thebear1490 Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 Hey everyone. its me again. So its day 44 of NC for me (I count because its a reminder for me that its not worth to throw all these days away just to reach out). B/U since 12/3/15. Everything was going well. Been making a lot of progress physically and mentally, then out of nowhere a few days ago its hits me like a train. Felt like I was back at square 1, became unmotivated.... basically went into a slump. Started missing my ex like crazy, can't sleep, started stress eating, wanted to reach out. Now nothing in particular triggered it and I still kept the NC going. Felt like I lost all hope with myself. I wanted to know if anyone had any tips to "get back on the horse." Get motivated again to keep working on myself..... stuff like that. Any advice would be a appreciated. 1
louxor Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 Hey everyone. its me again. So its day 44 of NC for me (I count because its a reminder for me that its not worth to throw all these days away just to reach out). B/U since 12/3/15. Everything was going well. Been making a lot of progress physically and mentally, then out of nowhere a few days ago its hits me like a train. Felt like I was back at square 1, became unmotivated.... basically went into a slump. Started missing my ex like crazy, can't sleep, started stress eating, wanted to reach out. Now nothing in particular triggered it and I still kept the NC going. Felt like I lost all hope with myself. I wanted to know if anyone had any tips to "get back on the horse." Get motivated again to keep working on myself..... stuff like that. Any advice would be a appreciated. Sometimes you'll be feeling fantastic one day then wake up then next and it's a complete 180 turn around. It doesn't make much sense but that's what happens sometimes so don't be too deterred by it, we've all been on the post-breakup rollercoaster ride at one time or another! What have you been doing to better yourself since the break-up? 2
Raina314 Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 What louxor said. Those days are awful in the sense that they really mess with your head and have a way of making you doubt the authenticity of any progress you *have* made. I have those days all the time, and this entire week was like that. I just forced myself to keep moving and when the work week was over I just checked up inbed and cried for a long time. I don't know if that will help, but as seems to always be the case with breakups, there's just no easy answer. Just have faith that if you can do it once, you can do it again. 2
The_Dork_Lard Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 The only way I could ever deal with those days were to a) tolerate them, b) tolerate them safe in the knowledge that they WILL eventually lessen, and then disappear, and c) allow myself to feel those deep feelings and question why I was feeling them, broadly speaking. It's a lesson on life, on yourself, and on others, and it WILL contribute heavily to the progression of your character, maturity, and future strength. I'm not saying you're not already charismatic, mature, and strong, I'm only saying you'll be even more so after this. Good luck! You WILL get over this with time and patience. Virtually every has been there at one time or other. You're just quitting a drug, that's all. 2
sorano Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 This happens to all of us. I am suffering as well. I have my good days and my bad. Right now, its bad. This will test how strong you are. Its a life lesson. It is a learning curve for me as well. I used to be a body builder. Natural body building, believe it or not, builds patience and the ability to never give up and keep on moving. Lots of people told me, alex, You are the most patient person I have ever met. Gaining 5 lbs of pure muscle may take up to a year or more. At times you see no progress. But you keep going and going and stay persistent. Even with that training, I still find this break up with my ex, extremely difficult and at times I cant stay still. I want to break NC, I want it to be better and I want everything to be back to normal. But it wont.
YWGMan Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 I'm on the 3rd month mark since NC, I feel you, It is NOT an easy battle my friend. some days are good some days are crappy. On those days i keep reminding myself and think about the bad qualities of my ex and ask myself why would i wanna get back with my emotionally unavailable, uncommunicative ex who cannot be trusted. Whenever this happens i just think about all the not so good qualities of my ex. Kinda negative but it helps. It gets better. 1
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