Author truth_seeker Posted March 5, 2016 Author Posted March 5, 2016 Nothing wrong with younger but most age gap relationships don't last. I prefer young flawless skin and decent sex drive. Someone who still gets excited by things. Reality is that people don't want much older long term because they don't want to be saddled with a sick person in their 40s. I'm 43, no way I'd be with a 60 year-old. Which is what you are describing your situation as. A 25 year-old won't want you when you start looking old. They will still have options and you won't. The vast majority of break ups in age-gap relationships are initiated by the younger person. This has come up a lot in the news in the last few days because of the Rupert Murdoch-Jerry Hall marriage. Apparently at their age it's more likely to survive. Older men who think they can compete with 30 year-old males are deluded. I hear you but what about Howard Stern? Geraldo Rivera? Sylvester Stallone? James Woods? Derek Jeter? John Stamos? Yes, all rich, wealthy celebrities, but all with women at least 15-30 years younger than them.
Emilia Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 I hear you but what about Howard Stern? Geraldo Rivera? Sylvester Stallone? James Woods? Derek Jeter? John Stamos? Yes, all rich, wealthy celebrities, but all with women at least 15-30 years younger than them. Are you a wealthy celebrity with high social status, access to yachts, great social life?
katiegrl Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 (edited) I hear you but what about Howard Stern? Geraldo Rivera? Sylvester Stallone? James Woods? Derek Jeter? John Stamos? Yes, all rich, wealthy celebrities, but all with women at least 15-30 years younger than them. Earth to truth seeker .....earth to truth seeker. Do you honestly believe if those men weren't rich celebrities, those women would have even considered them ... let alone married them? Really? Come on now. Except for maybe John Stamos lol... although last I checked he is single. Divorced in 2005. Edited March 5, 2016 by katiegrl 1
Author truth_seeker Posted March 5, 2016 Author Posted March 5, 2016 Are you a wealthy celebrity with high social status, access to yachts, great social life? In certain areas of town I consider myself a celebrity... I have access to rafts and canoes... social life is hit or miss depending which night of the week.
Emilia Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 In certain areas of town I consider myself a celebrity... I have access to rafts and canoes... social life is hit or miss depending which night of the week. I presume you are joking. 1
Author truth_seeker Posted March 5, 2016 Author Posted March 5, 2016 Earth to truth seeker .....earth to truth seeker. Do you honestly believe if those men weren't rich celebrities, those women would have even considered them ... let alone married them? Really? Come on now. Except for maybe John Stamos lol... although last I checked he is single. Divorced in 2005. John Stamos is 51? He's dating 20 somethings... and if you were in your 20s you would date him, too. lol.
Author truth_seeker Posted March 5, 2016 Author Posted March 5, 2016 I presume you are joking. Why would you think I'm joking?
Emilia Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 Why would you think I'm joking? Because if your post is serious it shows complete lack of social awareness and what is considered high social status. Canoes don't really come close to yachts. 1
Emilia Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 John Stamos is 51? He's dating 20 somethings... and if you were in your 20s you would date him, too. lol. Are you comparing yourself to a rich celebrity? He is divorced, by the way.
katiegrl Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 (edited) John Stamos is 51? He's dating 20 somethings... and if you were in your 20s you would date him, too. lol. Yeah I would .....he is very cool! And very attractive, funny, genuine, etc from what I know about him. Totally my type, and would be even if not a celebrity! And as I said before, I am not the one hung up on age...never have been. But he also said recently he would like to settle down, but it isn't happening with the chicks he's dating....who for the record included Emma Willis (39) and Amy Poeler (44). He doesn't have such rigid restrictions ...he dates women of all ages, *including* women in their 20s. Edited March 5, 2016 by katiegrl
Author truth_seeker Posted March 5, 2016 Author Posted March 5, 2016 Canoes don't really come close to yachts. :laugh::laugh::laugh: 1
Author truth_seeker Posted March 5, 2016 Author Posted March 5, 2016 Are you comparing yourself to a rich celebrity? I drive a convertible and the guy at the local convenient store knows my name.
Emilia Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 I drive a convertible and the guy at the local convenient store knows my name. Well I guess that could mean a chance with a local girl from low socio-economic status who would only have social housing to look forward to. That is if you live in a smallish town
xxoo Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 I drive a convertible and the guy at the local convenient store knows my name. You'll score a 35 divorcee, no problem. Don't worry 1
elaine567 Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 Yeah I would .....he is very cool! And very attractive, funny, genuine, etc from what I know about him. Totally my type, and would be even if not a celebrity! And as I said before, I am not the one hung up on age...never have been. But he also said recently he would like to settle down, but it isn't happening with the chicks he's dating....who for the record included Emma Willis (39) and Amy Poeler (44). He doesn't have such rigid restrictions ...he dates women of all ages, *including* women in their 20s. John Stamos Reveals He?s Dating a Mystery Woman - Us Weekly
katiegrl Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 John Stamos Reveals He?s Dating a Mystery Woman - Us Weekly Read that earlier. Wonder who she is...inquiring minds!!!
Author truth_seeker Posted March 5, 2016 Author Posted March 5, 2016 You'll score a 35 divorcee, no problem. Don't worry I've tried that twice - no luck there.
Author truth_seeker Posted March 5, 2016 Author Posted March 5, 2016 John Stamos is 52 and if that's a current pic, guy looks great! I think this time around he's dating a non-celebrity.
katiegrl Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 (edited) John Stamos is 52 and if that's a current pic, guy looks great! You're preaching to the choir, I have always crushed on him! And the video showing him on The View is recent. I don't usually crush on celebrities ...but there is just "something" about *him*. I have a date later, with a man who resembles him! Similar gregarious, funny, engaging personality, similar in looks, but a bit heavier (stockier) and shorter (5'8" approx). With my heels, I will be at least two inches taller - don't care! A bit younger too --45....eight years older than me. In fact, gotta get going ....bunch of stuff to do...mani, pedi, etc..lol Wish me luck guys, it's my first date since break up in December. Oh and I met him IRL, not on line. Talk to y'all later.... Good luck TS! Edited March 5, 2016 by katiegrl
Gaeta Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 You're preaching to the choir, I have always crushed on him! And the video showing him on The View is recent. I don't usually crush on celebrities ...but there is just "something" about *him*. I have a date later, with a man who resembles him! Similar gregarious, funny, engaging personality, similar in looks, but a bit heavier (stockier) and shorter (5'8" approx). With my heels, I will be at least two inches taller - don't care! A bit younger too --45....eight years older than me. In fact, gotta get going ....bunch of stuff to do...mani, pedi, etc..lol Wish me luck guys, it's my first date since break up in December. Oh and I met him IRL, not on line. Talk to y'all later.... Good luck TS! We want a full report !! I want to see your thread first thing in the morning Good luck!
katiegrl Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 We want a full report !! I want to see your thread first thing in the morning Good luck! No thread, but you know I will update you! Thanks for the good wishes!
Author truth_seeker Posted March 5, 2016 Author Posted March 5, 2016 I have a date later, with a man who resembles him! Similar gregarious, funny, engaging personality, similar in looks, but a bit heavier (stockier) and shorter (5'8" approx). Sounds like John Stamos on Steroids. Have fun and good luck!
Author truth_seeker Posted March 6, 2016 Author Posted March 6, 2016 Well I guess that could mean a chance with a local girl from low socio-economic status who would only have social housing to look forward to. That is if you live in a smallish town Sounds like a Bon Jovi song.
mortensorchid Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 It doesn't matter what clock is or isn't ticking, it doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman, or how good or how bad you are anymore. Don't listen to the pressures or the feelings of desperation that you are experiencing. I'm 41, I've never been married or had children, and chances are slim to none that I ever will. And I have just said "Who cares?" All my former serious bfs met and married the next piece of trash woman they met barely a year after treating me badly and are now divorced from those women. How do they feel? I don't know. I say they could have had something better than that but they chose otherwise. THey say women have clocks, well men do as well. And they choose trash instead of good women. Keep calm and carry on. Move forward.
venusishername Posted March 6, 2016 Posted March 6, 2016 (edited) I can relate to how you feel. I just turned 32, and every one of my friends has a husband and/or is starting to have kids. I used to have a lot of single girlfriends, but not anymore. I've been the 5th wheel for some time now, until I found my new relationship. I have a couple friends who are male who are single and close to my age, but we all feel our clocks ticking. I agree with what another poster said about Tinder and dating apps, that it's like 'looking for blueberries in a field of potatoes' too funny, and true. I used dating sites on and off for a couple years after my last relationship ended, and it was such a pain in the ass and waste of time I felt. I knew the next person I would fall in love with wouldn't be from Tinder or Match. I wanted to meet someone organically. I did finally meet someone that I was into and vice versa, but I think I was only OPEN to that when I 'gave up' so to speak. I'm not sure if you can relate to this, but do you ever go out (or engage in online dating) with the idea of 'needing to find someone?' I used to put a lot of pressure on trying to meet someone and have that connection. I had a lot of bad disappointments from online dating and offline dating that I actually said to myself, "I give up. I'm not looking anymore. I don't care. Instead of FIGHTING being single, I'm going to EMBRACE it." I started turning inward and enjoying my self as a single person. If I went out, and I talked to men, I found it EASIER because I wasn't putting any pressure on it, I was simply talking to them as if they were ANYONE. There was no longer a hidden agenda of hoping to secure someone because there is no denying my clock is also ticking. But I gave up looking, in spite of that. Just like the cliché says, when you stop looking is when love finds you. You don't find love, it finds you. I can't speak for whether you should be happy or not that you didn't 'settle' or get married to the wrong person like mortensorchid says. I'm sure we all have or will have friends who got married and it won't be a good marriage. That doesn't change the fact that you want to have that union and family unit. Don't let people tell you to be grateful you're single. It's ok to own the fact that you want those things. I do too. I had a friend tell me once to stop feeling down, go out and enjoy being single, don't let this one guy bring you down, go out and date a bunch of people, have sex with whomever I wanted, etc. I was like, "I don't WANT that." Don't listen to people who tell you this. Listen to what your heart wants and start acting that way. There's really no way around it. What can you do? Let things go, let the pressure go, get off Tinder, start turning inwards and making yourself the best version of yourself. Find out what makes YOU happy and do that. For me, it was joining a running group and signing up for a yoga membership, because it makes me feel good mentally and physically. Give up searching. It's too much effort with very little, if no reward. I honestly think that some people are not cut out to have children, get married, and follow this conventional model. My brother is one of those people. My cousin is 40 and always wanted kids, never had any. That's because she involves herself with men who don't want to have kids, so that's her own fault. I believe that if you WANT those things, as I do, you must ACT and LIVE as though you will have it. Ask for it. For example, I have been in an exclusive relationship now for 5 months. It is the first serious relationship I've had in over 4 years, so it's a big deal to me. I told him early on EXACTLY what I am looking for, in general terms. I was crystal clear.. I want to get married and have kids. That is my goal in dating someone at this point. I don't want to be alone anymore, and at this point in dating, I am only interested in continuing on with someone if we are on the same page about those things. I think it's really important that you ONLY involve yourself with people who are on the same page with you about goals and intentions. We don't have time to waste like we used to. Edited March 6, 2016 by venusishername 3
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