UltimatePanacea Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 How far are you willing to drive for a date/to see someone you're interested in...is anything beyond 40 miles considered long distance?
LookAtThisPOst Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 How far are you willing to drive for a date/to see someone you're interested in...is anything beyond 40 miles considered long distance? I'd be willing to drive about an hour, thing is though...when I go to some these events about an hour away...they find out where I live and are like "Oh, you drove far!!" I would drive for them, but...they won't drive far for me.
al78 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 I don't have a car so for me it is anywhere I can get too up within about an hour, maybe a little more, by either cycling, public transport or a combination of both.
Toodaloo Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 I limit it to an hour/ hour and a half. Anything more and its not going to work out anyway. 2
smudge21 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 If I'm prepared to travel over an hour for work, then I'm prepared to do the same for date. Just got to keep in mind that it could affect any relationship if there is always a distance to travel and whether the date is open to making that journey themselves. However, at least it allows you the freedom to be far away if the date goes wrong, but also allows you that sneaky option to see if they'll "put you up" should the date go very well. 1
basil67 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 If I was dating.....half an hour's drive. Unless they lived at the beach or snow and were ok with sleepovers - in which case I could probably be persuaded to travel further. 1
Shining One Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 It depends on my date's stance on driving. I'll drive up to an hour if she has no problems with driving too. If she's one of those women who tends to give up all driving responsibilities a few dates in, then my limit is 30 minutes. 2
road Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 (edited) First thought is an hour. Based on we used to travel that amount of time into the city to visit relatives all the time. And it was very do-able, easy. Then there was a time when out of work I was willing to drive 2 hours to get a job in my old career because I was having trouble getting work and no way I would be able to come close to making that money doing anything else. Interviewed a lot of those 1-2 hour commute jobs. Never got one. Now I don't apply for those jobs any more for I am too old to handle such a long day. Though if I was young enough. Leave work 5 pm get home shower out the door by 6 even if it took 2 hours to get there 8 time for dinner, movie, any normal date activity. 12 good night kiss at the door. Home 2 am into bed. Up 6:30 - 7:30 to work by 8. Could handle this every other day no problem. Though when I was young gas was 29.9 a gallon. Now being older against me I also could not afford to drive 2 hours each way 4 - 5 times a week. And seeing how LDR do not work for others if you can only see a woman once a week the relationship will not last. Now how far would I drive? Well never being a woman magnet. Finding myself alone. Say by chance if a woman that I found very attractive wanted to date me. I'd man up and drive 2 hours to just get there. I have also been financially challenged in life as well. So sadly eventually this relationship would end the way LDR do because of the lack of time spent together and end or it would break me financially, leaving me with bald tires, and no more money left for a tank of gas. A tank full of gas, a tank full of gas my kingdom for a tank full of gas Take that Shakespeare I want to add being left with an empty gas tank, broke and alone. If I could I would do it again. For the need to have a better half is what drives men. Edited March 4, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Merge
tasev1 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 I'd say about an hour too. I have a Tinder girl moving from another province that wants to see me. She's moving to a city an hour away without traffic on the other side of a major city. Why am I going so far for someone I'm not really interested in? For the experience in the interaction, and because it's so rare that someone is very openly interested in me. I literally didn't have to do anything but respond to her messages, and before I knew it she's asking me out. 1
loveweary11 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 (How horny I am) + (Quality of Sex) + (Attractiveness) _______________________________________________________ (Tiredness) X 1000 Miles 5
Toodaloo Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 (How horny I am) + (Quality of Sex) + (Attractiveness) _______________________________________________________ (Tiredness) X 1000 Miles But you don't drive... 2
jen1447 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 I'll go across the country if the prospects are attractive and promising enough. 1
smackie9 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 Anytime I was dating, I thought in the long term. There was no way I was going to burn through a ton of gas/time to date someone....20 mins tops. Funny....my ex and my husband grew up in the same neighborhood.....just blocks from each other lol. 1
Redhead14 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 How far are you willing to drive for a date/to see someone you're interested in...is anything beyond 40 miles considered long distance? Ultimate, in your other post about the guy you cheated on, you cited the fact that the guy whined about having to drive to see you. If you are still analyzing that "relationship", don't waste your time or ours. If a guy is really into you, 40 miles or 100 miles, wouldn't make a difference, he'd figure it out. And, you'd be attempting to compromise too. You cheated on that guy, you say, because he didn't want to come to you and wasn't entertaining you well enough. Just move on. 1
loveweary11 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 But you don't drive... Ugh... Forgot the car rental/Uber rate correction factor!
Toodaloo Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 Ugh... Forgot the car rental/Uber rate correction factor! You mean your bike?
loveweary11 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 You mean your bike? Na. Haven't used it at all this winter. I walk, Uber or rent cars. Bikes are stolen constantly here. TBH, I just fly them in when they are too far away to make renting/driving or ubering worthwhile. What do you do? Ride your horse?
Toodaloo Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 What do you do? Ride your horse? No - I had him put down recently. His ashes are in the wardrobe. I drive my car.
central Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 I'd drive up to two hours one way. I prefer to meet in the middle if it's a first meeting, so generally that would be about an hour, worst case. I'd expect that we'd take turns visiting each other if we decide to continue, so all the burden isn't on one person all the time. I've also traveled 8000 miles for a date with someone I'd already met, though. I wouldn't do that unless the person and circumstances were exceptional, and there was a reasonable chance of relocating one of us in the near future.
AMJ Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 How far are you willing to drive for a date/to see someone you're interested in...is anything beyond 40 miles considered long distance? 40 miles in some places could be a 45 minute drive. In a big city, driving 10 miles could take an hour. I consider travel time not miles. I'd go an hour. Anything longer than that is too far. 2
Timshel Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 No - I had him put down recently. His ashes are in the wardrobe. I drive my car. When I was a girl, I used to ride my horse to town.......spend the whole day to get there and back. One day, I came across a group of older than me young folk sitting in a circle in the middle of a wide open field. I rode up to them and said hello, I was about 7/8. They were passing around a cigarette and asked if I wanted a drag......I politely declined as I did not smoke. I would ride a horse for an hour to see anyone, any day of the week. Driving...on the regular, not so much. 1
GorillaTheater Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 When I was a girl, I used to ride my horse to town.......spend the whole day to get there and back. One day, I came across a group of older than me young folk sitting in a circle in the middle of a wide open field. I rode up to them and said hello, I was about 7/8. They were passing around a cigarette and asked if I wanted a drag......I politely declined as I did not smoke. I would ride a horse for an hour to see anyone, any day of the week. Driving...on the regular, not so much. When she was a teen, my wife used to ride her horse through fast food drive-thrus. When I dated, an hour would take me to any where around here that actually had, you know, people, so that was fine. 1
Timshel Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 When she was a teen, my wife used to ride her horse through fast food drive-thrus. When I dated, an hour would take me to any where around here that actually had, you know, people, so that was fine. If only my small country town growing up had a drive through....heck yeh! Quality, move a bum for quality....all the time. 1
Author UltimatePanacea Posted March 4, 2016 Author Posted March 4, 2016 It depends on my date's stance on driving. I'll drive up to an hour if she has no problems with driving too. If she's one of those women who tends to give up all driving responsibilities a few dates in, then my limit is 30 minutes. An hour and half for 40-50 mi I'd do...and yeah I can see why you'd limit your driving to 30 min if the other date isn't willing to drive too...
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