ff12343 Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 Since I'm bored, i'll figure to ask this one. Applies to both genders. Lets say personality is so/so and face is GORGEOUS but voice is not up to par. Just doesn't do it for you. Would that make you re-consider? Let's say super model status physically here.
almond Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 If their voice stops me from being attracted to them, then yes, it's a dealbreaker. Otherwise, no. 1
Ferret Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 Sure some voices are more attractive then others but its not always the cookie cutter ones...I once had a male friend who had a "radio quality voice" dudes voice was pure silk my gfs would swoon over it. End of the day however it didn't do much for me truthfully I rather like my bfs geeky voice over his...matter of fact if I had to blindly pick between them on the voice alone even before we got together I would also have gone for my bfs I guess to me his is just unique..so I think no the voice itself would not be a deciding factor.
Author ff12343 Posted March 6, 2016 Author Posted March 6, 2016 In severe cases... yea but its fake. its a skit. But i understand what you're saying lol.
mrs rubble Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 I've never thought about until now, but my fiancé has a really sexy friendly voice and was a big part of my attraction to him. One of my workmates has given me a hard time over "my sexy telephone voice" for years- she reckons I missed my calling!! Your questions answers mine!! Haha! Previous boyfriend had a terrible voice but stunning looks, current fiancé gorgeous voice- I'm sold!
Author ff12343 Posted March 6, 2016 Author Posted March 6, 2016 (edited) I've never thought about until now, but my fiancé has a really sexy friendly voice and was a big part of my attraction to him. One of my workmates has given me a hard time over "my sexy telephone voice" for years- she reckons I missed my calling!! Your questions answers mine!! Haha! Previous boyfriend had a terrible voice but stunning looks, current fiancé gorgeous voice- I'm sold! Haha that's funny. Edited March 6, 2016 by ff12343
Taramere Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 yea but its fake. its a skit. But i understand what you're saying lol. I know it's an old comedy skit, but it's pretty brilliant all the same. 1
elaine567 Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 The "voice" may actually explain why some find it difficult to find dates, even if they are good on paper, are not particularly ugly and have no obvious bad personality traits. Odd voices are often not really tolerated well. Squeaky high male voices or gruff low female voices are often not seen as attractive, nor are the voices of people who sound permanently angry or anxious. Annoying voices are well just "annoying". Voices that are too "posh" or too "common" can define a person and so can rule them out as dating material. Unintelligible speech due to dialects can be off-putting too. Voices are important as part of the whole package and can quite easily be deal breakers.
TX-SC Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 Not really. I can get accustomed to just about any voice. I will admit I am much more comfortable around, and prefer, southern accents over any other regional accent. But it wouldn't be a deal breaker. Fran Drescher's voice might be a deal breaker, but not too many others.
normal person Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 A voice can do a lot to affect your perceptions of a person. It reminds me of this: I once went out with a girl who I couldn't say a bad word about, but she had a squeaky little voice that made her sound like a 9 year old. It didn't sit well with me. So yes, it was a dealbreaker. If you can't stand the sound of someone's voice, you're going to have problems. On the other hand, I think the comic Iliza Schlesinger is about as close to perfection as you can get, and she has a deep, guttural, voice which is totally incongruous to her appearance and it certainly doesn't bother me, it might even endear her to me more. I used to like certain accents but as I get older I'm just more concerned about the ability to express and articulate.
CarrieT Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 Absolutely. When I was doing a lot of OLD, I started a convo with a guy who was the Fire Fighting Chief. He had lots of patents for firefighting equipment, was an instructor at university, and was a Dom on top of being incredibly bright and very handsome - online... Then we decided to talk on the phone and I heard this high, squeaky voice that did not match the macho, Dominant fire fighter I had been talking with. Totally ended it right there. 2
WaitingForBardot Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 ... Fran Drescher's voice might be a deal breaker, but not too many others. OMG, I love Fran Drescher's voice! Not quite as much as Jennifer Tilly, but we can't all have her voice, ne? 2
Rejected Rosebud Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 If I am not drawn in by a person's voice, then the whole attraction thing is just not happening. I'm not saying it's specifically a "deal breaker," it's just an important part of the whole person like the way they smell is.
jen1447 Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 If it's an extremely goofy voice or just doesn't fit the personality/image/type, yeah. Likewise tho a really sexy voice can make only mildly attractive ppl more attractive. But otherwise, big-picture range where most ppl fall into, it won't have much effect ultimately. I think there's a big difference between tonal quality and accent btw. An accent - or how much you push it specifically - is moreso elective and can be an indication of unattractive personality traits more than just the audio dynamics of your vocal chords and your diaphragm.
preraph Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 I had a friend once with a high squeaky voice that just worked my nerves. I'm a female, so unlikey to become a problem for me. But I know that some voices have a meaning behind them. They're affected by psychological issues. The squeaky girl came from a real goody-two-shoes baby-talking family. Everyone sounded like babies when they talked. I didn't actually much like her but she was in my circle for awhile because a friend knew her from high school. She seemed very fake to me. Scarily, she probably wasn't. I had read many decades ago about how some people who have been abused in childhood may use a very quiet voice, and I have encountered it a number of times now and verified that was the case. My earliest experience with one was a friend of a friend and I never did trust her, just instinctively. She always seemed shifty, and she was. The mutual friend is still a good friend of mine today, decades later, and still knows the girl. I had told her way back then 40 years ago she had been molested, and sadly, she had. That girl screwed me over once. Then I stayed completely away from her. I knew she would. She sounded all girly and helpless and whispery, but to me that's a red flag, not a sign she's harmless. Of course, she has major problems today, doesn't work, substance abuse, and kind of a hermit. Her heart is in the right place at times as she has tried to help my friend after a hospital stay, so that's good. Others with tiny voices in the workplace I've found to be manipulative, working the men. This place I still work some, we had one. She used a little bitty voice and she was vicious as a snake, very aggressive when no one was looking, and always trying to cheat her way to success by hiding files others would be looking for to resolve to keep them from outperforming her. I told my boss one day he should can her, but being a man, he saw her tiny voice as harmless meekness, but some months later, he did end up having to let her go. It's men who are fooled by those women, not other women. So if I was a man, yes their voice would make a difference to me if it was childlike because if it isn't arrested development, it's manipulation and oftentimes both because they learn to use it to their advantage. If a man is speaking unnaturally quietly, I'd assume he has some severe childhood issues. But usually those guys just don't speak at all unless they have to because there is nothing in it for them to seem feminine and whispery. But then we have David Beckham. So there's exceptions to every rule. Apparently whatever muscles he's missing in his larynx were used elsewhere to mold that six pack.
MidwestUSA Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 And here I thought there was going to be a debate over the Voice vs American Idol! 1
TX-SC Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 OMG, I love Fran Drescher's voice! Not quite as much as Jennifer Tilly, but we can't all have her voice, ne? Obviously there are many others who do as well i just can't stand it. That's one reason I never watched "The Nanny" on tv. Couldn't bear it. 1
RecentChange Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 Yeah a voice can make a difference for sure. There are certain voices that I find annoying couldn't imagine dating. And other voices that I find extremely sexy, and def. play into my attraction. Certain foreign accents as well I have been told that I have a "phone sex line" quality voice as well - ha!
bu2002 Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 I think voice is a huge part of attraction that a lot of people don't realize. It's a part of that initial attraction. I know to me, it's a big deal. It's not something you can describe about what you do or don't like. When you like someone, it's their overall persona you like. The way she talks, the way she smiles, the way she laughs, the way she smells, and just how she carries herself and her attitude. I think voice is an underated aspect of the initial attraction phase. 2
WaitingForBardot Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 Obviously there are many others who do as well i just can't stand it. That's one reason I never watched "The Nanny" on tv. Couldn't bear it. I've got to say that I also find her voice a bit annoying, but for reasons unknown also simultaneously appealing...
SSJROMANCE Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 If she had a voice of Darth Vader I don't care what she looks like - I'm out of there.
Saracena Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 Almost certainly. I was on a placement once with a female who had a high-pitched squeaky voice. She sounded like a howling animal at times-so irritating. Almost everyone remarked upon it. This coupled with her arrogant, bossy ways was a total turn-off. Accents and how someone speaks are very important dealbreakers for me. I've met some very physically attractive guys who once they spoke lost all appeal for me. On the other hand I find some of the male actors/TV reporters very alluring- a major positive in the overall attraction process.
sandylee1 Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 Yes it is. I have to like the sound of his voice or it's a non starter.
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