Gaeta Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 He lost all interest in the middle of that 3rd date. Him not walking you out to your taxi speaks loudly. His interest was already low but it completely died on that 3rd date. Probably when you told him you don't drive. Also when someone asked you why you liked him you didn't name anything about what he does for you. You simply spoke about your butterflies and how attractive you find him, that means there is no reasons for you to like him. Dismiss and move to next.
katiegrl Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 He lost all interest in the middle of that 3rd date. Him not walking you out to your taxi speaks loudly. His interest was already low but it completely died on that 3rd date. Probably when you told him you don't drive. Also when someone asked you why you liked him you didn't name anything about what he does for you. You simply spoke about your butterflies and how attractive you find him, that means there is no reasons for you to like him. Dismiss and move to next. Gaeta I agree ...with one clarification. It was their first date.
GR4 Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 To be fair to the guy with all the advice out there for men I can understand why maybe he isn't initiating as much. If we don't try hard enough we're uninterested, try too hard we're clingy. It's almost impossible to get it right to be honest. If you want to see him again be blunt. I wish people would stop skirting around the issue, speak your mind and the world would be a better place.
losangelena Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 To be fair to the guy with all the advice out there for men I can understand why maybe he isn't initiating as much. If we don't try hard enough we're uninterested, try too hard we're clingy. It's almost impossible to get it right to be honest. If you want to see him again be blunt. I wish people would stop skirting around the issue, speak your mind and the world would be a better place. Well ... I considered this. However, just to give a few more details. I had asked him to hang out in the city for my friend's birthday (he didn't know anyone and decided to go by himself). We spent the whole night talking. He even stayed out later than he was supposed to... This happened on February 17. He suggested I go to this gallery opening the following Sunday, February 21st. Which I did but it was cut short because I had plans to go to another show in another city. The next day, Monday, February 22, I watched a show he recommended and attempted to text him about it. After a bad attempt to joke, he did not respond to my detailed joke. I didn't talk to him for a week. I thought he had ghosted me, but friends suggested I give it another shot. So on February 29th, I kept it light and sent him a text. I suggested we grab coffee some time, which then resulted in us meeting last Wednesday, March 2nd.... Haven't heard from him since the 3rd. It was great, but I felt like I didn't make myself seem interested in him because I forgot to say I had a good time. So the following morning, I texted him to say: "Hey, D! I had fun with you yesterday. Sorry it was cut short. We should hang out again soon". Technically, she's already asked him out twice and suggested they hang out a fourth time. I think she's been pretty blunt. What more should she say? This guy just sounds disinterested, no? 1
SugarLips72 Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 If a woman has to ask a guy out, he's either a big vagina or not interested. I don't chase after men. If a guy is interested he will make it happen.
losangelena Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 If a woman has to ask a guy out, he's either a big vagina or not interested. I don't chase after men. If a guy is interested he will make it happen. Hey, that is an insult to vaginas! (jk) 1
Author wildsunandmoon Posted March 8, 2016 Author Posted March 8, 2016 To be fair to the guy with all the advice out there for men I can understand why maybe he isn't initiating as much. If we don't try hard enough we're uninterested, try too hard we're clingy. It's almost impossible to get it right to be honest. If you want to see him again be blunt. I wish people would stop skirting around the issue, speak your mind and the world would be a better place. Pretty much what KatieGrrl said.... I've made it known. I think the ball is in his court at this point.
smackie9 Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 So how are you going to play things out at that event in a couple of weeks?
Thonethatgotaway Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 I had a very good date with someone too about a month ago. We pretty much closed the restaurant down, he was shocked that we had been there that long and didnt even realize it. At the end of the date he goes text me if you want to hang out again (huh?). The conversation was very good, on my side the chemistry was mild but I was willing to go on a second date if asked. After a couple of texts exchanged after the date saying I got home safe, I texted him the next evening saying I had a good time and we should hang out again soon. Never heard from the guy again lol. I dont think anything went wrong during the date, he either didnt feel it or didnt like the idea of me texting him. Could be the case for you as well. Last Wednesday, I had a great first date with this man that I am extremely attracted to. We first met up at his place and then went to a Portugese restaurant around the block. When we were seated at the restaurant, he chose to be seated in a more secluded part where we would be able to have a conversation without yelling at each other over the crowd. We ended up chatting for 4 hours straight and lost track of time. This is where things got a little bit confusing and awkward. I had told him I had a meeting with two friends in the area around 6 PM, as an excuse to use as an exit strategy in case the date went horribly. However, it was great and I didn't want it to it, but because I told him I had plans before, he got the check. So we walked to his house and he asked how I got to his city, and I told him I paid for an Uber since I don't drive. He was shocked and felt bad that he couldn't have picked me up. He then asked me if I wanted to wait in his house while I called for my Uber driver. We sat in his kitchen, and continued to talk. It was so enjoyable. Everything flowed organically. But I was worried that I was overstaying my welcome because he didn't ask me to hang out longer since I canceled my "meeting". When my Uber arrived, he seemed reluctant to see me go. We said goodbye, hugged, he said we should hang out again and I thanked him for the meal.... He didn't walk me to the Uber car to see me off. It was great, but I felt like I didn't make myself seem interested in him because I forgot to say I had a good time. So the following morning, I texted him to say: "Hey, D! I had fun with you yesterday. Sorry it was cut short. We should hang out again soon". He replied, "Hii. Yeah yesterday was fun. Let's try to chill again soon!" I didn't reply because what else could I have said? It's been five days since that text and no word from him mentioning a second date. Actually, no word at all. My friends say give it until Sunday this week... But I can't help but feel so bummed because I actually liked this person. He was interesting. Before our first date, he met up with me at a bar for a friend's birthday (who he didn't know at all and by himself) to hang out with me all night... We then saw each other again at a Gallery because we said we'd meet up.... Everything seemed like it was going well. What's the deal? What should I do at this point?
xpaperxcutx Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 I had a very good date with someone too about a month ago. We pretty much closed the restaurant down, he was shocked that we had been there that long and didnt even realize it. At the end of the date he goes text me if you want to hang out again (huh?). The conversation was very good, on my side the chemistry was mild but I was willing to go on a second date if asked. After a couple of texts exchanged after the date saying I got home safe, I texted him the next evening saying I had a good time and we should hang out again soon. Never heard from the guy again lol. I dont think anything went wrong during the date, he either didnt feel it or didnt like the idea of me texting him. Could be the case for you as well. Wow some people are just real *******s. And I swear most men who do these are those who get bored easily.
Author wildsunandmoon Posted March 9, 2016 Author Posted March 9, 2016 So how are you going to play things out at that event in a couple of weeks? Well, it's simple really. Look hot as hell, be polite and say hello and carry on with the evening like he isn't the center of my attention. If he wants to pursue anything with me, he's going to have to work a little harder.
strawberryshortstack Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 He lost all interest in the middle of that 3rd date. Him not walking you out to your taxi speaks loudly. His interest was already low but it completely died on that 3rd date. Probably when you told him you don't drive. I'm not sure the fact that she doesn't drive is the real issue, and I hate to see this brought up so much. I know there are some areas where this is a major problem (more rural areas without good public transit), but based on her previous posts, it sounds like she's in an area where this should NOT be an issue. I'm in the same boat she is. I don't drive. Never have, probably never will. It has NEVER gotten in the way of my dating life when the guy was otherwise totally into me. There's something else going on here, and my guess is that he's just not that into her. At least not enough for a relationship to progress.
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