Veteran with PTSD, Will my ex comeback after a breakup

[preraph]

Well, let's see if she checks in on you or if she's really gone, and hope for the best.

[TriumphantTodd]

Well, let's see if she checks in on you or if she's really gone, and hope for the best.

 

From what I hear or read, it takes about 3 to 4 months before an ex even considers talking to you or messaging you. Here's to hoping she does! God, I'd be the happiest man of all time.

[preraph]

Well, I'm sure it varies. But I do know that if a couple has had a pretty good run and then break up, there is often at least one more try, though it isn't always successful. Fingers crossed. Meanwhile, don't turn down any interested women. Stay busy and distracted.

[TriumphantTodd]

Well, I'm sure it varies. But I do know that if a couple has had a pretty good run and then break up, there is often at least one more try, though it isn't always successful. Fingers crossed. Meanwhile, don't turn down any interested women. Stay busy and distracted.

 

We took that small two week break, but she never broke up with me. I hope you're right. I will always love her and standby her side, even if the world world were to conspire against her in the wild suspensions that she wasn't everything she could be. I see the woman who she really is. She's amazing. Hell, amazing can't describe how wonderful she is. I'll hope for the best.

[TriumphantTodd]

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I understand that she blocked me because I wouldn't stop trying to reminisce about things or trying to communicate with her. Ultimately, I'm not here for judgment passed on her. I accept her and even though she isn't perfect, I still want her in my life. I can't stress enough that I'm not looking for any comments towards her as she isn't here to give her side of the story.

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[scorpiogirl]

No, I don't think she would or should. You're unstable. You've proven that in more ways than one. Her family was also right to block you. Leave her alone.

[Satu]

*I got upset when she shutdown on me and I took my frustrations out on myself, physically.

 

 

**What can I do?

 

*It's very significant that you've chosen not to be specific about how 'you took your frustrations out on yourself, physically,' when that was probably the biggest issue that led to the breakup.

 

I'd like to ask you bluntly:

 

What did you do, exactly?

 

I think I know, but it's not for me to say it...

 

 

**What you should do, is get yourself into a good recovery program and work on your healing, as the main priority in your life.

 

It takes time and commitment, but it's worth it.

 

PTSD doesn't just go away when you meet somebody nice.

 

Would you like to talk a bit more about your difficulties, this time in a more open way?

 

 

Take care.

Edited March 11, 2016 by Satu

[TriumphantTodd]

*It's very significant that you've chosen not to be specific about how 'you took your frustrations out on yourself, physically,' when that was probably the biggest issue that led to the breakup.

 

I'd like to ask you bluntly:

 

What did you do, exactly?

 

I think I know, but it's not for me to say it...

 

 

**What you should do, is get yourself into a good recovery program and work on your healing, as the main priority in your life.

 

It takes time and commitment, but it's worth it.

 

PTSD doesn't just go away when you meet somebody nice.

 

Would you like to talk a bit more about your difficulties, this time in a more open way?

 

 

Take care.

 

Sure, I have no problem being honest with you. I would hit myself basically. Simple as that. I've been doing a lot better with managing stress and such. In no way shape or form am I cured, but I'm progressing. Yeah, I made myself look foolish and unattractive in more ways than one, but in no way does that deem me as unworthy. Sure, I've had some unstable moments, but it wasn't a daily, weekly or monthly thing. I took on too much stress and I was stupid for letting it get to me.

[BlueIris]

Have you tried EMDR? It can be very effective treatment for PTSD. I wouldn’t worry about her, dating or relationships until after you’ve worked on the PTSD for a good long time. I did almost 2 years of counseling 2x a week with a psychologist who specialized in trauma and did EMDR and then another year on and off with her as needed after that as I started dating. It really helped a lot, including during the re-entry into dating phase. Lol Good luck- you can get through this.