HorseFry Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 My BF of one year, told me he has another Facebook account that's secret/private..I mean, if he didn't want me to know, he wouldn't have told me, right? I asked him why he has this account, and he told me it's just to check up on people who blocked him. He gives me no reason not to trust him, and I told him "look, if you're not doing anything you shouldn't be doing, then I have no reason not to trust you, right?" He said yes. I'm just confused, though. Is this normal? I am telling myself "believe him. You need to believe him and trust him".
elaine567 Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 My BF of one year, told me he has another Facebook account that's secret/private..I mean, if he didn't want me to know, he wouldn't have told me, right? I asked him why he has this account, and he told me it's just to check up on people who blocked him. He gives me no reason not to trust him, and I told him "look, if you're not doing anything you shouldn't be doing, then I have no reason not to trust you, right?" He said yes. I'm just confused, though. Is this normal? I am telling myself "believe him. You need to believe him and trust him". Many people feel it necessary to have duplicate accounts duplicate emails, duplicate identities online, so not uncommon, if you are worried ask him to let you see it.
Art_Critic Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 I have 2 of them too and so does my wife.. the extras are just test accounts we have used to lookup people you don't want them to know you looked them up, FB will show them your profile and someone they might know all because you searched for them, also we use the extra account to see what others who are NOT our friends see, just to make sure nothing is being shown to the public. I wouldn't think 2 FB accounts would be a bad thing unless they were both LIVE real accounts, an account used as a test account isn't untrustworthy.. it's all in what that extra account looks like...
Author HorseFry Posted March 6, 2016 Author Posted March 6, 2016 I have 2 of them too and so does my wife.. the extras are just test accounts we have used to lookup people you don't want them to know you looked them up, FB will show them your profile and someone they might know all because you searched for them, also we use the extra account to see what others who are NOT our friends see, just to make sure nothing is being shown to the public. I wouldn't think 2 FB accounts would be a bad thing unless they were both LIVE real accounts, an account used as a test account isn't untrustworthy.. it's all in what that extra account looks like... That's interesting, ok. The thing is when he told me he has two accounts, and I asked "wait you have two Facebook accounts?" He said "yes, and I'm not telling you what the other one is...I don't want you stalking me" I asked "why do you have two?" He said "just to check up on people who've blocked me" I know he wouldn't have said anything about having two accounts if he was doing something he shouldn't be doing.
Michelle ma Belle Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 Sorry but I'm going to jump in and say that it is not only weird but disturbing. Your BOYFRIEND not only has a second 'secret' account AND that he feels a need to have one in order to check up on people who blocked him????? Does anyone else think this alone is cause for concern?? Who does this? First, and I hate to generalize but that sounds more like something an emotional teenage girl would do NOT some adult male in a relationship. Call me paranoid but this seems like a red flag to me. 1
almond Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 That's interesting, ok. The thing is when he told me he has two accounts, and I asked "wait you have two Facebook accounts?" He said "yes, and I'm not telling you what the other one is...I don't want you stalking me" I asked "why do you have two?" He said "just to check up on people who've blocked me" I know he wouldn't have said anything about having two accounts if he was doing something he shouldn't be doing. Your boyfriend sounds quite immature and could be intentionally playing games with your head. He tells you that he has a second Facebook. Then tells you that he refuses to tell you what it is, because he does not want you to see it. If he has nothing to hide and has you on his main account, why would he not allow you to know the name he uses for his second account? How ridiculous. He tells you he won't let you know what the account name is because he can't have you "stalking" it...if it's just an account to check up on people that have blocked him, then what would there even be to stalk? Sounds like he's filling you full of crap I'm afraid. Plus, who has to open another Facebook to stalk people that have blocked you? What does he do to get blocked by people that often, and why does he feel the need to "check up" on people that have clearly attempted to cut contact with him? Ugh. Your boyfriend needs to grow up by the sounds of things, and I definitely wouldn't blindly trust that he has nothing to hide on this second account simply because he told you of its existence. He's refusing to let you see it for a reason - whether it's to mess with your head, or he's hiding something - perhaps he has been inappropriate and is scared you're going to find out about it soon from someone...I don't know. What I do know is, you don't tell your partner that you have a secret second account and refuse to let them see it for no reason. There is more to this, and I'm sorry, but your boyfriend sounds like a downright idiot. 1
TunaCat Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 Sorry but I'm going to jump in and say that it is not only weird but disturbing. Your BOYFRIEND not only has a second 'secret' account AND that he feels a need to have one in order to check up on people who blocked him????? Does anyone else think this alone is cause for concern?? Who does this? First, and I hate to generalize but that sounds more like something an emotional teenage girl would do NOT some adult male in a relationship. Call me paranoid but this seems like a red flag to me. Yes, I totally agree with you Michelle ma Belle and am BAFFLED that so many people here think this is okay behavior. I would not be okay with someone who has a second FB account that he uses to check up on people who blocked him. If he had one strictly for work, I'd be fine with that, but checking up on someone who has blocked you seems VERY juvenile. 3
Author HorseFry Posted March 6, 2016 Author Posted March 6, 2016 Wow, thanks guys. I know he's not the cheating type...so I don't think he's doing anything he shouldn't be doing. He's not that kind of guy. Yes, I agree it's extremely immature to have a secret account just to check up on people who've blocked him. I'm gonna try to let this go, because he literally gives me no reason not to trust his loyalty to me. We're around each other all the time, and he doesn't act distant or try to hide anything from me. He told me he has a lot of duplicate accounts. However, if I did find out he was being unfaithful to me, I would be absolutely devastated and end the relationship. But until then, I just have to trust him.
whichwayisup Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 I have 2 of them too and so does my wife.. the extras are just test accounts we have used to lookup people you don't want them to know you looked them up, FB will show them your profile and someone they might know all because you searched for them, also we use the extra account to see what others who are NOT our friends see, just to make sure nothing is being shown to the public. I wouldn't think 2 FB accounts would be a bad thing unless they were both LIVE real accounts, an account used as a test account isn't untrustworthy.. it's all in what that extra account looks like... Uh since when has this happened? LOL I looked up a profile last week of a girl I went to high school with, she was such a bitch and not a friend but a bully to me! Horse, why not ask him if you can check your profile using his second account? With him sitting there, there should be no problem if it's just an account to double check privacy settings and he has no friends on his list. 1
road Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 Those that have nothing to hide, hide nothing. Red Flag. Dump him.
TheArtist Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 I'm with Michelle too. If someone has blocked him it's likely because he's been a creep to someone. It's like saying, 'I still follow that girl to work, but it's OK, I've changed my hat'. 4
Lois_Griffin Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 Wow, thanks guys. I know he's not the cheating type...so I don't think he's doing anything he shouldn't be doing. He's not that kind of guy. Said every woman who found out her man was cheating on her. But until then, I just have to trust him. Said every woman who found out her man was cheating on her. 5
Easyguy14 Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 My BF of one year, told me he has another Facebook account that's secret/private..I mean, if he didn't want me to know, he wouldn't have told me, right? I asked him why he has this account, and he told me it's just to check up on people who blocked him. He gives me no reason not to trust him, and I told him "look, if you're not doing anything you shouldn't be doing, then I have no reason not to trust you, right?" He said yes. I'm just confused, though. Is this normal? I am telling myself "believe him. You need to believe him and trust him". Unless he shows you what's within that secret account, I'd be very concerned. And I'm going to tell you why: once knew a guy with 3 different Facebooks to do 3 different things. Said guy used one account as his main contact account and used his separate account solely for work and business relationships and had the third account used to chase women his girlfriend knew nothing about, so yes, find out all you can about this.
CarrieT Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 I'm with ArtCritic on this one. I know a lot of people who have multiple accounts; sometimes under the guise of their animals or even under created personae they wish they were. The fact that he told you shows a degree of honesty that should be considered. The fact that he won't show it to you is the giant red flag... What was the point of telling you if he isn't going to be honest about what he's doing with it? 1
cocorico Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 No one has ever blocked me on FB. I have only ever blocked one person (my H's xW, who was stalking/ harassing us). If he has more than one person who has blocked him, this would be a huge red flag to me. People don't block other people without reason, unless here kids at primary school.
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