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So, yes I did. I thought direct touching from men was prohibited in full nudity clubs? Anyway, I spend about $80 and walked away with a few lessons. First of all, the girls looked all the same, appeared to be uninspired and the vibe was pathetic. There was one dude there that really got my attention. Nothing to look at, but he got a lot of attention because he was tipping hardcore. Is there anything real left out there relationship-wise? Because I'm not thinking so. Food for thought. Go for your comments!

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Interesting... So there were male and female strippers?

 

The thing I can appreciate about strippers is that they are bold enough to be transparent about wanting lots of attention from the opposite sex and getting money for it in the process.

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So, yes I did. I thought direct touching from men was prohibited in full nudity clubs? Anyway, I spend about $80 and walked away with a few lessons. First of all, the girls looked all the same, appeared to be uninspired and the vibe was pathetic. There was one dude there that really got my attention. Nothing to look at, but he got a lot of attention because he was tipping hardcore. Is there anything real left out there relationship-wise? Because I'm not thinking so. Food for thought. Go for your comments!

 

 

 

I was very intrigued upon reading the title of your thread...

 

but it was a let-down in terms of how little detail you seemed to share/observe.

 

 

If you really went there to observe men, you should've been able to come away with more than you offered.

 

 

And I can't fathom how you connected stuff you saw at a strip club with relationships.

 

 

You would have been (at least $80) better off if sitting in your car at 2:30... or 4:00 am in the parking lot of the same club, if indeed you wanted to study 'relationships' (just not much better off)

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Believe it or not, strip clubs are not our natural habitat! Also, how did you go through $80 at a strip club?

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Believe it or not, strip clubs are not our natural habitat! Also, how did you go through $80 at a strip club?

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Well, thank you. And the reason I went through $80? It was $20 just to get in, I bought a lap dance, and I'm a good tipper. I was only there for 1/2 hour.

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You would have been (at least $80) better off if sitting in your car at 2:30... or 4:00 am in the parking lot of the same club, if indeed you wanted to study 'relationships' (just not much better off)

 

Why? What happens in strip club parking lots in the middle of the night? I honestly don't know.

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So, what did you learn about men?

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So, what did you learn about men?

 

It was pretty empty in that club when I was there. It was after a round of golf I played with a friend. The one dude I was fixated on was, like, in a trance when a random scantily-clad chick would sit on his lap. He disappeared twice into the back for a private whatever-they-do. For money. To answer your question, I guess it's all about the cash for the chicks. But the fixation look on that dude's face the whole time? I don't know. Parts are parts. I guess the other thing I learned is, bring wipes.

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You picked a very strange place to study men. Your choice says a lot more about you then them.

 

 

Why did you go to a strip club instead of a sporting event? a church? a regular bar? What was wrong with studying men on the golf course you played?

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You picked a very strange place to study men. Your choice says a lot more about you then them.

 

 

Why did you go to a strip club instead of a sporting event? a church? a regular bar? What was wrong with studying men on the golf course you played?

 

I had just participated in a "sporting event" (I played in a golf tournament). And had been at a "regular bar" before going there. My choice was varied, to say the least. And I got a male's perspective about what it is that make them tick. And, seriously? I walked away knowing that strip clubs aren't the answer. It DOES say a lot more about me than them. At least I was willing to explore the extracurricular element. Because the human condition is complicated.

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"Is there anything real left out there relationship-wise?"

 

I've been wondering the same thing myself. I was just doing some research online today about rising rates in infidelity and its connection to things like Snapchat, Ashley Madison, SMS Blackbook, etc... I also see less and less evidence of LTRs that last and work, and more and more about sneaking around and broken hearts. My last two LTR attempts in the last year both resulted in the woman cheating or planning to cheat and I caught her. Prior to that, I haven't been cheated on since I was a teenager. To put it lightly, I am not very optimistic about the direction North America is heading in at all.

 

As for strip clubs...

 

As a guy, I don't think strip clubs are anything close to impressing a good observation of men. I have been to a strip club once with my father for my 21st birthday. The scene was pretty much as you described it - uninspiring and with a lot left to desire. I couldn't (and still don't) understand the appeal. I can usually get real mutual interest with women for free. It has been 11 years and I've never once had the desire to go back.

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You are correct in your analysis of relationships. And it's gotten so much easier to cheat with the advent of the internet. So many temptations in front of a computer screen and right at the end of the fingertips.

 

Yeah, I'm done with my own analysis about the whole strip club thing. The guy who was dropping the most money that night looked really pathetic to me. I know it's all based on fantasy, but I pictured him going home alone feeling empty and unfulfilled, with a lighter wallet. The money, in my opinion, would have been better off going to charity. But to each, their own. If those chicks have to eek out a living in that industry, so be it. And they are probably laughing all the way to the bank.

 

Thanks for your input!

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You are correct in your analysis of relationships. And it's gotten so much easier to cheat with the advent of the internet. So many temptations in front of a computer screen and right at the end of the fingertips.

 

Yeah, I'm done with my own analysis about the whole strip club thing. The guy who was dropping the most money that night looked really pathetic to me. I know it's all based on fantasy, but I pictured him going home alone feeling empty and unfulfilled, with a lighter wallet. The money, in my opinion, would have been better off going to charity. But to each, their own. If those chicks have to eek out a living in that industry, so be it. And they are probably laughing all the way to the bank.

 

Thanks for your input!

 

And one more thought...

 

That end-of-night emptiness you alluded to exists equally among all the technology [users] of the world. Everything becomes about chasing the high, the next new thing/person, and feeling unfulfilled long-term that nothing produces lasting satisfaction. Always a need to be fulfilled.

 

I see the technology/social issue becoming a massive cultural problem in ways we can't fully imagine right now. We're only seeing the beginning of it. My fantasy is that a future generation will revolt like all generations do, and authentic communication will be revered in a new light. A lot remains to be seen though. Until people start taking action and choosing to behave differently, the best we'll get is people like you and me complaining on a forum.

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If you're looking to study men in regards to relationships, might I suggest going to a coffee shop? You'll find a whole range of people being on first dates, to people that have been married 50+ years. As Grumpybutfun stated, that's not a man's "natural habitat". You're observing guys that are so drunk off their ass they wouldn't act the same way sober. I can personally attest to this, when I turned 21 my uncles took me to a strip club and I almost got thrown out... actions I would never do sober.

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Meh.

 

She could study men for the rest of her life and never figure us out.

 

Just like we'll never figure out women. I gave up a long time ago. Learned to appreciate individuals rather than trying to figure out ways in which all women were alike.

 

We're not monolithic. We do things for different reasons. Respond to situations differently. Have different beliefs and values. So on and so forth.

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Study us ? Wth for ?

 

1. We want food

2. We want sex

3. We want not to be lied to

4. We want money (just like girls do)

5. We want our women not to be screwing other men

6. We want to be willing to share our money if we like you

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You picked a very strange place to study men. Your choice says a lot more about you then them.

 

 

Why did you go to a strip club instead of a sporting event? a church? a regular bar? What was wrong with studying men on the golf course you played?

 

Just like your post says a lot about you then any other in the forums :bunny:

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Study us ? Wth for ?

 

1. We want food

2. We want sex

3. We want not to be lied to

4. We want money (just like girls do)

5. We want our women not to be screwing other men

6. We want to be willing to share our money if we like you

 

We want the same things, darling. But why is it that nude male strip clubs are not the equivalent? It was just a case study.

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We want the same things, darling. But why is it that nude male strip clubs are not the equivalent? It was just a case study.

 

Case study?

 

Then your sample size may be too small. I don't think it's possible to extrapolate any accurate conclusions about male behavior from observations of a few men in a strip club.

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We want the same things too, darling. But why is it that there are not male nude strip clubs to be the equivalent? It was just a case study.

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Case study?

 

Then your sample size may be too small. I don't think it's possible to extrapolate any accurate conclusions about male behavior from observations of a few men in a strip club.

 

Fair enough.

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I can assure that you and I don't want the same thing.

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I was referring to the post of lostmyway82. I can assure you that I have had an insight into a lot of really truthful male input as a result of being on this forum. Not used to that. It's all good.

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I was referring to the post of lostmyway82. I can assure you that I have had an insight into a lot of really truthful male input as a result of being on this forum. Not used to that. It's all good.

 

If you had a lot of really truthful male input then you wouldn't be here posting and you wouldn't be visiting stripclubs with the lamest excuse of trying to understand men. It would be like going to strip clubs with the excuse of trying to understand women.

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If you had a lot of really truthful male input then you wouldn't be here posting and you wouldn't be visiting stripclubs with the lamest excuse of trying to understand men. It would be like going to strip clubs with the excuse of trying to understand women.

 

I not really sure what your point is. But thanks anyway. :bunny:

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