Strip club with GF

[Emilia]

Long story short I don't think it has to impact your relationship but some guys will enjoy it more than others.

 

I took an ex to an all nude strip club. I even picked out a girl who looked like his type and bought him and myself a dance.

 

I love checking out women so I thought it would be more erotic than it was. I loved watching some of the pole/stage routines just because they looked hard. I didn't find it super erotic. I guess perhaps I would just rather have the woman to myself. I felt it was more like 'meh'.

 

The BF I took didn't really care so much about the dancers. He loved the ego boost and bragging rights of having such an awesome GF who would take him there. We had watched porn together, gone to sex shops, etc. so I really didn't feel uncomfortable about it.

 

It's come up a few times with my current BF. He thinks it's disrespectful to me, isn't comfortable, and would rather see me in those costumes. So with him I wouldn't do that with him. Instead I would just surprise him with some new lingerie.

He is a keeper.

[craw]

I'm glad to read there's some reasonable women out there.

 

I would love to go to a strip club with him, but I don't know if I would be cool with him getting a lap dance?? hmm.

[loveweary11]

Definitely sounds fun.

 

You could pick dancers and buy each other dances...or get a "couples dance." I just made that up... imagine a couples massage, but with strippers!

[TX-SC]

I did this with one ex gf. But, it was a male/female strip club. I would have no issues with it. Would it be a huge turn-on? No. I'm not a big fan of strip clubs. Big waste of money.

[dichotomy]

Only you know your boyfriend. I can see - if say he told you he went a few times in the past, liked it, but has not gone since. Or maybe he said he would like to try it once, but never did. In this case it could be a nice gift

 

No all guys like to go so strip clubs. I might like to go just once (with my wife offering of course) just to say I went, but I have frankly no desire to go to strip clubs - never have, and don't think I would get turned on much. I am older now and 20 somethings would not really do much for me. My wife went once a few times with an old BF, but that was in her "wild time" and I think now she would not like it all.

[BetrayedH]

As a guy speaking here, I'd enjoy it.

 

Personally, I would likely refrain from getting any dances if I were him. It's not worth the potential drama unless I knew for sure that my GF would be turned on by it. But I'd certainly be receptive to my GF having one.

 

I'd see the experience as a vehicle to get us both a little worked up about getting home.

 

With all that said, you've indicated that you're kinda on the conservative side of the spectrum. What's your personal level of comfort with being in a strip club? Are you sure you'd be ok with him checking out other women? What if he told you he found one to be really hot? Or that he'd like a dance from a particular woman? Or if he got a dance and really appeared to enjoy it? What is your level of comfort receiving a dance? I think these are really important questions to ask yourself because really, what else is there to do there? You've got to expect that these things will be proposed or might actually happen when it's an environment that you've willingly suggested to visit.

[TheArtist]

I've never been to a strip club so there is a little curiosity to see that... but with a girlfriend?! No way!

 

'What are you looking at?'

'Nothing honey'

'You were, you were looking at that girl's body'

'I wasn't!'

'You fancy her don't you? Admit it.'

'We're in a strip club!'

'So you admit it! I'll be at my mother's'.

 

Yeah, good plan.

[Easyguy14]

I would prefer to stay home and she gives me a private lap dance instead.

 

I second this. Shouldn't feel the need to possibly make your girlfriend jealous over something that you two could share and have more fun doing in private.

[S_A]

I would love to go to a strip club with him, but I don't know if I would be cool with him getting a lap dance?? hmm.

 

What if he doesn't get a lap dance? I

[stillafool]

I would prefer to stay home and she gives me a private lap dance instead.

 

This certainly makes more sense to me. As a woman I don't consider other womens' half naked bodies in my face sexy, but kind of gross. I would rather look at half naked men doing sexy things; but that's just me. I wouldn't mind if my husband wanted to go to a strip club; but he is free to go with his guy friends.

[five2nine]

With all that said, you've indicated that you're kinda on the conservative side of the spectrum. What's your personal level of comfort with being in a strip club? Are you sure you'd be ok with him checking out other women? What if he told you he found one to be really hot? Or that he'd like a dance from a particular woman? Or if he got a dance and really appeared to enjoy it? What is your level of comfort receiving a dance? I think these are really important questions to ask yourself because really, what else is there to do there? You've got to expect that these things will be proposed or might actually happen when it's an environment that you've willingly suggested to visit.

 

Those are good points and I probably would be hurt if he seemed to like a particular girl. I guess it's better to just not go there.

 

Fyi, he is choosing that we won't watch any scary movies for a year. (I love them and try to get him to watch with me, but he really hates them/too scared). I am choosing something like going to Disneyland together since we live close.

[elaine567]

Fyi, he is choosing that we won't watch any scary movies for a year. (I love them and try to get him to watch with me, but he really hates them/too scared). I am choosing something like going to Disneyland together since we live close.

 

Much better idea.