tronprogram Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 So I've been dating a girl for a month and a half now and it's going pretty well. We've both been divorced/separated for about the same length of time, both have babies, and we both hate Dave Matthews Band and love Parliament and Radiohead. (And SEX.) When I started out dating before my first marriage, I had notions of what love should be like. After several breakups, I starting thinking that notion was impossible. When I met my wife, she didn't really live up to that notion but this watered-down version of it. So I settled for her (though I certainly didn't tell myself that at the time--good call on my part!). After six years, I finally realized it wasn't working and decided to exit. Now with this new girl, I'm finding myself in a relationship that's closer to my original notion after it was tempered by the reality of my first marriage. I'm a very open guy and this has me very excited. My girlfriend, God bless her, is glad I'm this happy but she's overwhelmed by how much I talk about it. And I can see her point. If the tables were turned, I'd be glad to be with someone who reciprocated with me, but after a while I'd be like, "Love ya too, babe...ugh. :rolleyes:" So how do I maybe curb my enthusiasm without feeling like I'm killing my enjoyment of the relationship? Right now, I just want to savor the way things are. It's the first time I haven't worried about trying to marry a girl right away and it's like the first 'normal' relationship I've had that wasn't rushed or long-distance or something I settled for.
lilmissjava Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 The rest of us should be so lucky. At least enjoy the ride. Sometimes the balance will come after the "new energy" surpasses.
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