ReluctantRomeo Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 No contact is difficult eh? Giving her up is like an addiction, like giving up smoking or drugs. But you have to be strong. Otherwise this is gonna carry on messing you up... she still has the upper hand and gets you to dance on command.
Author Jones19 Posted June 21, 2005 Author Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo No contact is difficult eh? Giving her up is like an addiction, like giving up smoking or drugs. But you have to be strong. Otherwise this is gonna carry on messing you up... she still has the upper hand and gets you to dance on command. True but i feel like i should help her and maybe r friendship will move onto more again. I don't want to lose her what can i say tomorrow night any ideas to get her back with me?
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by Jones19 True but i feel like i should help her and maybe r friendship will move onto more again. You'll hear this kind of rationalisation with addicts all the time. I don't want to lose her what can i say tomorrow night any ideas to get her back with me? No contact. Sorry man, I know it hurts, but it is the best way. Ever seen the movie "Swingers"? There is nothing you can do right now to bring her back - anything you say or do will make you lose respect in her eyes. Even to me you're looking pathetic right now, and I'm on your side. She has to come back by herself. If at all.
Author Jones19 Posted June 21, 2005 Author Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer She broke with you because of her dead ex? LOL. complicated
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by Jones19 complicated No kiddin'
Author Jones19 Posted June 21, 2005 Author Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo No kiddin' lol things just got a all lot complicated in the last 30 mins after she told me what she might be and i thought.
westernxer Posted June 22, 2005 Posted June 22, 2005 You don't want to be her friend, do you? I mean, can you honestly go from being romantic to just being friends? Tell her she's about to lose another ex if she keeps it up.
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 22, 2005 Posted June 22, 2005 Originally posted by Jones19 lol things just got a all lot complicated in the last 30 mins after she told me what she might be and i thought. What is she up to now? Be strong! Don't be her puppy dog.
Author Jones19 Posted June 23, 2005 Author Posted June 23, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo What is she up to now? Be strong! Don't be her puppy dog. Well i went round last night and we have got back together I asked her and she said we should be together and we both said we should take our time in the relationship. So hopefully we will stay together now for good. Cheers for everyone who helped.
Author Jones19 Posted June 25, 2005 Author Posted June 25, 2005 Well we met up last night,but she wasn't herself i tryed to understand but it was hard. We talked for most of the night. I asked her if anything was wrong she said she can't ive me what i need at the moment and i must understand that. I slept at her house but we just gave each other a good night kiss and went to sleep and it wasn't how it used to be. I want to stick with her obviously now we are going back out but do you think things will ever return back to normal?
fundamental Posted June 25, 2005 Posted June 25, 2005 Originally posted by Jones19 Well we met up last night,but she wasn't herself i tryed to understand but it was hard. We talked for most of the night. I asked her if anything was wrong she said she can't ive me what i need at the moment and i must understand that. I slept at her house but we just gave each other a good night kiss and went to sleep and it wasn't how it used to be. I want to stick with her obviously now we are going back out but do you think things will ever return back to normal? This is what happens when you give people ultimatums. Before she was getting what she wanted and you were not, now you are and she is not. It never works.
Author Jones19 Posted June 28, 2005 Author Posted June 28, 2005 Thought i would keep you updated. Well we aint together again she decided that she needed space again I'm lost in what to do she says she likes me still and we will be together but just to give her time. We spoke on the net last night and we worked things out she said she wanted me but only as a friend she said she is my best friend in the world. I still lost in it all i keep thinking to myself why cant i be with her if we are made for each other. We txted each other this morning like the old times but i can't go on like this i just want to be with her.
westernxer Posted June 28, 2005 Posted June 28, 2005 Originally posted by Jones19 I still lost in it all i keep thinking to myself why cant i be with her if we are made for each other. Every person in love says this... doesn't mean they're right. You need to change your approach if you're to survive this.
Author Jones19 Posted June 28, 2005 Author Posted June 28, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Every person in love says this... doesn't mean they're right. You need to change your approach if you're to survive this. No Contact then or just try and make her miss me a little?
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer You need to change your approach if you're to survive this. Yes, exactly. Originally posted by westernxer No contact, so you can get over her. And yes again. Jonesy, look at the results you're getting by hanging around with her. She does as she pleases, you get messed up. Moreover, she is losing respect for you every time you beg. If you want different results, you have to do something different. As I said before mark 1 month on your calendar and do absolutely no contact for that time.
Author Jones19 Posted June 29, 2005 Author Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo Yes, exactly. And yes again. Jonesy, look at the results you're getting by hanging around with her. She does as she pleases, you get messed up. Moreover, she is losing respect for you every time you beg. If you want different results, you have to do something different. As I said before mark 1 month on your calendar and do absolutely no contact for that time. Well i aint txt her or anything 2day i feel pretty down not myself,She aint txt me either so i wouldn't be surprised if she asks me why i aint got in touch with her if she does txt me. I just feel if i don't contact her and stuff she will get someone else e.g my mate and thats what makes me want to be in-touch with her
westernxer Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by Jones19 I just feel if i don't contact her and stuff she will get someone else e.g my mate and thats what makes me want to be in-touch with her What's the difference if she only wants you as a friend?
Author Jones19 Posted June 29, 2005 Author Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo Yes, exactly. And yes again. Jonesy, look at the results you're getting by hanging around with her. She does as she pleases, you get messed up. Moreover, she is losing respect for you every time you beg. If you want different results, you have to do something different. As I said before mark 1 month on your calendar and do absolutely no contact for that time. Well i aint had any contact with her today i aint txt her on anything. She aint txt me or anything but if she does i bet she will ask why i aint been in touch. I feel pretty low and not myself i feel that if i don't contact her and stuff then she might get someone else e.g my mate thats what hurts i really want to be with her and
Author Jones19 Posted June 29, 2005 Author Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer What's the difference if she only wants you as a friend? Dunno guess we have been friends for that long i don't wnat to lose her that way aswell but if i don't contact her she might think of me like i never cared about her.... She said the other night that we would get back together but i know i can't keep thinking that...
westernxer Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by Jones19 Dunno guess we have been friends for that long i don't wnat to lose her that way aswell but if i don't contact her she might think of me like i never cared about her.... She said the other night that we would get back together but i know i can't keep thinking that... You can be her friend if you like, but if it's killing you inside, then you have to distance yourself. Nothing wrong with having a little pride... she may hate you for it, but she'll respect the fact that you have teeth, and she may even dig you for it. It's worked for me.
Author Jones19 Posted June 29, 2005 Author Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer You can be her friend if you like, but if it's killing you inside, then you have to distance yourself. Nothing wrong with having a little pride... she may hate you for it, but she'll respect the fact that you have teeth, and she may even dig you for it. It's worked for me. do you think it will make her come back to me? Cheers for the help btw
westernxer Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 I wouldn't do it for that reason, but it does happen. I did it because they weren't worth the aggravation. She's only 20, which says a lot.
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