think she lost interest

[redbirdnormal]

I have had 1 date with this girl, which was Sunday Night. Since then we have talked every day (she has initiated most of it) but today silence

 

---I don't get it

 

---I snapchatted her friday saying "tgif" she snapchatted back saying "i know right"

 

--I then sent one back saying "one move in today, boring slow day"

 

---She replied saying "if i get one more dirty lok im leaving work"

 

--i replied"whats going on"

 

--she didnt reply

 

---A few hours later i snapped her and a bunch of others a picture saying "so nice out, should be golfing"

 

---She snapchatted a picture of her lunch

 

---I didnt reply

 

------Then 2 hours ago i snapped a picture of the elliptical i was on saying "workout time"

 

---She didnt reply

 

---I dont understand what i did

 

--Usually she always responds

 

---today i havent heard anything

 

i honestly havent came off as needy--

 

ugh

[ff12343]

Did you meet online via swiping means?

[Gaeta]

I will tell you what you did wrong.

 

You met her last weekend, it's now following weekend Saturday night and you didn't attempt to set up a date with her, why?

[redbirdnormal]

I will tell you what you did wrong.

 

You met her last weekend, it's now following weekend Saturday night and you didn't attempt to set up a date with her, why?

 

we have set up a date. for next saturday

[Gaeta]

we have set up a date. for next saturday

 

Why 2 weeks wait? it's way too long. Women lose interest fast. You need to set up a second date no more than a week away if you are genuinely interested.

[redbirdnormal]

Why 2 weeks wait? it's way too long. Women lose interest fast. You need to set up a second date no more than a week away if you are genuinely interested.

 

Im out of town this weekend. ill be back wednesday night

[Gaeta]

Im out of town this weekend. ill be back wednesday night

 

Ok fair enough.

 

I have a suggestion. Don't text to chit chat. Let her wonder about you. Text her but not every day. When you text don't let it drag. Text something like you hope she's having a good day, you're looking forward to your second date and to take care till then.

[basil67]

I've got to be honest, those texts would drive me batty. If I'm going to be interrupted with texts, they should at least be interesting.

[preraph]

Same here. I don't have time to be interrupted and have to answer inane texts that are only designed to see if I'm still listening. Stop texting unless you truly have something to say.

[Versacehottie]

Yeah those messages were lackluster (from both of you). I don't find checking in to compare how boring and how much the day sucks to be very enticing so careful about that. One thing I've noticed is that you don't want to be bonding over "negative" stuff, or she will sum you up as negative. Or trying to bond over boring stuff, telling her the boring nuances of your day, or she will sum you up as boring. You should be living a life you are excited about and convey that if you want the other person to have interest. You could even have some of the same subject matter, ie treadmill or gym is not inherently bad to talk about. But to say it like you are informing her of your dull routine is not exciting. Talk about the parts you like or funny things that happened or that you saw or that you beat your old PR or something.

 

Right now as someone said above, it seems like those messages are to make sure she is still on-board (to having a relationship with you) that's one reason why the ho-hum nature of what you message about is not helping. It is inherently clingy and needy--even though the content of the messages themselves were not. Get in touch to say something of value whether it be small and funny, asking how her day is or sharing something about your day that is actually interesting or presented as interesting---the other stuff is a turn off. Sorry. And good luck

[Erik30]

Sorry but you are being a little bit needy. She only didn't reply to one of your pictures (which didn't really require a response anyway) and you're already freaking out. But at least you didn't send her a "hey did you get my message/everything okay?" I know girls who sometimes take days to text back.

 

Just relax, there is no problem. You already have a date set with her. Don't ruin it for yourself by appearing to be needy. And maybe cut down on the Snapchats, there is no need to constantly stay in touch. That might actually make her lose interest