EC Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 Most of you guys know my story, and most dont. For those that don't let me re-cap. My Boyfriend has a brother. His brother met a girl. This girl became his girlfriend. I met this girl and we just clicked from the beginning. We got along like sisters. To make a long story short, I moved in with this girl and started working with her as well due to a bad situation at home. So we moved into a condo together which her mother bought, then started working together at her mothers insurance agency. So her mother was out landlord and boss. And my friend and I lived together, worked together, and dated brothers. I 'thought' it would be perfect~ Well surprise surprise..it didn't work out. I quit a couple days ago and moved everything out of the apartment. So I am sharing a room with my 4 year old cousin now. Everything is in boxes and I am staying with my police officer aunt and uncle. So my smoking habit is out the door. Which in a way is a great thing because I have been wanting to stop. I was really depressed because I have so many bill and I am still in the process of finding another job. Everything of mine is in boxes and my freedom is gone. I have gone back o having a curfew because they have children and well life is quite gloomy right now. On the bright side when I do get a job I will be paying off my credit cards and my aunt will be purchasing a car for me in a couple weeks to get me back on my feet. I do miss my roommate/friend though. We ended on ok terms but I just know im my heart that if we hadnt moved in and worked together we would of had a bond stronger than sisters. I miss her more than my freedom or my apartment or my own room or my job or paycheck or my bathroom. But things will never be the same now. I will eventually run into her when I go visit my bf because she is dating my bf's brother. anyways yeah the update to my life. Hopefully things will get better.
Mr Spock Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 You don't have to give up your friendship EC. Don't lose contact, if you can help it.
tiki Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 Damn, girl. IO hope it all works out for the best, no matter what. Be happy. Your fam sounds great. And yay for no smoking! I've lost a life long friend over being roommates. Never room with a friend. We caught back up, only YEARS later. Something about the two just doesn't mix.
Merin Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 EC, I'm sure you're feeling let down and disappointed.. thing to do at this point is just re-group and re-focus on doing whats good for you. You're not the first person this kind of situation didn't work out for Girl and you won't be the last. The first person I had for a roomie was my Best Friend... we grew up together so to speak.. although I moved a lot growing up she was the one person I always kept up with.. so she was like a sister.. we moved in to together and thought it would be great... BUT it didn't turn out so well and we ended up not speaking for about a year.. at the same time I was going through a break up and felt pretty sh*tty... BUT like Spock said... if you can help it, don't give up the friendship with your Girl... After a year of not speaking to my friend we had missed one another terribly and it was just silly not to remain friends. Hope ya feel better sister
Author EC Posted June 13, 2005 Author Posted June 13, 2005 Thanks guys. My life is on a roller coaster right now but where it will end I have no idea?? Its so hard to go from having everything and being on track to moving backwards and having everything you had worked so hard for taken away. I feel as if I just graduated high school and I am starting all over again. It sucks so bad to go back to living from a suitcase. But hey I have to remember I am only 19 and dammit I still have some life to live. I am not one of the privaledged that have everything payed for them. I have had to do all of this on my own. I don't have mommy and daddy to lean on. Daddy was never there and lets just say i am doing better than mommy is. Ugh life is hard...but I am still trying to be optimistic about it.
greenhorn Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 But why did you both break up? Things were fine, you still feel so high for your friend then what was the problem ? Am I missing something here. On a side note, most of the friendships are like springs, the more you come close more will be the repulsion and more you go far more will be the attraction. So the best thing is to balance it, which is again easier said than done. Good luck
Author EC Posted June 13, 2005 Author Posted June 13, 2005 It is a very complicated story..one which I do not want to talk about. But one of the reasons I left was because I knew if I left I could save the relationship not only with my friend but with her mother as well. I think that we just need a break from one another and then eventually we can be friends again. I just have a feeling it will never be the same. And that sucks. But oh well..you live you learn and life goes on. Life goes on. She did write me something that will stick with me forever. She said in life friends come and go but you chose who stays.
greenhorn Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 Hmm, you took a wise step EC. There were so many reasons that it happened, it is not such a good combination when you are friends, live together,work together (that too in some family business) and date the same brothers. See even in a friendship misunderstandings develops, but when there are several things in common it works as a "Bull Whip effect", with so many things that you do together the misunderstandings increases with each combination. I am sure your friend also feels the same way as you feel for her. Gather yourself, get a job and when things are stable, go and visit your friend, things will be fine and your friendship will go on and on..
Naive Posted June 16, 2005 Posted June 16, 2005 Originally posted by EC Thanks guys. My life is on a roller coaster right now but where it will end I have no idea?? Its so hard to go from having everything and being on track to moving backwards and having everything you had worked so hard for taken away. I feel as if I just graduated high school and I am starting all over again. It sucks so bad to go back to living from a suitcase. But hey I have to remember I am only 19 and dammit I still have some life to live. I am not one of the privaledged that have everything payed for them. I have had to do all of this on my own. I don't have mommy and daddy to lean on. Daddy was never there and lets just say i am doing better than mommy is. Ugh life is hard...but I am still trying to be optimistic about it. Don't worry EC. You have gotten this far by yourself and you should be proud about that. If she has truly considered you her friend you two will be okay after some time. Both of you have to heal in regards to whatever happened. If it's not something terrible I am sure things will be okay after sometime. Don't sweat it my amiga.
moimeme Posted June 16, 2005 Posted June 16, 2005 Never room with a friend For sure. No matter how much you llike or love someone, living together well is an art - which people who marry often find out. You'll do fine. 'Starting over' at 19 isn't quite as bad as when you have house, family, and kids.
blind_otter Posted June 16, 2005 Posted June 16, 2005 Sorry that happened, EC...I lost my childhood bestfriend this way. We were tight since we were like 10 years old, moved in together in college, wham everything sucked. We did reconnect a few years later but it was never the same and we don't speak any more. I feel ya.
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