healthyhopes Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 So I got very attached to a fwb, and when he said he didn't return feelings, I broke it off. Afterwards, after I healed quite a bit, I became much more confident and found myself making friends quickly. I find that after break ups, I expand my social networks and become much more extroverted, in an attempt to heal. Some of the friends I made were also friends with the ex fwb as it turns out. In some parts this initially started as indirect contact, I must admit, it ended up that I actually really like all of these people. Lately, I find myself getting deeper and deeper into his social bubble, as I meet more and more friends through these friends. At this point, I do not wish to contact him anymore, ever again. When I see him I am cold and indifferent. However, I am worried that this might come across as weird. If someone had caught feelings for me, and I didn't reciprocate it, and then months later I was friends many of their friends, I would be slightly squicked out... (or perhaps that's just how I see it now?) Yesterday, there was a party at my friend's house, and I was invited to go. My ex fwb was also there. I was hesitant about going at first because of this, but knew that I would be 1000% fine in this situation. I would also be showing up with a date of mine, and many other friends. Last minute, the friend (who's party it was) told me not to come, and said that one of the kids didn't want me there. He told me no other information, and though I asked, he hasn't answered any of his texts. It's been a couple of hours. I don't want to stop talking to the friends I already made, and really I shouldn't be thinking about him at all at this point, but now I am worried that I am infringing upon something that I shouldn't. Once again, it is true that I branched out at first because I wanted to violate no contact, but at this point, this is not the case at all and all of these individuals, minus the ex fwb, are actually my friends.
Simon Phoenix Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 Two things: 1. If you want to keep some of these friends, hang out with them in situations where he's not around and don't bring him up at all. 2. Make more friends that have no connection to him. There's absolutely no downside to this. It's good to diversify your social circles.
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