drered1 Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 I'm new to this site and hoping this will help. My gf of 6 years left me a few weeks ago. I came home from work one day and she was gone. All that she left was a note saying that she has not been happy. This was out of the blue for me. She never showed any signs that she was unhappy with our relationship that I noticed. We were both upset about our jobs and financials but we didn't take it out on each other. I've tried to get some answers from her and all she said was that she was not happy and that she does not love me anymore. Now she will not talk at all. It just really hurts. I just want my best friend back. No contact has been tough. I'm just not sure what I am supposed to do. 1
Satu Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 Understand her words to mean exactly what they say: "I wasn't happy." "I don't love you anymore." You've tried to get more answers, but she's already given you her answers. Peace comes through acceptance. You'll be OK. In due course, you will heal from the pain of the breakup, and you'll move on. For the moment, work on getting to a point of acceptance. Take care. 1
Buckskin92 Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 I hear you unfortunately. Tbh I have never been in a gf bf relationship. However I fell super hard for my best friend. She always said were just friends. I got tired of hearing about her new bf and just said that we were done. I said I love you but hearing how he makes you happy and I don't just tears my heart out. How she always put me down and even said I had autism pissed me off to the point of no return. I never wanted to see or talk to her again. Then I lost my mom two weeks ago. My Dad call her and told her my mom died she was like a second mother to her. She then sent a dozen roses saying she was sorry and wanted to be part of my life again. I said fine because she was always there for me. I guess what I am saying is you never know when your going to end up talking again and about what. Give her time. She will see your a great guy and come back. And if she doesn't its on her it her loss. 2
mightycpa Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 What do you do to someone who leaves you like that after six years? Tell yourself the truth about her. She's just a ****ty person, and she's done you a great favor. I know it doesn't feel like it now, but it's true. You are, believe it or not, probably responding as much or more to the suddenness as you are to actually losing her. She blindsided you, and if she had only given you some warning, you'd probably be a lot more ok. Examine yourself, and try to separate what you're feeling into it being about her, and it being about surprise. You'll probably find it's mostly surprise that you're reacting to. I'm sure that all you want to do is talk to her so that you can understand, but she's explained herself pretty clearly. She doesn't give a **** about your anymore. Really what you need to do is start complaining about how she broke up with you. You can't complain directly to her, but you can write letters (not for sending, but for healing) and give it to her right between the eyes. She deserves it. You'll probably never see her again, so you won't have to worry about it, but if you ever do, you'll feel a lot better having gotten your complaints out now. Also, don't text or call or any of that, and don't respond to texts and calls or any of that. She doesn't deserve any of your attention. 3
SunnyWeather Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 that's pretty nasty, sorry about that. I hope you have some friends and family who can support you during this difficult time. {{{hugs}}} 2
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