gqb Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 I've been dating this girl for a couple years, and now we're long distance, with no real end in sight. I'm ready to break up, but not really sure how to go about. She's definitely really into me, and it's always been that way. I'm definitely the settler and she's the reacher. (To put it in HIMYM terms). That's part of the problem I'm having right now. Every time I go visit her or she visits me, it's like the highlight of her life, and I feel like the thought of us is what helps her get through tough days at her job, so I know the break up is going to be really hard on her. The issue is that we don't see each other very often since we live over 10 hours from each other, so it is kind of special and a planned out thing if we visit. So, I feel like it would be terrible to visit her and then tell her I want to break up and then leave, since me visiting would be something that she planned for and looked forward to for a long time. But, I know that face to face is so much better. Also, I have a feeling she might be worried about our relationship because I've been pretty distant lately, which is my bad, but it's tough when I know it's over. So, the question is: should I go visit her and then break up, or should I call her via Skype and break up with that. Obviously, Skype would be easier for me and I wouldn't have to drive 20+ hours over one weekend. But, I also don't want a-hole, so I don't really know what to do.
LadyDeadpool Posted March 15, 2016 Posted March 15, 2016 Tread lightly but defo break up if you think that's what is best for you. I would recommend driving to see her as that's the least you can do if you've been dating for years. I say that because the last thing you want to do is break up over Skype simply because it's easier for you, and she goes on to become depressed because she didn't get proper closure. (Extreme example but possible) Also, at least you can drive home knowing you went about the breakup as gently and respectful as you could. But don't stay in a relationship you don't want. It will just make you resentful and have a worse breakup later down the line as your annoyance builds.
kztar Posted March 15, 2016 Posted March 15, 2016 What is the problem with the relationship?. Have you loved the girl or no? See her in person. and give her closure, even if you have to drive 24 hrs. Tell her the real reasons of the breakup. Don't sugar coat it. It will hurt but it will help her move on. Answer all her questions as blunt and honest as possible.
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