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I shouldn't talk to him, right?

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It seems the older I get the messier relationships get. Okay, seriously though I am heart broken. My ex broke up with me and i was so out of the loop that I had no idea he had issues. yes we talked but apparently not enough I am finding out. I keep answering his calls and texts ( he apparently is staying in contact) and he is supposed to drop my things i need off back to me. I know I should just stop answering his messages and calls from him but it is so hard. Just last night he was eating at his fav. pizza place after helping with an emergency. So i told him hopefully one day I will visit the place as pizza is my weakness. He said "maybe you will, their pizza is the best in town". You know what i ended up doing-- over analyzing "maybe I will" and thinking does that mean he will take me? ...so... I know what I need to do, cut him off. It is just, very hard because of how my heart hurts right now.:(

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Get your stuff back & then block him. He's trying to be kind/polite/not a jerk, but in your case it's cruel to be kind. The false hope is killing you.

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Satu Established Member

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"I shouldn't talk to him, right?"

 

Right.

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Oh honey, I hate to break it to you but I don't think there is any underlying meaning to what he said. So don't get your hopes high. I would suggest that once you get your stuff back to stop keeping in contact with him because that is the best way to heal. The longer you keep in contact with him, the longer your healing and moving on process drags on :)

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Staystronger New Member

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yea, I finally have my things back and I deleted everything. Social media, pictures and phone numbers. That is the best way to do it. Still always sucks though.

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Staystronger New Member

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Oh honey, I hate to break it to you but I don't think there is any underlying meaning to what he said. So don't get your hopes high. I would suggest that once you get your stuff back to stop keeping in contact with him because that is the best way to heal. The longer you keep in contact with him, the longer your healing and moving on process drags on :)

 

 

Yes, I know there is not meaning to it. That is why I was like oh man, i have a problem now. Have to get my things back and delete . I am starting to get hope out of nothing.

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yea, I finally have my things back and I deleted everything. Social media, pictures and phone numbers. That is the best way to do it. Still always sucks though.

 

You just voted for yourself.

 

You ascribed a high value to yourself.

 

You chose to seek a future better than the past.

 

Nice work.

 

 

Take care.

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Staystronger New Member

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So, right when I am "cleansing" myself from my ex. He sends me a text message saying that he would like to take me out to a restaurant real soon to go and eat. He called me as usual and wanted to talk ( have not returned the call yet). So, I think I will go to dinner with him and see what he wants. If nothing comes from it, then I am going to tell him to leave me a lone for good in person.

 

Probably not the best idea but he did ask me out and I do miss him. *shrugs*

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So, right when I am "cleansing" myself from my ex. He sends me a text message saying that he would like to take me out to a restaurant real soon to go and eat. He called me as usual and wanted to talk ( have not returned the call yet). So, I think I will go to dinner with him and see what he wants. If nothing comes from it, then I am going to tell him to leave me a lone for good in person.

 

Probably not the best idea but he did ask me out and I do miss him. *shrugs*

 

Oh hon, please dont go out with him again. Its just going to set you back at square one. You will probably leave dinner feeling awful because hes not going to say the things you want him to say. Youre setting yourself up for disapointment. Please put yourself first, go NC. You deserve a guy who wants you. Dont accept breadcrumbs.

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Staystronger New Member

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I don't expect much besides free dinner and I will et him say what he has to say. I will not be anymore disappointed than I am already am at this point. Like i said, if he aint saying anything new ...I will let him know right than and there not to ever bother me again.

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What's the point of this dinner? Is he stringing you along? Unless you are back together for real, these little bread crumbs only keep you from moving on.

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I don't expect much besides free dinner and I will et him say what he has to say. I will not be anymore disappointed than I am already am at this point. Like i said, if he aint saying anything new ...I will let him know right than and there not to ever bother me again.

 

I think sometimes people need to get knocked over the head several times before they finally say ouch and walk away. You're it. Learning the hard way.

 

I have a feeling he's laying the groundwork for some action. Dinner, drinks -- he'll be charming, you'll be googly eyed and weak -- he'll try to get intimate with you and you'll be butt hurt and back to square one.

 

You can state your case before dinner -- ask him why he wants to have dinner and if his answer is unsatisfactory, you can cut him out. No need to wait to see him for dinner. That's just an excuse on your part to see him.

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Staystronger New Member

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no, i know the reality of it. Like I said, if i can use him for a free dinner i will...nothing of substance come from it then I am going to take my left overs and tell him to never contact me again. I sometimes give second chances.. SOMETIMES. He aint getting nothing from me but an hour..nothing more. I am not stupid.

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I went like I said and met up with him and after talking things out we are back together. Though we never fought there was a communication breakdown so we are working on it. Anyway-- night all!

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OMG I'm so happy for you! I'm glad you listened to you gut and didn't let the negativity completly control you! Hope things work out for you two :laugh:

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I hope you're both doing great together! :D some people here have so much negatitivty inside >.<

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