Miss Peach Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 I think your question sounds a little boring but it shows at least you read something in the profile. Not sure why people act the way they do. But I do agree with the others to just delete, block, hide, or whatever you want to do so you don't contact her again and move on. I wouldn't contact her again because it will come off as crazy and weird.
Easyguy14 Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 I think your question sounds a little boring but it shows at least you read something in the profile. Not sure why people act the way they do. But I do agree with the others to just delete, block, hide, or whatever you want to do so you don't contact her again and move on. I wouldn't contact her again because it will come off as crazy and weird. Why does a man always have to open up a conversation with something witty and original? Why cant he ask a simple question and said lady of interest just respond in kind and let them take it from there if there is mutual attraction? Women need to stop making the possibility of dating so difficult.
truth_seeker Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 Trust me. They don't. So why waste time and energy on them when they are worthless? Would rather save it for someone worth while myself. I only speak up if the person is very rude and inconsiderate. I have my limits.
dumbass2 Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 Why does a man always have to open up a conversation with something witty and original? Why cant he ask a simple question and said lady of interest just respond in kind and let them take it from there if there is mutual attraction? Women need to stop making the possibility of dating so difficult. I agree with this in general, but the attractive women on OLD seem to get bombarded with messages, so anything you can send to set yourself apart and stand out, the better your chances. You also run the risk of trying to come off too witty or clever. It's a tough game to play online. In OP case, this girl is not someone I think he should pursue with any type of come back to her response. Even if he's witty enough with a response to get a conversation going, this girl is rude and unless he's just looking to try and hook up, he should just move on because there are plenty of other girls out there that would have responded in a positive way if attracted to his profile.
zenguy Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 The fact you are trying to think of what the next step is to win her heart is quite frankly, frightening. 1
joseb Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 (edited) Why does a man always have to open up a conversation with something witty and original? Why cant he ask a simple question and said lady of interest just respond in kind and let them take it from there if there is mutual attraction? Women need to stop making the possibility of dating so difficult. Because they get messaged a lot and you need to stand out or they will just not notice It might not be "fair" but that's the way it is. It's one of those gender divides. On the rare occasion that a girl messages me first on tinder it's almost never interesting or original. That's because they don't need to be, the fact they message at all is unusual in itself. I agree the woman in question was a bit rude, but honestly it's not even that bad. I've had far worse in real life. and I have friends who regularly get told to f#;k off after a polite hi. Edited March 7, 2016 by joseb
thecrucible Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 I agree with joseb. You can get a lot worse than this woman's response to you. As a woman I've certainly had a lot worse from men in real life. You really have to be able to have a hard enough skin and sense of perspective so you don't let the odd bad comment get to you. I would just let it go. It's a waste of time to give it any more consideration. I don't think men have to be excessively witty as long as they don't keep asking you "what you been up to?" rather than actually making any effort to get to know you....but that's another story. :/ Don't be too hard on yourself.
Author risjurad Posted March 7, 2016 Author Posted March 7, 2016 Your question was quite boring. The fact is most people don't like school, nor their job so talking about those topics when someone is online, and very possibly already bored and looking for some entertainment isn't ideal. ............. Just say a normal, "Hi, how are you?" If a girl is attracted to you then it should be all that you need. Just be yourself and have fun, don't stress so much about little stuff lol Aside though: did you just message this woman and the first thing you asked was what she's studying? That's a little lame for my taste and I'd probably not respond to a message like that personally. However, that is a side point. The main point is: this woman is rude and isn't interested in you, for any number of reasons that don't truly matter, so don't read into it...move forward. That's the world of dating on and offline. Sounds like I'm damned if do, and damned if I don't.... I do indeed want to show that I'm at least looking at their profiles. The generic stuff like "hey, how you doin'?" only seems to work in sit coms, and Joey Tribianni at that. OTOH, I don't want to make it too long... too much writing when only 2% of them will respond back. Plus, I'm sure women on OLD sites appreciate some brevity. Doesn't really seem to be the format not place to ask about 3 to 4 interests at once. This may shock some folks, but I also don't know how to talk to women online either
zenguy Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 Sounds like I'm damned if do, and damned if I don't.... I do indeed want to show that I'm at least looking at their profiles. The generic stuff like "hey, how you doin'?" only seems to work in sit coms, and Joey Tribianni at that. OTOH, I don't want to make it too long... too much writing when only 2% of them will respond back. Plus, I'm sure women on OLD sites appreciate some brevity. Doesn't really seem to be the format not place to ask about 3 to 4 interests at once. This may shock some folks, but I also don't know how to talk to women online either In OLD, keep it simple, ask them out. Leave your number, rinse, repeat. That's not to say that you shouldn't at least spit out a whole complete sentence. The goal should be to charm them over the phone and setup a date. You both have profiles and pictures for a reason. Fortune favors the bold, not the meek. 1
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