Mckarsafra Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 I always become depressed after first dates, because, particularly when it's with a girl I find attractive and interesting, I think "Based on experience, odds are I'll never see her again." One and done dates are very common in the online dating world. People have so many options, it's very easy to just audition someone then move on to the next very quickly. Last night I had a date with a girl I really liked. I was actually thinking about cancelling before I went to the bar to meet her, but I'm sorta glad I didn't. She turned out to be a really interesting person and had a great personality and the date involved kissing. After the date, I sent her a text just saying it was nice meeting her and I had fun. She replied back, saying she did to, and suggested getting together at my house to watch a film or something. I was fully prepared for her to come over that night, but she said she meant like in a few days (she said she'd let me know). I haven't texted her since last night, and I'm wondering if there's any way to keep the momentum moving without coming across as too clingy or too much too soon. I'm thinking about sending her this cute picture of my dog, since that was one of the things we talked about last night, but that might be weird. Should I just wait to hear from her? 1
zenguy Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 Pretty easy, call her in a few days to ask her out again. Save the dog pics for when you are together. 1
lilmissjava Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 Depending on the communication pattern up until the date, I would send a message in a few days; a plan with what she suggested. Only then will you know if the momentum has been established and then go from there. Realistically it still has a chance of being one and done. 1
wildsunandmoon Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 I always become depressed after first dates, because, particularly when it's with a girl I find attractive and interesting, I think "Based on experience, odds are I'll never see her again." One and done dates are very common in the online dating world. People have so many options, it's very easy to just audition someone then move on to the next very quickly. Last night I had a date with a girl I really liked. I was actually thinking about cancelling before I went to the bar to meet her, but I'm sorta glad I didn't. She turned out to be a really interesting person and had a great personality and the date involved kissing. After the date, I sent her a text just saying it was nice meeting her and I had fun. She replied back, saying she did to, and suggested getting together at my house to watch a film or something. I was fully prepared for her to come over that night, but she said she meant like in a few days (she said she'd let me know). I haven't texted her since last night, and I'm wondering if there's any way to keep the momentum moving without coming across as too clingy or too much too soon. I'm thinking about sending her this cute picture of my dog, since that was one of the things we talked about last night, but that might be weird. Should I just wait to hear from her? You are in a very good and reasonable place! Sending a photo of your dog makes sense. Keep it light and send the photo. Wait til she replies. Don't send mutilple messages. She might think it's overwhelming. Wait for he response and take it from there. Remember to pace yourself! 1
Author Mckarsafra Posted March 7, 2016 Author Posted March 7, 2016 Differing opinions on the dog text. I'll guess I'll just text her on Wednesday. Sigh, I'll be very disappointed if she doesn't want to see me again... 1
Satu Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 “Love moderately. Long love doth so. Too swift arrives as tardy as too slow." - Willian Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet.
Author Mckarsafra Posted March 9, 2016 Author Posted March 9, 2016 (edited) She said she had fun, but didn't feel any chemistry. One and done. I'm 30, guys. No girlfriend. Just a house I live in by myself. I don't see that changing the way things are going... Edited March 9, 2016 by Mckarsafra
Gershwin Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 I think you just suffered from OLD competition. She suggested meeting up again after the date so I guess between that period, someone she has higher level of interest on got in contact. At least she didn't do the slow fade. Don't give up just yet, at the same time don't make OLD your no 1 priority.
road Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 She said she had fun, but didn't feel any chemistry. One and done. I'm 30, guys. No girlfriend. Just a house I live in by myself. I don't see that changing the way things are going... Nice of her to tell you that. Her loss. Why? To be 30 and have your own house says good things about you and there are going to be a lot of attractive for you to ask out.
d0nnivain Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 She said she had fun, but didn't feel any chemistry. One and done. I'm 30, guys. No girlfriend. Just a house I live in by myself. I don't see that changing the way things are going... Some people are like that. At least with her knowing how she felt & being straightforward with you, you are not wasting your time. FWIW, I didn't meet my husband until I was 39. Not everybody falls in love in high school. Just keep plugging away. It's a law of large numbers thing. Vary the way you meet people too. In addition to OLD you have to have some way to meet people IRL. Since you have a house, is there a community association? Do you jog through the neighborhood? Who is around at local grocery store? What community activities do you participate in? Just because everyone around you is married or coupled up (assumption on my part based on neighborhood) doesn't they don't have sisters or single friends.
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