RoxStar Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 So if a guy gave his phone number to someone to give to you and you dont call immediately what is the time line that its just too late to even try and call? Let me back up. So a friend of mine is a bartender and she said this guy was asking about me a while back and one night he gave her his number to give me. I am not big on that whole method of getting his number to me through her but oh well. IMO he should have given it directly to me but anyway. At the time I was with someone else and didnt call him. Well now that I am kind of interested in getting back out there and meeting people I would like to call this guy if for nothing else but just to be friends or whatever. Well his number was given to me 6 months ago. I still have it. Do I call or not? Is it too late? Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 6 months? Hell no! Don't call. You'll seem desperate and have no good excuse for calling. Just hope you'll run into him again. If someone called me after six months, I wouldn't remember them....if I were still single and all. You'll appear desperate...or scratching the bottom of the barrell. Don't. If you liked him that much, you should've called six months ago. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RoxStar Posted June 13, 2005 Author Share Posted June 13, 2005 Originally posted by tiki If you liked him that much, you should've called six months ago. But I was with someone else then. Really you think it looks desperate? BUMMER. What if I just want to be friends? Still desperate? Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 Six months is kind of late to call if that is the first contact after the break. Try to meet that guy some way do some talking, then say that you have his number and will give him a call.Situations might have changed in meantime, he might be no more single. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 Originally posted by RoxStar I am not big on that whole method of getting his number to me through her but oh well. Most women aren't....it shows passivity and lack of confidence on his part. I would like to call this guy if for nothing else but just to be friends or whatever. If u just want to call him out of boredom or to be "friends" then don't call.... Do I call or not? Is it too late? No it is not too late but you should not call him. You don't know his situation. He could be married living in Tahiti with a kid on the way. Talk to the go-between bartender and get the 411 on him and if he's still interested/available give your # to bartender and tell her to give to him and tell him to call you! Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale and get the 411 on him Sorry if it sound dumb, but what does getting 411 mean ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author RoxStar Posted June 13, 2005 Author Share Posted June 13, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale Talk to the go-between bartender and get the 411 on him and if he's still interested/available give your # to bartender and tell her to give to him and tell him to call you! The go between bartender recently moved to the beach and doesnt work at the bar anymore. I havent run into him there and I have only seen him a handful of times if that. He may well be married with a kid on the way in Tahiti at this point. Oh well. Ok so the concensus is to not call. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RoxStar Posted June 13, 2005 Author Share Posted June 13, 2005 Originally posted by greenhorn Sorry if it sound dumb, but what does getting 411 mean ? Just for me to get information on what he is up to. Dialing 411 in the US will connect you to operators that will give you phone numbers etc but it has been used conversationally slang so say "get the info". Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 Originally posted by RoxStar Just for me to get information on what he is up to. Dialing 411 in the US will connect you to operators that will give you phone numbers etc but it has been used conversationally slang so say "get the info". thanks Rox! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 Originally posted by RoxStar Oh well. Ok so the concensus is to not call. Well if the go-between has split then you can call him and tell him the honest deal. That you are availabe now and would like to get together for a drink soemtime. But only if u think there may be some romantic interest there..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author RoxStar Posted June 13, 2005 Author Share Posted June 13, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale But only if u think there may be some romantic interest there..... Well I wont know for sure if there is romantic interest until we hang out. But there could be unless he tells me on the first date that he is also suffering from mental illness as all the other men I seem to meet are. He seems to offer more stability from what it seems though then many of the other guys I have gone out with or have had an interest in me. He is older then me (late 30's) and just seems more established. OK so then ALPHA says call and so far everyone else says no. Link to post Share on other sites
blue16 Posted June 14, 2005 Share Posted June 14, 2005 Why not give him a call? Just be honest with him and say something like "I was taken at the time...and I was looking through my purse and I found your number there and remembered you. Thought I'd give you a call to find out what you were up to..." etc. All you gotta do is explain what happened and he should understand. If you call out of the blue and start asking him out like "Hey it's been 6 months since we met, I haven't met any other guys since then and I know you still might be interested so I thought I'd call."...then that's a little creepy and desperate. But as long as give an honest explanation it shouldn't look too bad. What have you got to lose? Link to post Share on other sites
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