Onny Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 (edited) Hi everyone, I need some kind advices that might help. Since a while I am joining a dance club and there I met lot of people, some I become kind of friends with. There is a nice guy that always invites me to dance, dances a lot with me (even more times in a night). I feel when we are connected in dance like something is special between us. In the meanwhile, between dances I tried to talk to him, to know more about him... He behaves sweet and reserved... introvert. So I decided to be me who talks more about self, in order to make him feel more confident. Yesterday he didn't come... but his friends yes and there was something strange: when I danced with his friends, every one said to me something about him like "I wonder where is him... why he didnt come tonight" (even if I didnt adress any question to them about him, even if I was a lot curious and sad he didnt appear). One of his friends said (talking about relations that might start there), said that if a guy asks a girl a lot to dance and dances with her more than usual with other girls, it's clear that he likes the girl. But the boys don't know if the ladies are nice to them just to be "danced" I even got his phone number but not from him... so I don't want to use it. Please advice: what is to do further? Is there any chance that he likes me... is it smart to tell him that I like him (to be me who makes the first step)? Edited March 5, 2016 by Onny
kendahke Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 Well, telling him first will get the ball rolling in either the direction of him picking up on your interest in him and wanting to get to know you better; or he will freeze in place, get scared and then run away--which will tell you that he isn't confident enough to reciprocate the interest. You should make the step if only to relieve the mental torture of whether or not he likes you enough to pursue an interest in you.
preraph Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 I think those people are trying to push you into make moves on this guy to put him out of his misery, because he's probably too shy or fearful to know what to do next. It sounds like you're been making most of the conversation. That can get boring, but you seem to be enjoying it. But I wouldn't take the initiative just because those people are hinting about it. He probably had something else to do. Just wait until next time and he'll probably be there. Then I recommend you keep being friendly but definitely leave it up to him to make any moves, because you need to know he's mature enough and in control enough of himself to do so. Otherwise, he's just not ready for more. It is what it is. You can't fix him. Good luck.
brokengirl85 Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 Hi there, By the comments his friends made to you, this guy probably talked about you to them. And he probably told them he likes you. However, this puts you in the difficult situation to initiate and to pursue him, which I do not recommend at all. The guy must work for it. Not your job. So, my advice is to continue being friendly, dress seductively, maybe hug him while dancing...and all this indirectly. He should pick up the hints. I don't advice you to call him.
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