cassandra1997 Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 I am freshman in college. I am 18 and I am taking biology. My professor for the spring semester is in his mid-fifties and divorced. First of all he is really cute in my opinion. He's over six feet, very athletic, broad shouldered, full hair of (mostly grey) hair, blue eyes, really nice big hands. Also he's very intelligent, mature and funny. I've gone to his office a few times and he's really a gentlemen. Also, he's very close to his three young children and sees them weekly. He has photos all over his office. I am really having strong feelings for him. What am I supposed to do with this? I just don't feel like dating anyone else although I get plenty of offers.
azyzz Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 you are crazy , this is wrong , this will not end well. 1
truth_seeker Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 I wish I was your professor. After class spankings would be in order. 1
CarrieT Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 I am really having strong feelings for him. What am I supposed to do with this? I just don't feel like dating anyone else although I get plenty of offers. You do NOTHING. These feelings will pass. You have to understand that this happens to professors every semester. There is always someone crushing on them. Please also understand that doing something with you could cost him his job. Suck it up through the course of taking the class and don't take a class with him again. 3
ExpatInItaly Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 You don't do anything. You have a crush. It will pass. Nothing good can come of this, for many reasons. 1
whichwayisup Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 I am freshman in college. I am 18 and I am taking biology. My professor for the spring semester is in his mid-fifties and divorced. First of all he is really cute in my opinion. He's over six feet, very athletic, broad shouldered, full hair of (mostly grey) hair, blue eyes, really nice big hands. Also he's very intelligent, mature and funny. I've gone to his office a few times and he's really a gentlemen. Also, he's very close to his three young children and sees them weekly. He has photos all over his office. I am really having strong feelings for him. What am I supposed to do with this? I just don't feel like dating anyone else although I get plenty of offers. He's your teacher, a professor and much much older than you. He isn't going to allow anything to happen between you two and ruin his professional life because you may feed his ego (if he is aware you want him and are crushing on him.) If you are into older guys, fine it's your taste just don't go after ones who are in a position of power and who is your teacher! Date other guys, have fun. This prof isn't worth your time. Enjoy the crush for what it is and do NOT let yourself fall for him or get emotionally attached. If you can't do that, switch classes and get help so you can get over him. 1
Author cassandra1997 Posted March 6, 2016 Author Posted March 6, 2016 I wonder how many girls in college find themselves with this type of problem. I feel like he's a MAN not a boy!
smackie9 Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 Enjoy your fantasy my dear because that is all it will ever be. You are only 18, and 18 year olds don't know how the adult world works. He is a mature man with a mature life, with mature thinking. There is no room for an 18 year old. Mature men want mature women that are in the same place in their life. To him you are a child, and he will have no interest in you, that is the reality of it. I'm sure you are not the first or will be the last to have a crush on him. It's just part of the job. You best investment for your life's goals is to focus on your lessons. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 I wonder how many girls in college find themselves with this type of problem. I feel like he's a MAN not a boy! True, and that is one of the reasons it probably wouldn't ever work. You're still a teenager, barely an adult yourself. He is old enough to be your dad. You're in entirely different phases of your life and you can't fool yourself into thinking this wouldn't spell trouble. Be young and have fun. Your crush on him will pass sooner or later. 1
smackie9 Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 Tip: You need to realize in life it's not all about you and your wants....I know it's difficult but you have to consider what their wants and needs are first before making a decision. Have a good think. 1
Author cassandra1997 Posted March 6, 2016 Author Posted March 6, 2016 He is just about exactly my father's age, which is why it seems weird to be attracted to him. But he just doesn't seem OLD. He's not grumpy, fat, bald. He's smart, he knows about things I'm interested in. He's fun and funny. He's strong and active. He jogs everyday. It's like he's mature, not old. He's young/old. If that makes any sense. It's confusing.
katiegrl Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 True, and that is one of the reasons it probably wouldn't ever work. You're still a teenager, barely an adult yourself. He is old enough to be your dad. You're in entirely different phases of your life and you can't fool yourself into thinking this wouldn't spell trouble. Be young and have fun. Your crush on him will pass sooner or later. Actually, he is old enough to be her GRAND-DAD! Ick.
Author cassandra1997 Posted March 6, 2016 Author Posted March 6, 2016 Not really, but he is my dad's age. But he's not like my dad or my dad's friends. He's older but hot.
elaine567 Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 . He is old enough to be your dad. He's mid fifties, he's old enough to be her grand-dad. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 Lots of teen girls crush on older men. It's not uncommon. However your crush is your crush. Your professor does not feel the same way about you. He's kind to you because he thinks you are a student interested in his subject. He wants to open your mind; that is his profession. If he knew you had a crush he would run away from you. What you do in the meantime is enjoy the fantasy but nothing more. Never tell him & stop going to his office. Seek out the TA or get a tutor if you need help.
Easyguy14 Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 I am freshman in college. I am 18 and I am taking biology. My professor for the spring semester is in his mid-fifties and divorced. First of all he is really cute in my opinion. He's over six feet, very athletic, broad shouldered, full hair of (mostly grey) hair, blue eyes, really nice big hands. Also he's very intelligent, mature and funny. I've gone to his office a few times and he's really a gentlemen. Also, he's very close to his three young children and sees them weekly. He has photos all over his office. I am really having strong feelings for him. What am I supposed to do with this? I just don't feel like dating anyone else although I get plenty of offers. It always sort of irks me hearing about such young girls wanting to be with much older men. A few years like 5-10 difference is okay but 25-35 years is asking for trouble in my opinion because there won't be much in common for things to work out for the long haul, unless both parties agree to a physical relationship only. I wonder why OP isn't accepting offers from other parties?
CarrieT Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 I wonder how many girls in college find themselves with this type of problem. We see several dozen threads like this every year, at the beginning of each semester. You have no idea.... :lmao: 5
katiegrl Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 (edited) Not really, but he is my dad's age. But he's not like my dad or my dad's friends. He's older but hot. No he is. Just cuz your dad is his age, HE is still old enough to be your grandfather. You say you are 18....and he is mid 50s? 55-56? That is 37-38 years older than you, and hypothetically, if he had his first kid at your age, and his kid had his/her first kid at your age, or even 19 or 20...then he's a grand-dad at 56! But he's *hot* so have it with a guy old enough to be your grandfather. In ten years, you will be a young vibrant young lady, and he will be collecting social security! Have fun! Lol Edited March 6, 2016 by katiegrl
NYC-BigKat Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 I am freshman in college. I am 18 and I am taking biology. My professor for the spring semester is in his mid-fifties and divorced. First of all he is really cute in my opinion. He's over six feet, very athletic, broad shouldered, full hair of (mostly grey) hair, blue eyes, really nice big hands. Also he's very intelligent, mature and funny. I've gone to his office a few times and he's really a gentlemen. Also, he's very close to his three young children and sees them weekly. He has photos all over his office. I am really having strong feelings for him. What am I supposed to do with this? I just don't feel like dating anyone else although I get plenty of offers. Um...you'r 18 so u can date anyone u want. I know lots & lots of people on here don't like what u want to do but don't listen to them. If u can just wait til after session has ended u can talk to him & see what happens.
sandylee1 Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 Do nothing at all. He will get into trouble if anything happens... it's against the rules for staff and students to have a relationship in most educational establishments.
d0nnivain Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 Um...you'r 18 so u can date anyone u want. I know lots & lots of people on here don't like what u want to do but don't listen to them. If u can just wait til after session has ended u can talk to him & see what happens. It doesn't matter that the semester is over. As long as the OP is enrolled as a student at the institution where the professor teaches he will lose his job if he dates her. It's also not a matter of who she wants to date. The other person has to want to date her too. It's highly unlikely that her professor sees her in a romantic way. To him she is a student & a child.
Author cassandra1997 Posted March 6, 2016 Author Posted March 6, 2016 He might feel the same way. How can I tell? And we are both single adults! My grandfather is about 80.
ExpatInItaly Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 He might feel the same way. How can I tell? And we are both single adults! My grandfather is about 80. Regardless of the age gap, he is your professor. It is very unlikely he would be willing to compromise his position for you. What on earth gives you the impression he might feel the same way? And how do you know he's not dating someone else, anyway? You're basically a kid to him. I can promise he doesn't look at you as an adult within his dating pool.
deep_night Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 lol at the grandpa arguments i think its ok to have a crush on him, its even a motivation to go to class and do well in exams. BUT... he's your professor. he's in a position of power over you, and even if he liked you romantically he wouldn't act on it. what i recommend for you is to keep a good ACADEMIC relationship with him... and once you graduate, hang out with him. it's only 3 more years. i know its not a practical solution and not for the impatient, but that's all that's possible really. 1
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 I wonder how many girls in college find themselves with this type of problem. I feel like he's a MAN not a boy! Lots and LOTS of college underclasswomen find themselves in the same spot. Luckily something/someone else usually flies across their peripheral vision and they become distracted elsewhere. It's SO normal, and right at the time when you are feeling/finding yourself in the seeming "adult world" all of a sudden too. It really is a numbers game - for all that professor has to do is SEEM like a decent and confident guy and SOME small percentage of the young women in his classes will take to him a great deal. He is free to contemplate the pluses and minuses from indulging in such opportunities, but hopefully by now he has become convinced of how much risk is entailed. You're going to have SO MANY other (and better) opportunities over time... and perhaps even over your college career. But isn't it fun to imagine...?? 1
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