Author Jones19 Posted June 29, 2005 Author Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer I wouldn't do it for that reason, but it does happen. I did it because they weren't worth the aggravation. She's only 20, which says a lot. I was thinking of ringing her and asking her if she fancied going for a meal this friday and say its booked for... If she say's yes then great but if she says No then i move on... what you think
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by Jones19 what you think You're an addict. "Just one more fix". "I'll give her up next week". Like all addicts, the day-to-day feeding of the addiction takes priority over long term health and happiness. Ironically, in this case you're steadily diminishing yourself in her eyes and thus ruining any remaining possibility of a long term relationship. But hey, if you can get your fix of a 2 minute conversation with her in which she tries to get rid of you. Btw, the logical conclusion here is that one day she will need to get a restraining order on you.
Author Jones19 Posted June 29, 2005 Author Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo You're an addict. "Just one more fix". "I'll give her up next week". Like all addicts, the day-to-day feeding of the addiction takes priority over long term health and happiness. Ironically, in this case you're steadily diminishing yourself in her eyes and thus ruining any remaining possibility of a long term relationship. But hey, if you can get your fix of a 2 minute conversation with her in which she tries to get rid of you. Btw, the logical conclusion here is that one day she will need to get a restraining order on you. Your right im just going have to give up i just can't get her out of my head
westernxer Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 You have to try, first of all, and even that takes time.
sanne Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 some solid advice here from westerner and romeo. i think all of us have made the same mistakes you have, and I really don't think you learn until you have made those mistakes. it's almost as if you have to make those mistakes to learn from them, no amount of advice can really teach that.
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 30, 2005 Posted June 30, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer You have to try, first of all, and even that takes time. Yup. You're probably gonna fail a few times too. But you need to start with the attitude of "I am gonna try to give her up, no matter what". Originally posted by sanne i think all of us have made the same mistakes you have, and I really don't think you learn until you have made those mistakes. it's almost as if you have to make those mistakes to learn from them, no amount of advice can really teach that. Yup.
Author Jones19 Posted July 1, 2005 Author Posted July 1, 2005 Well i really don't know what to do now... Im trying to give her space but tomorow night all my mates are going out i said i would and we are meeting up with my ex and her best mate who i know quite well. I said im going but i don't know if to or not i want to go out and have a good time but with meeting them it will be hard and i won't be able to enjoy myself. If any other lad talks to her im just going to get wound up i know it the last time we all went out together when we wasn't going out it ended up me going home like the thread on the other page says. What would you do go out and go with the flow and show her you can have a good time without her even tho she will be there and i won't be really or not go out at all? Help
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 1, 2005 Posted July 1, 2005 Originally posted by Jones19 Im trying to give her space but tomorow night all my mates are going out i said i would and we are meeting up with my ex and her best mate who i know quite well. Why? If my mates met Juliet, they'd give her a piece of their mind. Oh, hold on, some of them already have
Author Jones19 Posted July 1, 2005 Author Posted July 1, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo Why? If my mates met Juliet, they'd give her a piece of their mind. Oh, hold on, some of them already have So you would go?
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 Originally posted by Jones19 So you would go? Sorry - only just got this. How did it go? Were your mates supportive?
Author Jones19 Posted July 4, 2005 Author Posted July 4, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo Sorry - only just got this. How did it go? Were your mates supportive? Went out Wish i hadn't of done i knew i should have kept away... I tryed to keep kewl about stuff but after i was out at 6pm so by 11 i was pissed and i was talking to her and we had an argument and i went home. I know i upset her and apologized yesterday and she said if it doesn't stop then she as had enough. I told her it would and we can just be Friends if that what she wants...we agreed and everything. So I'm just going to stay away from now on let her contact me extra and keep away and even if she goes out with my mates and them are all together I'm just going to keep out of the way. At the end of July me and her family are going to the races its a traditional thing so by then she would have had her space hopefully missed me a bit and who knows. I know its a long shot but thats the only hope i have of getting her back. Good idea?
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 Originally posted by Jones19 I tryed to keep kewl about stuff but after i was out at 6pm so by 11 i was pissed and i was talking to her and we had an argument and i went home. I know i upset her and apologized yesterday and she said if it doesn't stop then she as had enough. I told her it would and we can just be Friends if that what she wants...we agreed and everything. Actually, I'm guessing from previous posts that the argument probably isn't the problem... sucking up to her afterwards is more the issue. So I'm just going to stay away from now on let her contact me extra and keep away and even if she goes out with my mates and them are all together I'm just going to keep out of the way. Good idea. But what's the link between her and your mates? I'd find an excuse to avoid the races, if I were you.
Author Jones19 Posted July 4, 2005 Author Posted July 4, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo Actually, I'm guessing from previous posts that the argument probably isn't the problem... sucking up to her afterwards is more the issue. Good idea. But what's the link between her and your mates? I'd find an excuse to avoid the races, if I were you. I can't miss the races for certain reason's like 2 deaths since the last time we went her boyfriend and sadly my auntie passed away a month back which was a shock so i have to go as you understand. Her and my mates dunno she says she really enjoys been out with us all as a group her and her best mate normally come out with her i know her best mate quite well also. She says that she ain't gonna come out with us anymore not until her birthday and she wants us all to go out and get along. Felt i needed to apologies dunno
Author Jones19 Posted July 6, 2005 Author Posted July 6, 2005 Well i didn't contact her yesterday for the first time in about 4 months i didn't ring her or send a text. She didn't ring or text me or anything. And today i ain't phoned or text her and she ain't the same.... feel gutted tho because we used to be so close and now i feel like Ive lost our love and friendship we always had something special. But Ive decided in me she as my number so if she wants me then maybe she should contact me and care about me for a change all she thinks about is herself Ive figured out.... It hurts because Ive lost alot from this the girl of my dreams and basically half of my mates aswell I'm gutted but can't do anything about it
Author Jones19 Posted July 8, 2005 Author Posted July 8, 2005 Ok i aint txt her for 4 days since monday and she aint me up untill a minute ago... She just sent me a txt saying Hi ..... you out sat? Should i reply or not... what would you do....
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by Jones19 Should i reply or not... what would you do.... Don't reply. Leave it at least a week. Then think twice.
Author Jones19 Posted July 8, 2005 Author Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo Don't reply. Leave it at least a week. Then think twice. Ok won't reply... All my mates and ex and her mate are going out again 2moz nite... Would you go or just avoid her for a while i know if i don't go she wiill wounder why and miss me im sure of it... Think i aint gonna go and see what comes from it
Author Jones19 Posted July 10, 2005 Author Posted July 10, 2005 Well went out last night and the ex bird was out and i choice 2 ignore that and enjoy my night. Well I'm glad i did i met someone else and we talked and kinda got together she is really nice and alot better than the ex never thought i would say that. I'm taking her out 2nite on a date thing so who knows it might work out i hope it does because she is gorgeous but if it doesn't least i have moved on from the ex. She sent me a txt this morning the ex saying how could i do it 2 her kiss someone else when she was about i never replyed ... What i thought was gonna be a **** weekend turned out great how life can change i feel so much better... Anywaz thats that but i would just like to thank everyone who as helped me out in this thread maybe i should have listened more but Ive learnt alot... I will still pop on here and tell you how things went.. But cheers for the support
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 Good result Jonesy... I look forward to hearing how it goes
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