Saracena Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 Just because you loved the note doesn't mean another woman will... I think a short, clever, charming note is the best way to go. I'd like to hear what other women think of OP's note. I do agree complicated means she wants time to think. For me personally, I agree the note was a bit OTT. I believe now OP should back off, she's knows he's interested so allow her time to digest that, make NO further moves and continue to act 'normally' around her at work. While it could go either way here -difficult to tell at this point - he must maintain a good working relationship, irrespective of the outcome. Time will tell.
preraph Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 I think you should ask her what the situation is. That way you find out if she's possibly on her way out of it or if this is something she hangs onto while flirting with guys at the office. Know what I mean? Then you'll know what to do.
Author dom1 Posted March 5, 2016 Author Posted March 5, 2016 I guess I can try just playing it as cool as possible. Although like I said I'm generally not very good at that. The way our office is laid out I'd never really have to see her unless I was specifically trying to. So anytime I come by to see her, it's obvious that's the only reason I'm there. I just don't know what the end game is with that. Like I said she's really shy and does not flirt with other guys in our office. She's just not like that. So I play it cool for a while and then what? If I still think she's interested ask her out again? Hope something just happens. I just don't see this girl making the move to ask me, maybe I'm wrong but I just don't see that. It's insane how much I'm thinking about her. Literally the first thing on my mind since the minute I woke up today. It's crazy. I have not been infatuated like this in a really long time.
truth_seeker Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 I guess I can try just playing it as cool as possible. Although like I said I'm generally not very good at that. The way our office is laid out I'd never really have to see her unless I was specifically trying to. So anytime I come by to see her, it's obvious that's the only reason I'm there. I just don't know what the end game is with that. Like I said she's really shy and does not flirt with other guys in our office. She's just not like that. So I play it cool for a while and then what? If I still think she's interested ask her out again? Hope something just happens. I just don't see this girl making the move to ask me, maybe I'm wrong but I just don't see that. It's insane how much I'm thinking about her. Literally the first thing on my mind since the minute I woke up today. It's crazy. I have not been infatuated like this in a really long time. I've been there. They get under your skin and drive you nuts. It's tough to play it cool, but it's either you do that or you talk to her about this. I know for me, when I gave this girl the note with my info and asked her for a date, regardless of the outcome, a lot of the analyzing, infatuation went away.
AMJ Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 It's insane how much I'm thinking about her. Literally the first thing on my mind since the minute I woke up today. It's crazy. I have not been infatuated like this in a really long time. Aww! I know it's awful feeling this out of control about another person, but it's so much worse to not have this feeling. Just give her some space. A few days. I think she'll pop back over to you. Post back here and tell us how it goes at work this week.
Author dom1 Posted March 9, 2016 Author Posted March 9, 2016 So back to work this week...I've been unable to play it nearly as cool as I would have wanted. Yesterday she was out sick so of course I texted her to see how she was. Went back and forth most of the afternoon. Today I did an even worse job. I'm finding myself spending a lot of time trying to come up with witty things to say or things to talk about at all. I asked her to come out for a smoke and to get lunch again. Which we did. We teased each other a bit and shared some silly stories. Nothing crazy. After we smoked I asked her if she was gonna get lunch as I realized I had left my wallet in my coat upstairs. She offered to buy me lunch to which I said "I'm trying to buy you dinner, and instead you're buying me lunch" I got a little smile out of that one I guess. I guess my only strategy at this point is to let her get to know me more and hope she likes what she sees. I just texted her floating an idea of something to do that doesn't necessarily have to mean "date". I don't know if that's gonna work but maybe a dinner date right off the bat was too much. Maybe she'd be more inclined to spend time outside of work if it were doing something more casual. I don't know if any of this is a good idea or what. Any feedback? Please it's been really helpful so far
AMJ Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 My reaction to this entire story is-"awww!". I mean, she's playing along, so clearly you're still doing something right. I think asking her to do anything outside of work at this point is still a little bit too much, since she has some reservations about dating you. If you hadn't already asked her to dinner, and if she had no idea you were interested in her, I'd say- go for it! Invite her to this platonic activity. But...she knows you like her, so it doesn't really matter what you ask her to do. Her answer will be the same regardless. You just need to give this girl more time. Simmer down. It's Tuesday...you were supposed to wait a few days, and you waited zero days. Don't smother her...
truth_seeker Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 I read your update, Dom and all I can say is the girl knows you're really into her. Trying to push her into going out to dinner and all these text messages ain't gonna help your cause. I would back off. I know it's tough because you're so into her but you have to if you want any chance with her.
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