LoveRefreshed Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 My girlfriend finally unfriend two exes that weren't over her! Feels good man, feels good. A lot of it was a direct result of communications here that allowed me to give a good explanation to my feelings Thanks guys! 2
carhill Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 Hey, good for you. Sticking up for one's boundaries can be a bit scary but once over the hump, well, regardless of the outcome, life can feel pretty good. Best of fortune in your relationships!
Blanco Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 Good to read. The older I get and more relationships I'm part of, the more I realize how key strong boundaries are for a relationship's health. I'm good friends with an ex, but that only happened after a couple years of minimal contact and ALL of the romantic feelings going away. Even then, I've been respectful of certain boundaries when she's in a relationship. My last girlfriend has been with someone a year, and though she's not the type to cheat, she doesn't have really strong boundaries in this area. She's tried to strike up a "friendship" with me several times since I disappeared, going so far as to criticize me for wanting to be a stranger to her at this time. I can only imagine what her current boyfriend would think if he found out about this. There's no real reason for us to stay connected in any way, so it would probably make him uneasy for me to be in the picture, which isn't really fair to him. Regardless of maturity, give a guy a choice between their partner being in contact with an ex or not being in contact with an ex, and they're almost certainly going to take the latter more times than not.
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