five2nine Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 Guys would you like it if your gf wants to go to a strip club with you? Too weird or a huge turn on? Buying a private lap dance while she watches...yes or no? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 I would prefer to stay home and she gives me a private lap dance instead. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
SSJROMANCE Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 Guys would you like it if your gf wants to go to a strip club with you? Too weird or a huge turn on? Buying a private lap dance while she watches...yes or no? Maybe I'm the exception but why are you going to a strip club when you have a girlfriend? Let's answer that question first. Seems to me that's telling your girlfriend she isn't good enough. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author five2nine Posted March 4, 2016 Author Share Posted March 4, 2016 Maybe I'm the exception but why are you going to a strip club when you have a girlfriend? Let's answer that question first. Seems to me that's telling your girlfriend she isn't good enough. I am the GF... wondering what guys would think about it, hence my question here. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 Well, it's a bit difficult to answer your question out of context. As a guy, I would never want to go to a strip club because it's rude and disrespectful to my partner. (But aside from that I wouldn't even want to go to one when I was single because generally they are seedy and fake money-grabbing holes and I object to objectifying women and paying for something that should be done for mutual enjoyment) So if you were my gf and asked me to go to a strip club with you... I would say WTF, why on earth do you want me to go to a strip club and why on earth do you want to come with me? What's that all about? It would completely freak me out, not just because you wanted to go with me, but because you are encouraging me to go. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 I'd say be careful what sort of genie you are letting out of the bottle 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SSJROMANCE Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 I am the GF... wondering what guys would think about it, hence my question here. I see. Why do you want your boyfriend going to a strip club? Are you into open relationships, that sort of thing? You might be encouraging something that may bite you in the end. Would that be sending a message that it's OK to be with other women? If he can do it with you being there why not do it without you and then not being able to resist the "extra" services. To answer your question I went to one once and never went again. Didn't like it. I had my women at home and that's all I needed. The idea of a sleazy women touching me in a fake manner didn't appeal to me. Even if you did talk me into it I wouldn't enjoy myself knowing that you were watching. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 Why do you want to go to the club with him? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 five2nine What is your exact motivation for wanting to accompany him to the strip club? Link to post Share on other sites
Author five2nine Posted March 4, 2016 Author Share Posted March 4, 2016 I see. Why do you want your boyfriend going to a strip club? Are you into open relationships, that sort of thing? You might be encouraging something that may bite you in the end. Would that be sending a message that it's OK to be with other women? If he can do it with you being there why not do it without you and then not being able to resist the "extra" services. No we're not into open relationships. The idea is that I'm there with him. It is part of a reward thing we are doing from a race/competition. He gets to choose something he wants if he wins and I get to choose something if I win. But I know he would like something sex related so I am trying to choose something fun for him as well. I brought up the idea to my friend and she thought he would find it a turn on but I wanted to know some guys' perspectives. I'm not worried at all that it would open "Pandora's box" like some are suggesting. He is pretty kinky and into watching porn together and stuff but he's not a cheater. I am more innocent and trying to do something he would like. My only hesitation is he might be too uncomfortable or embarrassed since it's a public thing. I guess I will choose something else. I hope he never reads these forums. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mrs. John Adams Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 I have gone with mr adams many times. I would rather go with him than for him to go without me. We share the experience together.... And find it very sexually stimulating. Neither of us have had a private dance... That's a bit over my line... But we certainly enjoy the atmosphere. We have not been in about 9 years but we used to go on a regular basis. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 If you really want to give him a gift, get the dance for yourself. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
JohnAdams Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 Guys would you like it if your gf wants to go to a strip club with you? Too weird or a huge turn on? Buying a private lap dance while she watches...yes or no? I see nothing wrong with a gf going to a strip club with their bf. It is a turn on when you are together. It is a sexually charged atmosphere that can be a lot of fun. As MRS. JA said, we have gone together in the past. We did not find it unusual as there were several couples there beside us. Also, not all strip clubs are sleazy. Many are high end and some cater to couples. We talked to couples from all walks of life there from normal, conservative couples to "swingers". So, you cannot really pigeon hole couples that go to a strip club. So again, go, give it a try and if you feel uncomfortable leave. Then you can always say you have been to a strip club:) 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 Went to a strip club with a GF once. The reason was we were visiting a small town and the only place with a licence to serve alcohol until 4am was a strip club. So it was purely done on a need for beer basis. (NFBB) Was a good laugh. We both got approached for lap dances but 60 quid was rather steep so we just got pissed on beers costing 8 quid each instead. We chatted to a few of the girls, all very friendly. We both left with some new FB friends! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 Oh dear, I'm afraid Mr & Mrs J A have seen my stepdaughter! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Mrs. John Adams Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 Midwest... My favorite dancer was Natalia ... And I tipped her well. If she is your step daughter... She is beautiful. Jenn...I may be old but this is not my first rodeo Mr ja and I are a very sexual couple. We did go to the tables and the girls gave me plenty of attention while I was there... So I know exactly what you mean.... I have one rule... No pain of any kind.. Physical or emotional As long as we play by the rules.. I am game for most anything. It has been quite a remarkable ride..... 4 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 Another reward for him would be to put on a real over the top show - at home. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
S_A Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 (edited) Guys would you like it if your gf wants to go to a strip club with you? Too weird or a huge turn on? Buying a private lap dance while she watches...yes or no? I took my GF to a strip club. It was her first time and she was always curious. I did not get a dance for myself but she got one. We got the hottest girl in the club to give her a dance. She liked it. The club we went to was in Vegas and it had male dancers up stairs and female dancers downstairs. We went to both; female section first, then male. My GF is "straight" but she ended up prefering the female strippers, so we ended up going back downstairs after a short while. I'd also add that my GF anticipated she'd prefer the male strippers more, but it didn't turn out that way. So I guess my point is that it is quite possible for a "straight" woman, who has never been to a strip club, to enjoy female strippers even when she thinks she won't. I say go for it! Edited March 4, 2016 by S_A 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 I have been to strip clubs without my guy - but with other guy friends. As a girl, it seemed like the private dances came for free (quick way to get the guys to buy some) My guy doesn't frequent strip clubs, but does go occasionally. I have zero problem with it - and enjoy hearing about what girls where there - who he got a dance from etc. We will be in Vegas later this month and plan on going to strip clubs together. We both enjoy the sexually charged atmosphere. Neither of us are the particularly jealous / possessive types. We don't try to pretend like other people aren't sexually attractive just because we are in a relationship together. - Thought it was funny - He was out of town for work last week, and his coworker wanted to go to a strip club so they went. My guy was telling me all about it - while his coworker FREAKED "you told your girl?! My wife would divorce me!" (and I know his wife, but I will keep my lips sealed). I don't get what the big deal is. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 I don't get what the big deal is either. It wouldn't bother me if mine went to strip clubs as long as he doesn't mind my going to an all male strip club. All would be good. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
S_A Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 Hmm. A few people have mentioned that they felt sexually charged atmosphere at the strip club. IIRC, I've been to a stip club 4 times, and not once can I say it felt sexually charged. I suppose it did feel a little sexually charged. To me it felt more like "business". RecentChange, since you're going to Vegas, consider seeing a Cirque Du Soleil show called Zumanity at New York New York. I've actually seen it twice. It has a sexual and sensual charge to it (there is nudity). It is my fave show and I've seen many Cirque shows. I think you'll love it! Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Peach Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 Long story short I don't think it has to impact your relationship but some guys will enjoy it more than others. I took an ex to an all nude strip club. I even picked out a girl who looked like his type and bought him and myself a dance. I love checking out women so I thought it would be more erotic than it was. I loved watching some of the pole/stage routines just because they looked hard. I didn't find it super erotic. I guess perhaps I would just rather have the woman to myself. I felt it was more like 'meh'. The BF I took didn't really care so much about the dancers. He loved the ego boost and bragging rights of having such an awesome GF who would take him there. We had watched porn together, gone to sex shops, etc. so I really didn't feel uncomfortable about it. It's come up a few times with my current BF. He thinks it's disrespectful to me, isn't comfortable, and would rather see me in those costumes. So with him I wouldn't do that with him. Instead I would just surprise him with some new lingerie. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 Hmm. A few people have mentioned that they felt sexually charged atmosphere at the strip club. IIRC, I've been to a stip club 4 times, and not once can I say it felt sexually charged. I suppose it did feel a little sexually charged. To me it felt more like "business". My husband says much the same - that it's not sexy. Link to post Share on other sites
kztar Posted March 5, 2016 Share Posted March 5, 2016 Going to a strip club with my man would be fun. At the end of the night he will come home with YOU and he will come please you. I don't see the big deal. I wish my ex was open to things like this , sounds like FUN. Sadly he was a boring person. If you are young, why not. YOLO. My motto. I celebrated a birthday at a strip club and I had so much fun. And Im a female. Never date someone boring lol piece of advice. They will consume you. Been there, done that = never again! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
PacMann87 Posted March 5, 2016 Share Posted March 5, 2016 No we're not into open relationships. The idea is that I'm there with him. It is part of a reward thing we are doing from a race/competition. He gets to choose something he wants if he wins and I get to choose something if I win. But I know he would like something sex related so I am trying to choose something fun for him as well. I brought up the idea to my friend and she thought he would find it a turn on but I wanted to know some guys' perspectives. I'm not worried at all that it would open "Pandora's box" like some are suggesting. He is pretty kinky and into watching porn together and stuff but he's not a cheater. I am more innocent and trying to do something he would like. My only hesitation is he might be too uncomfortable or embarrassed since it's a public thing. I guess I will choose something else. I hope he never reads these forums. Awesome idea for a little way to spice things up or reward him. It doesn't sound like your BF is some kind of lose cannon who will see it as anything more than a fun idea on your part. I've done this once with my gf. I think it's better done after a night out where you've both had a couple drinks. The time I did it, we went out for a friends birthday and when we were about to leave, a friend of mine jokingly said "strip club time?" to which we laughed... Then when we got in the cab, my gf said "I'm down to go, let's check it out" and we did just that. First time I ever had a girl with me at a strip club and my gf made it an awesome time. The strippers were actually really cool and paid her Alot of attention (free of charge). A couple came by and sat on her lap or the arm of the chair, and talked, joked around. They asked if she wanted a dance.. She declined but I think she would've done it if we ever go again. I didn't get a dance from any of the girls. We stayed maybe an hour, left and went home and had awesome sex. So it was def a nice treat and a turn on to see my gf in an atmosphere like that. Hard to explain why, just was sexy and because she was comfortable and not weirded out, made it ok for me to have fun. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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