Involved with multiple, multiple women.

[gripthebottle]

Goodnight everyone. Two years ago i came on here because of a disastrous break up that left me broken hearted very badly. It was something i never thought i would bounce back from because of my struggles and life itself, it was very difficult. Now im awesome, better than ever, and now im seeking your advice again. Glad to be seeking it on a lighter note.

 

So i've been doing me for the past 2 years. Im still trying to piece myself back together as a young man because alot is missing and needs improving, but im trying. I dont even know how yo put this exactly, but im being bombarded by women now and damn its getting me tired and annoyed really. I love women, i love chilling with them and having fun. Showing them a good fun time and all that. But i dont have time for all these women, i dont want to be vain but i am a great guy, and i developed alot after my break up and now i feel completely 100%. The thing is i like meeting new people, i love it in fact. But alot if not all of the women i meet look for more with me and i do not, and i repeat i do not put myself out there in that way. lol im typing this and i am feeling like an egotistical douche.

 

Basically the problem is these women always message me to hang out and all that. I always let them know that i have no interest in relationships so i do not string them along. Even after when they invite me to go places i say i am busy, because i am alot. and a week or 2 later they message me again when theres an even coming up because they know i'll be there.

 

I have hooked up with many of them mainly sexually and nothing more, most of the time it being there idea and then they always hit me up again and again to do stuff. I just dont know what to do to lose the attention without being a dick.

 

I know alot of guys would be like this guy must be smoking some good stuff to be complaining here. Lol ik how it sounds but i was never a ladies man just recently got out my shell and doing ok..

 

I tend to ramble alot and i think i missed the point i was trying to make here by a long way. What im asking is how do i get these girls off my chest, because when i avoid them on social media they see me somewhere and rush up to me. I have put it out there that i want 0 relationships and many of them are ok with that but keep sticking to me. So idk what to do.

 

I keep thinking that im gonna have to be a dick and just start blanking them really. But thats not who i am and i could never be that way. I just am so confused lol.

 

Thanks for any advice guys. Cheers.

[Versacehottie]

I have hooked up with many of them mainly sexually and nothing more, most of the time it being there idea and then they always hit me up again and again to do stuff. I just dont know what to do to lose the attention without being a dick.

 

 

um yeah for starters, try to not do THAT (what I bolded above). That's a quick way to get a stage 5 clinger. Then you shouldn't need to blank them. Try going for distant friendly conversation with these ones.

 

Glad you are doing so well after your breakup! Am I reading it right that you don't want a girlfriend or really to be dating consistently at this time?

[preraph]

Well, this all sounds very familiar. And I'm a woman. See, you got it out of your system. Now you're getting tired of it. I've actually seen quite a few guys who had as many women as they want and started either getting specialized or started only wanting the ones who were too conservative for them only because they weren't available to them like the others were.

 

Yes, you need to clean house before it all comes down on you in the form of pregnancy. That's what happened to one of my favorite Casanovas. Everyone seemed pretty happy until one got pregnant and then everyone turned into man-eating piranas. I was one of the piranas (probably the only one not really mad at him), but I did the smart thing and left town instead of being pecked to death in the feeding frenzy surrounding him.

 

Tell the ones who could spin out of control that you are seeing someone now and have agreed to purge your smartphone and social media and stop talking to other women. Don't tell them any name if they ask. Just say "We've agreed to keep it on the downlow for now." You'll also have to block any of the ones that know each other because they'll talk. Pare it way back. Only keep the ones that definitely won't get pregnant and don't give two craps if they see you during the daytime or not, in other words, who are not hoping to lure you into a an actual relationship.

 

Then lay low for awhile because any new person, should you find one you actually might want to try dating seriously, will find your mess on social media. Let all that die all the way down, block people, spend some nights at home counting your lucky stars you had a good run with few consequences. Quit while you're ahead.

[gripthebottle]

um yeah for starters, try to not do THAT (what I bolded above). That's a quick way to get a stage 5 clinger. Then you shouldn't need to blank them. Try going for distant friendly conversation with these ones.

 

Glad you are doing so well after your breakup! Am I reading it right that you don't want a girlfriend or really to be dating consistently at this time?

 

 

I have done that. I try to keep my convos short when conversating with them.

No im enjoying being single right now. also i want to put my focus back on school and fitness and also body building. My previous relationship was really bad, i was really devastated and i was at rock bottom. Also when i was in a relationship i was unable to look after me or love myself. And this is my focus right now, taking care of myself and loving myself. And i dont want to get into anything because i dont want to hurt a girls feelings or deprive them of having a fully committed pathner.

[gripthebottle]

Well, this all sounds very familiar. And I'm a woman. See, you got it out of your system. Now you're getting tired of it. I've actually seen quite a few guys who had as many women as they want and started either getting specialized or started only wanting the ones who were too conservative for them only because they weren't available to them like the others were.

 

Yes, you need to clean house before it all comes down on you in the form of pregnancy. That's what happened to one of my favorite Casanovas. Everyone seemed pretty happy until one got pregnant and then everyone turned into man-eating piranas. I was one of the piranas (probably the only one not really mad at him), but I did the smart thing and left town instead of being pecked to death in the feeding frenzy surrounding him.

 

Tell the ones who could spin out of control that you are seeing someone now and have agreed to purge your smartphone and social media and stop talking to other women. Don't tell them any name if they ask. Just say "We've agreed to keep it on the downlow for now." You'll also have to block any of the ones that know each other because they'll talk. Pare it way back. Only keep the ones that definitely won't get pregnant and don't give two craps if they see you during the daytime or not, in other words, who are not hoping to lure you into a an actual relationship.

 

Then lay low for awhile because any new person, should you find one you actually might want to try dating seriously, will find your mess on social media. Let all that die all the way down, block people, spend some nights at home counting your lucky stars you had a good run with few consequences. Quit while you're ahead.

 

 

I really want to do these things. I dont want it to be that when a time comes and i do decide to get serious women have this idea that im a male slut. I try to keep low but because of my job and other things im out alot, also i have a situation at home which means i really am home just to sleep and chill with my mother a bit and leave.

 

I have no idea how this all came about really. Like right now. Its sunday. I gotta go to work tomorrow and 6 or 7 girls have asked me out. I just turned off my phone. I've created some great friendships with some girls and i keep in contact with them because we have good connections and nothing romantic.

 

So im gonna have to pretty much ignore the rest.

[Versacehottie]

I have done that. I try to keep my convos short when conversating with them.

No im enjoying being single right now. also i want to put my focus back on school and fitness and also body building. My previous relationship was really bad, i was really devastated and i was at rock bottom. Also when i was in a relationship i was unable to look after me or love myself. And this is my focus right now, taking care of myself and loving myself. And i dont want to get into anything because i dont want to hurt a girls feelings or deprive them of having a fully committed pathner.

 

Fair enough.

 

I was talking about the sleeping with them/having sex with them part though. If you are trying to avoid them or talk very little to them AFTER sex it's already too late. If you don't sleep with them at all, you should reduce at least a good percentage of these clingers. if you don't want a relationship and want to focus on yourself without the hassle that this brings, this would be a solid step in that direction.

[gripthebottle]

Fair enough.

 

I was talking about the sleeping with them/having sex with them part though. If you are trying to avoid them or talk very little to them AFTER sex it's already too late. If you don't sleep with them at all, you should reduce at least a good percentage of these clingers. if you don't want a relationship and want to focus on yourself without the hassle that this brings, this would be a solid step in that direction.

 

I really and truly have. I havent even had sex this year

Just to avoid these things and clinginess from hapenning. I upload some pics on ig or anything and strange women and girls from wayyyy back just pop up at places where im at. I dont exclude info like when im going to certain events, and i see them there and they are always in close proximity to me. Because of that i only hang out with a few of my very close guy friends or my older cousins.

 

Funny thing is i never had this attention. When i was in a relationship i never really got it, my ex gf didnt even pay much attention to me. Now its just crazy. Im sure if i unblock my ex she'll start hitting me up because she messaged me a few times lately with stupid breadcrumbs which i have completely ignored.