Has your relationship changed you ?

[mikeylo]

Either in good or bad way ?

 

Have your likes,dislikes changed just because your SO liked or disliked something? Has your personality changed ? Did you make an effort to change or being with them has changed you? Do you resent them for having to change 'for them ' or grateful that they made you realize?

 

Do you feel you are a different person than you were before and feel stifled ?

 

For me, I married young.I was a happy go lucky with nothing going on for me when I met my now wife. I have become more responsible , caring, sympathetic, loving , ready to sacrifice for her. We both always had similar personalities so that didnt get affected.

 

I was always bad at expressing myself, which I still am ( the gist of my thread says it ! ). She loves talking and I dont mind sitting and listening to her days rant

[d0nnivain]

My husband has made me a calmer quieter person.

 

 

I have opened him up more & broadened his horizons.

 

 

All of my EXs taught me something. Everyone who comes into your life has some impact on it.

[cocorico]

Either in good or bad way ?

 

Have your likes,dislikes changed just because your SO liked or disliked something? Has your personality changed ? Did you make an effort to change or being with them has changed you? Do you resent them for having to change 'for them ' or grateful that they made you realize?

 

Do you feel you are a different person than you were before and feel stifled ?

 

For me, I married young.I was a happy go lucky with nothing going on for me when I met my now wife. I have become more responsible , caring, sympathetic, loving , ready to sacrifice for her. We both always had similar personalities so that didnt get affected.

 

I was always bad at expressing myself, which I still am ( the gist of my thread says it ! ). She loves talking and I dont mind sitting and listening to her days rant

 

I have changed considerably. I am much more trusting, much more relaxed, much less stressed. I have had to revisit some of my pet prejudices (I used to hate English people, white people, middle class people. Now, it's just *some* of those...) and drive without road rage. I learned the value of family, and I've learned to relax my fierce sense of independence.

[Mrs. John Adams]

Life changes you.... Every thing that happens changes you. Sometimes for the better ... Sometimes not.

 

I am a different person now at almost 61 than I certainly was at barely 17 when I married. My basic characteristics are the same....who I am deep inside is probably the same. But my ideas, my goals, my perceptions, those have all changed.

 

John and I are very different people ... But through these past almost 44 years .. We have moved toward each other...

 

What was once important in our early years... Raising a family... Careers... Is not so important anymore. Spending time together is our goal... Preparing for retirement... Planning our golden years.

 

Yes ... I have changed... And those changes have made me a better person.... A wiser person... A more compassionate person.

 

I would not go back again ... I would not change the things I have done except for one thing... I would not have committed adultery at age 28. That one act changed my life more than anything else...

And it also changed johns life.

 

In spite of it... We are happy.

[TX-SC]

I have fundamentally stayed the same but I have adapted to being with my wife and to having kids. I have also matured quite a bit, but that is to be expected.

[dichotomy]

In ways good and kind of bad.

 

On the good side I finally talked a major emotional wound I had been carrying for years. That was huge. I also am more adventuresome, open to new things and ideas and ways of thinking. I am also less judgmental.

 

On the negative side (but also good I guess) I am less idealistic about romance and true love - sex, and soul mates. I don't have as high of standards - less a boy scout - on something I guess.

 

Its (life) complicated - thats what I have learned.