qwe123 Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 (edited) Well here goes... thinking this through isn't doing me any good but i guess its helping me get over it a little bit. Basically i used to get messaged by one my mates sisters while i was seeing some one else and she would be flirty and a little suggestive but i thought nothing off it but i finally agreed to the date she wanted. After a few dates i thought she was alright but just wasn't that much in to her. We both had online dating accounts back then and had agreed to delete them and after three weeks she asked me my thoughts on a relationship with her but i just put it off cause i thought Woah i don't think i like her way too quick i cant just use some one who i will see again at points in my life. We used to snuggle up in her room as well and watch films but felt a little awkward as she lived at home and parents room was just next store. I went on many more dates for 5 or 6 weeks but she talked about her ex a lot and how he treated her and i thought she wasn't over him so didn't want to just use her so we didn't go out again for a couple of week until she messaged me saying shed missed me. Problem was my mate kept saying she didn't think of us more then mates but was just using me and i shouldn't go back and it seemed all the family kept asking us how we were getting on and interfering but i decided i would as i was actually enjoying just going out with her. Anyway we saw each other maybe once or twice a week for another 6 weeks or so but then after not seeing each other for a while and me going on a date with some one else in-between she started texting me saying stuff about going for romantic meals and what did i want from her and she's really missed me and i seemed uninterested in her and now I'm hanging out with other women instead. so i saw her the other day and realised for the first time that somehow id fallen in love with her and so told her and she said she loved me too but that she saw us just as friends now and didn't want to ruin our friendship just days after seeming jealous? I don't think i can stay in communication with her as just friends thought as it will kill me when she finds some one else even thought i know ill see her at points again in my life no matter what. Is this just a case of i didn't realise what i wanted till it was too late and i should just take the time to get over her cause its now a no hoper? Edited March 6, 2016 by qwe123
Author qwe123 Posted March 7, 2016 Author Posted March 7, 2016 When were you in a relationship last? I broke it off with some one just a couple of weeks before i took her out as she used to message me when i was with her but i was with this person only about 5months
angel.eyes Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 You both seem to be on the rebound. So many mind games too! Nothing healthy will come of this. 1
AMJ Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 It's not too late at all. You both just keep missing each other on timing. You can fix this. She wants to be friends because she can't deal with you bouncing back in and out of being romantic and then friends. You're all over the place, she's been interested in you from the start.
smackie9 Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 Jealousy doesn't always mean romantic interest, it can also mean being possessive. She had already tossed you into the friends zone. Your friend had it right she used you. You were her sympathetic ear, someone to lean on, and someone to take away the loneliness.
Author qwe123 Posted March 8, 2016 Author Posted March 8, 2016 Jealousy doesn't always mean romantic interest, it can also mean being possessive. She had already tossed you into the friends zone. Your friend had it right she used you. You were her sympathetic ear, someone to lean on, and someone to take away the loneliness. After a few days away from her to clear my head and think things through i believe this couldn't be more right! She used me and every time she thought i was drifting away she pulled me back in by giving me false hope until the point i told her how shed made me fall for her the crushed me but wanted to remain friends just to fill the void! Live and learn.
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