goodbye text

[AlexDominico]

met girl while she was studying here. been with her for around 3 month.

 

had maybe 12 dates in total. around 10 nights spent together.

 

she came to visit me once for 5 days since moving back to her country.

 

I feel like shes going to drift away from me because of the distance, I am not the best at texting and dont want to have a texting relationship as last one didnt end so well for me.

 

At the same time I am trying to emotionally stop myself from getting too attached.

 

Feel like I am fighting a losing war. Either she drifts away and I get attached, or I end up cheating on her because I dont feel shes into it that much and I am better moving on. Thats the whole problem we are very different and connection is perhaps not the best.

 

Should I just call it quits before she does or before I get emotionally invested into something that will not work?

 

Only way I see this working for me is if she comes to London for the summer and does her internship here, even though she thought about it I cant really put this ultimatum forward.

 

What the hell do I do. We are really not that close and thats whole problem. We are both slightly confused about how we feel. But at same time I feel there is great potential in future for things to be great as she has all great qualities I look for in a woman. But because of the distance I am not sure when if ever we will get that close emotionally.

[d0nnivain]

End it. You already know you are not invested enough to do the work required to hold this together.

 

 

It was just one of those things that worked when you were in proximity but didn't work enough to bridge the distance. It happens.

[justwhoiam]

We are both slightly confused about how we feel.

If that is the reality of things, then I don't see a bright future together. I'd come up with the idea of being apart for 2 weeks straight, and then talk after that time span.

In two weeks, you both would see:

1. if you missed one another

2. if you missed the other person really bad

3. if you were thinking about them all the time

4. if along the day, you constantly felt like sharing something that happened to you and you suffered knowing you couldn't

5. if you were looking forward to talking to your gf/bf really bad

[Lois_Griffin]

Long distance relationships suck under the BEST of circumstances.

 

You had what used to be fondly referred to as a 'summer romance.' Years ago, that would occur when a teenager would spend their summer away from home and ended up in a romance with someone while there, then had to eventually move back home to real life in the fall.

 

They were great while they lasted over the warm days of summer, but reality eventually steps back in during the chilly days of the fall and coming winter.

 

I'd just tuck it away as a fond memory and move on. You're at a crossroads now where you CAN do that before you get too attached and your life becomes incredibly frustrating due to the situation. Do yourself a HUGE favor and end it now.

[emi]

I think you have fear on letting yourself go and love someone fully. There is no guarantee on success on any relationship. Maybe if you think shes worth it, give it all you have and see how it go. You cant just keep wonder what if

[AlexDominico]

so I had a good thing going, then when under stress became all drama, said my girl doesnt show me enough interest, the relationship is a rebound and I want to split up. Basically worst thing I could say, as she was visiting over from another country.

 

since then I gave her few calls and tried to make things up but feel as though its just not happening. she doesnt initiate contact anymore and her replies are not that great.

 

shes shy and introvert and wont break up with someone by herself. our communication has died down and we wont see each other for 2 month. she didnt reply to my last message so I think its time to move on.

 

I do like her a lot and would like her to reconsider but feel as thought I have to take a massive step back now. She didnt respond to my last how are you text and below is what I plan to write to her as a goodbye I guess, what do you think? any improvements you can think of?

 

 

 

Okay no problem.

 

I can be hot headed at times and not think how my words can hurt. When actually I really like you, think you are intelligent and admire how you want to help other people.

 

I accept its all my fault, the way I acted was not acceptable and you will find someone much better am sure.

 

I wont disturb you anymore if its what you want. Give me a call if you change your mind.

Edited March 7, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator