mariababy Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 I have never done online dating before and most of the dates I've been to is being asked out by the guy and usually I know them for a period of a few days to a few months or so before being asked out. So anyway I had my first date with a guy I was matched on EH and we decided to catch a movie we both wanted to watch. I wasn't anxious or nervous. When I met him, it was normal. I didn't feel anything. I thought it was the same for him as well. I always get the vibes when I feel a guy is into me, but I didn't get any from him. We did chat a little before the movie and for a little bit after a movie and he dropped me off the station. No hugs, touching, kisses or anything. I just waved goodbye and left. I didn't get any message from him saying how the date was and I didn't send one either because I felt there was no "attraction" between us so it was fine if it didn't work out. However like a day later, he sent me an sms asking how was my day and we started chatting. I mentioned that I always wanted to go an event that's annually hosted in our city and he said he would love to go there too as he never been there too. Then he mentioned "We can go together next year..." I wouldn't be surprised if he asked me on a second date but attemping to make plans for next year - What is that about?
SwordofFlame Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 Going to the movies is a terrible idea for a first date. Seems this guy is also a newbie. 2
Author mariababy Posted March 5, 2016 Author Posted March 5, 2016 I agree! My first or second dates always ends up as a movie date when they learn I love movies. It used to be so awkward with previously but now I reckon I stopped feeling the awkward though I honestly don't fancy the first or second date being a movie date either.
bu2002 Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 Agree. Movie is just a terrible first date idea. There's little opportunity to talk or interact on any level. You start going to the movies when both of you have been dating for a bit and you just enjoy being in the other person's presence. 1
spriggan2 Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 I wouldn't take the next year comment too seriously either. Try a second date with a more conversational setting if you feel like it. Or just keep texting him if you feel like it. Otherwise politely wish him good luck and goodbye.
Author mariababy Posted March 5, 2016 Author Posted March 5, 2016 I wouldn't take the next year comment too seriously either. Try a second date with a more conversational setting if you feel like it. Or just keep texting him if you feel like it. Otherwise politely wish him good luck and goodbye. Yeah the next year comment threw me off but I wont take it seriously. I am still texting him. I know I don't have any attractions or feelings for him yet but maybe because I also hardly know anything about him so definitely keen to go for another date or have a few more chats
Gershwin Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 He's trying to feel you out with the next year comment. If you like him enough, go for another date & make sure it gives you plenty of opportunity to talk & get to know each other & not activity where you both sit & stay quiet for hours.
Author mariababy Posted March 5, 2016 Author Posted March 5, 2016 He's trying to feel you out with the next year comment. If you like him enough, go for another date & make sure it gives you plenty of opportunity to talk & get to know each other & not activity where you both sit & stay quiet for hours. Yeah he seemed so distance and cold as well and I couldn't get a reading so I thought he was disinterested. Will suggest a dinner date the next time. I will continue texting for now and see what happens
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