants ignore me 4) He hasn't checked his FB My friends say that even if it went to other folder, anyone could see that they got new message. I myself have experimented that before. I met someone in person then contacted them on FB, sure the person took weeks to see and reply to my message but they did see my message. I get feeling that this guy is probably ignoring my message or i mig Edited May 18, 2016 by crazybestie101
Author crazybestie101 Posted May 18, 2016 Author Posted May 18, 2016 You can't very well use FB to contact him and then refuse to add him. And I wonder what situation makes you want to keep him off there. Whoever it is that told you he asked after you, friend that person on FB and then you can say "Hey, I was just on "X's" FB and saw you on there and wanted to say hi. I ended up messaging him last night on FB messanger and i haven't heard from him yet. This is what i am thinking that might have happened: 1) my message went in "other" folder 2) i don't have profile pic on facebook, so he isn't sure of me 3) He wants ignore me 4) He hasn't checked his FB My friends say that even if it went to other folder, anyone could see that they got new message. I myself have experimented that before. I met someone in person then contacted them on FB, sure the person took weeks to see and reply to my message but they did see my message. I get feeling that this guy is probably ignoring my message or i mig
Cinnamonstix Posted May 18, 2016 Posted May 18, 2016 Um, OP, add a profile picture! Btw, you can see when someone reads your message on FB.
Author crazybestie101 Posted May 19, 2016 Author Posted May 19, 2016 Um, OP, add a profile picture! Btw, you can see when someone reads your message on FB. Thanks for your response.. I know i plan on posting new pics soon..It may sound weird but being a girl i don't know why but i hate taking pics now. I used to take so many 3 years ago. FB has changed recently, specially when you send some stranger message (someone who isn't your friend), they can read your message but you wont know. FB came with message request where person can accept/reject your request. When they accept it, you can see if they read your message. Otherwise there is no way to know. Social media privacy is good but not in cases like mine here lol
truth_seeker Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 So i did contact him by FB messanger and i am guessing my message went to "other" folder I am so pissed that i didn't send him friend request, i felt that it would be too much. What should i do now? How long should i wait to contact him again?? If he has FB messenger, he should see it on his phone. It's when you log on your desktop or laptop you get messages that go into the other folder. I would send the friend request AND put up at least a place holder pic before you send the request.
Author crazybestie101 Posted May 19, 2016 Author Posted May 19, 2016 If he has FB messenger, he should see it on his phone. It's when you log on your desktop or laptop you get messages that go into the other folder. I would send the friend request AND put up at least a place holder pic before you send the request. Should i wait a week or something to send friend request so i don't look desperate or creep?? I will be posting pic before sending request..
Scarlett.O'hara Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 You should put the picture up now, don't wait. Make it good one. If he is interested he will contact you.
joseb Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 If you don't have a pic up, how will he know who you are?
truth_seeker Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 Should i wait a week or something to send friend request so i don't look desperate or creep?? If you wait it might have a worse effect. If he sees a message from you that was sent today and then gets a friend request a week later, I would think you're really into me and after me. Just send it now.
tayriley Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 just send him a request and leave it at that. maybe a little note that says- hey, thought of you cause ( insert some inside joke you have with him.) then leave it at that. if he wants to make a move, he will. frankly, i think u are romanticizing it because if you kept going to the meetings, do u think something would have happened? or would it just be a friendly thing with him? unless he is PAINFULLY shy, most guys would be able to at least get your number and take you out or find an excuse to hang out alone with you. i just went out with a shy guy, and even he got my number from someone else and texted me right away. i guess what i'm saying is, are you really that into him or are you just bored and have no other options?
truth_seeker Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 i guess what i'm saying is, are you really that into him or are you just bored and have no other options? Good question. She's young so I would expect her to be more into the mystery of this guy than the guy himself. He was there... nothing happened. Now he's gone and she's wanting to find him and connect with him.
Author crazybestie101 Posted May 19, 2016 Author Posted May 19, 2016 just send him a request and leave it at that. maybe a little note that says- hey, thought of you cause ( insert some inside joke you have with him.) then leave it at that. if he wants to make a move, he will. frankly, i think u are romanticizing it because if you kept going to the meetings, do u think something would have happened? or would it just be a friendly thing with him? unless he is PAINFULLY shy, most guys would be able to at least get your number and take you out or find an excuse to hang out alone with you. i just went out with a shy guy, and even he got my number from someone else and texted me right away. i guess what i'm saying is, are you really that into him or are you just bored and have no other options? I think these are the problems here: 1) may be i waited too long 2) have no profile pic there so he doesn't know me 3) he didnt check his fb ( doubt that) 4) he wants ignore He tried one day coming up to me for asking number but there were lot of people around me so he couldnt do it. He is in professional environment so i
tayriley Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 I think these are the problems here: 1) may be i waited too long 2) have no profile pic there so he doesn't know me 3) he didnt check his fb ( doubt that) 4) he wants ignore He tried one day coming up to me for asking number but there were lot of people around me so he couldnt do it. He is in professional environment so i ...these are really stupid reasons. put up a profile pic!!! maybe you waited too long?? you wont find out unless you do something about it!!! if he doesnt check his facebook regularly, then that's not your problem. he'll eventually see it and he'll message you back. this is the only way to get ahold of him, so just do it!! and i dont know what 'he wants ignore' means. you are creating a lot of drama over nothing, really. 2
Author crazybestie101 Posted May 19, 2016 Author Posted May 19, 2016 just send him a request and leave it at that. maybe a little note that says- hey, thought of you cause ( insert some inside joke you have with him.) then leave it at that. if he wants to make a move, he will. frankly, i think u are romanticizing it because if you kept going to the meetings, do u think something would have happened? or would it just be a friendly thing with him? unless he is PAINFULLY shy, most guys would be able to at least get your number and take you out or find an excuse to hang out alone with you. i just went out with a shy guy, and even he got my number from someone else and texted me right away. i guess what i'm saying is, are you really that into him or are you just bored and have no other options? i couldnt add details in esrlier thread so here is goes: I think he wanted to play safe in professional environment. Its not like i don't have options but i am just interested in this dude. I recently got request by fake profile on FB, i thought this guy is behind that profile but i don't know. I am just slightly disappointed that things are turned out to be like that while looking back our in person interactions..
Author crazybestie101 Posted May 19, 2016 Author Posted May 19, 2016 ...these are really stupid reasons. put up a profile pic!!! maybe you waited too long?? you wont find out unless you do something about it!!! if he doesnt check his facebook regularly, then that's not your problem. he'll eventually see it and he'll message you back. this is the only way to get ahold of him, so just do it!! and i dont know what 'he wants ignore' means. you are creating a lot of drama over nothing, really. I feel like now i just want to leave it at a message that i send on tuesday night. I will post pic tonight and leave it at that. No point on sending friend request. i am hoping he will check back my message/profile again and see me there and hopefully message me back. Else I move to next one
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