The guy I like doesn't have money, what can I do?

[Lucia16]

I really like him but whenever I say to him that we can go to some place he seems exciting but then he says "I will tell you if I can go because right now I don't have money" which is rare because he was the one showing interested on me and asking me out.

 

He is 20 years old and goes to university. He told me that he will find a job but I am thinking that maybe is an excuse because he doesn't want to go out with me.

 

I also go to college and I have a job. I don't want him to pay everything for me but also don't want to be too pushy.

[Shanex]

He is a broke student and its understandable. .. he need to get another job. How does he spend the few bucks he has already though?

He isnt a bum and has to purshase food and goods like everybody and a date hasn't to be pricey all the time. Coffee or other drinks aren't $25.

Or he is a cheapskate.

Edited March 6, 2016 by Shanex

[basil67]

If he wanted to go out with you, he'd join you when you suggest affordable or free excursions. Or he'd suggest them himself.

 

What does he say when you suggest a picnic?

[todreaminblue]

there are many free dates......or next to nothing dates...picnics...beach walks, river walks....creek walks.....shell collecting ..... bush walks ...feed the ducks in a park somewhere...free movies...drive in movies .check out your local go to guide.....botanical gardens to visit or museums or art galleries that offer gold coin donation entry.....planetariums...libraries often have free classes and readings which are fun..maybe my choices are a bit geeky but i am sure you can find something for next to nothing anywhere with a bit of research...find out if it is a money thing by offering to go somewhere free or close to free.....good luck...deb

[Lucia16]

If he wanted to go out with you, he'd join you when you suggest affordable or free excursions. Or he'd suggest them himself.

 

What does he say when you suggest a picnic?

 

I have not suggested to him anything. I just told him "we can go out this saturday" Because he was the first in asked me out.

 

I think that for some reason he thinks that he will have to pay for both. Is not the case.

[d0nnivain]

Some men measure their own value by their wallets. If he isn't proud of his current situation he may be resultant to start anything.

 

 

If you want to go out with him offer to treat him. You will get your answer about how he feels about you.

[ff12343]

If you want to go out with him offer to treat him. You will get your answer about how he feels about you.

 

This is spot on. Don't put your time on hold if he makes an excuse after this attempt.

[hippychick3]

He's a 20 year old broke college student. He shouldn't be paying for anyone at this stage in his life but may feel like he should. If you want to find out if his hesitation is about you or money, suggest something that costs nothing (concert in the park, picnic, walk on beach, or any other free events on campus).

[mrs rubble]

I have not suggested to him anything. I just told him "we can go out this saturday" Because he was the first in asked me out.

 

I think that for some reason he thinks that he will have to pay for both. Is not the case.

You need to tell him this.

[five2nine]

You can split with him or he treats one time, then you treat the next time. Repeat

[angel.eyes]

When someone wants to date you, they find a way to make it happen. When they don't really care, the excuses flow like lava from an active volcano--too busy, etc. As others have pointed out, there are lots of dating activities that are free.

 

Let him be. Keep looking. You'll find another student who will be excited to date you.

[preraph]

If you're sure he's trying to date you, then he's just broke. If he's not actually interested in you, then he's just not dating you.