Author avf Posted March 7, 2016 Author Posted March 7, 2016 I am pleasantly surprised at the number of responses and I could maybe add a little more info here... It surely is an escort/sugar daddy kinda a gig here. If i could get receipts for this I could probably expenses it ...lol. I will see how it goes and add more info here for everyone's vicarious pleasure
No_Go Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 Ugh, the way how you wrote it - I experienced it. The guy that I dated who was effectively my sugar baby started innocently like this: "Could you give me money for taxi and dinner because my ex girlfriend stole my bank card?" Slowly it turned into living in my apartment rent free, asking me to support anything from his wine to his court and medical expenses (his ex wife/sugar mama was suing him) etc etc. OP RUN. From a 'little fun' my case turned into $7000 drained in 5-6 months (they were more but I recovered a little bit by selling some stuff that I bought for my 'sugar baby' dude). That's not a dating arrangement but a scam. Hmmm ....I don't know that I'd say it's automatically a money-making scheme. The fact is, there are some women out there (and a few men actually) who just operate this way, where a relationship just means 'getting paid' in some way or other but not for the express purpose of making money. It can take a lot of different forms - monthly car payments, rent, etc. SO, my guess is that's just how she rolls. If it was more overt, like she bills you for time spent, I'd be more concerned she was essentially an escort. btw it's true that ppl who roll this way tend to have less traditional values, and she may well have a few guys she accepts 'tributes' from. Again, not with the express intent of being a service provider, just a lifestyle. But yeah I'd be a lot more concerned she's got other things going on than a conventional relationship, if that bothers you. As to how you should handle it, if you like her enough and the arrangement works for you, pay her. If not, don't. No real need for games - values notwithstanding, at least she was up-front with you about it.
salparadise Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 As to how you should handle it, if you like her enough and the arrangement works for you, pay her. If not, don't. No real need for games - values notwithstanding, at least she was up-front with you about it. No way could I play this one straight - I'd have to dangle the potential for a big payoff and let her think she's hit dating site lotto for awhile.
smackie9 Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 She was asking in a joking way probably to see if you were a nark.
Author avf Posted March 7, 2016 Author Posted March 7, 2016 She was asking in a joking way probably to see if you were a nark. Nope she asked more than once
jen1447 Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 OP it sounds like you know more than you let on originally. Is an 'allowance'/pay arrangement ok w/you?
d0nnivain Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 It surely is an escort/sugar daddy kinda a gig here. If i could get receipts for this I could probably expenses it ...lol. If you know this is what she is seeking & you are OK with it, why'd you post? As for the expense crack, I hope you are joking because I'm wracking my brain trying to figure out what business you must be in to legally & ethically justify billing your sexcapades to a business or as an above the line tax deduction. 1
Author avf Posted March 7, 2016 Author Posted March 7, 2016 BTW what is OP ? No I am definitely not that sexually hardup to have a allowance kinda relationship but I would like to sleep with her. As for the deductions...lol... I am kidding but isn't massage a therapeutic expense ?
AMJ Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 As for the expense crack, I hope you are joking because I'm wracking my brain trying to figure out what business you must be in to legally & ethically justify billing your sexcapades to a business or as an above the line tax deduction. I was wondering the same exact thing. What kind of employer lets you expense a hooker?
d0nnivain Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 BTW what is OP ? Here on LS it usually means original poster. On other sites sometimes it also means other person.
loveweary11 Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 I was wondering the same exact thing. What kind of employer lets you expense a hooker? The best damn employer you've ever had! 2
Author avf Posted March 7, 2016 Author Posted March 7, 2016 I was wondering the same exact thing. What kind of employer lets you expense a hooker? Own business
SwordofFlame Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 I was wondering the same exact thing. What kind of employer lets you expense a hooker? Finance. It's called "staff entertainment" 1
AMJ Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 Own business And how will you explain that to the IRS when you most certainly get audited?
Shining One Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 I was wondering the same exact thing. What kind of employer lets you expense a hooker?She's not a hooker. She's a "consultant". 8
frus69 Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 BTW what is OP ? No I am definitely not that sexually hardup to have a allowance kinda relationship but I would like to sleep with her? So you are going to pay and have sex with a hooker? My bad, escort I don't think she will let you have it that easy though. Don't think she will let you have one time sex and definitely not free sex
preraph Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 That's what they like to call it, anything rather than saying "Pay me for sex." Same thing though. She's going to keep wanting more, since she said allowance. It's not a one-time thing.
Author avf Posted March 7, 2016 Author Posted March 7, 2016 I'm still curious how much she's asking for. Haha...Curious ...me too she isn't quoting any numbers nor am I... Also rightly said shes a business consultant.... I am definitely not paying for sxx....don't need too 1
yxalitis Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 Can I ask one thing? Why/how did a single mom drive 100 miles to see you? Why aren't you driving to see her? or meet halfway? How did that conversation go... "OK, I'll come see you, be there in 4 hours" "Sure, drive safely" ???? Man, she just told you she's a single mum, and you just let her drive all the way to see you? I mean, that's a huge drive, the petrol cost, cost of a babysitter... Maybe she's just asking for a fair compensation for her costs? 1
frus69 Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 Can I ask one thing? Why/how did a single mom drive 100 miles to see you? Why aren't you driving to see her? or meet halfway? How did that conversation go... "OK, I'll come see you, be there in 4 hours" "Sure, drive safely" ???? Man, she just told you she's a single mum, and you just let her drive all the way to see you? I mean, that's a huge drive, the petrol cost, cost of a babysitter... Maybe she's just asking for a fair compensation for her costs? Maybe she's not a single mom and lives 100 miles away?
yxalitis Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 Maybe she's not a single mom and lives 100 miles away? Because... The date is good looking, ex model, 30 yrs and self employed single mom
yxalitis Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 People can say whatever. Isn't it called catfish? He met her, right?
ribeto Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 She's being very vague, could be a joke, could be an offer of sex for hire. You said she's a hot single mother, right? Ok let's look at YOUR history. Do you typically hotties throwing themselves at you and driving 2 hours to meet you? If so, then yeah she's probably joking around and she's really into you like all the other hotties. If this is an aberration, then face it, you're not really attracting hotties that will travel 2 hours to see you and it's all about the money. 2
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