Is it weird when a guy plays with a girl's hair all the time?

[adilaurentis]

And I'm not talking about the gentle and affectionate type of behavior like when he runs his fingers through your hair occasionally or touches your head; I'm talking about frequently reaching out to your hair playing with it or messing with it ... or rubbing it all over your head. A guy I've just started seeing does this and he would act like it's for good fun and laughs with me but honestly it annoys me after a while, especially when he still does it after I already said that I don't like it. I mean, it's not as cute as one may think like a 5-year-old boy "picking on" a little girl living next door. Is it a hair fetish or something? Why do I feel that it's so creepy?

 

Don't mean to be whiny but this is new territory to me and I wonder what that's all about...

 

A friend of mine also mentions that her new boyfriend would smack her butt all the time that he thought he was being cute and flirty but it gets old fast... What's with all this I wonder?

[jen1447]

I don't think it's innately weird, being as it's a pretty common form of affection. It may be a little odd if he's actually "playing" with it like you describe tho (not just stroking etc.), and espec if you told him you don't like it.

 

I love playing with hair but I wouldn't do it if they didn't like it.

[Popsicle]

It's a weird way of them asserting their dominance. Plus they want to poo poo on girlyness (even tho they like it).

[RRM321]

If you were over-sensitive about your hair I think you'd be self-aware of that already. So, if this bothers you than it probably is an over the top behavior on his part.

 

I love a woman's hair but, I can't recall ever "playing" with it in such a fashion. I would expect them to be annoyed by that.

 

The hair thing and the pat on the fanny both need some consideration since either can sometimes be a form of sexism, essentially reducing you to a juvenile status. The only hair teasing or fanny pats I recall went to my own toddlers, not grown women.

[preraph]

It sounds childish, like a little boy who won't stop pulling your ponytail. I think you need to stop being polite about it and get right up in his face about it with NO smile.

[OnlyHonesty]

Maybe just shave it all off, see if he still does it..

[yxalitis]

You know a "fanny" has a totally different meaning in Australia...

[smackie9]

One time a drunk guy sitting behind me at a bar petted my hair twice when I warned him not to, I knocked him and his chair to the floor lol

 

Maybe if you meant business he will realize he has crossed the line. Give it to him straight, in a serious low tone not to touch you again. Then knock him out of his chair lol (jk)

[shyguy3543]

As a guy with a hair fetish, I can tell you it's completely harmless. Unless it's some guy taking it to the extreme and doing things to/with your hair without your permission, there's nothing to feel creeped out about.

 

When I'm dating a girl, I can go on for hours just playing with her hair. But rubbing it on top of your head does sound kinda childish. It's probably nothing. He probably just thinks it's fun/funny and doesn't realize he's annoying you.

 

Just tell him you don't like it. If he's a good guy, he'll stop doing it.

[TunaCat]

That would drive me batcrap CRAZY and I would put a stop to it immediately.

[GemmaUK]

What you've described would be really annoying.

Moreso in that you've said you don't like it and he continues to do it.