raider09 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Ok so me and this girl have been hanging out on 2 occasions. we had a great time together not much intimacy but, we converse alot. we really dont text each other at all. what should i do next should i ask her out on a third date. i'm just in a state of unknowing i wanna continue seeing her but, the fact that we only hangout but we dont stay in constant communication leaves me weary.
preraph Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Constant communication is a burden on anyone who has a job or family or whatever. Why do you need constant communication? Are you insecure a lot that you need constant assurances or something? If so, better work on that. Don't know how you could be "weary" after two get-togethers. You've hung out, but have you taken her out on a real date, where you buy dinner or a movie and pick her up and hold her chair and act like a gentleman and then kiss her when you drop her off? Because hanging out could just mean friendship. But a real date at least tells her "I am for real dating you, not just hanging out." So ask her on a real date. Kiss her at the end of the night. Then ask her out again and progress as it feels natural to do so. Good luck. Don't pressure her by trying to keep tabs on her every day. It's immature and/or insecure. 1
smackie9 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 To me if there isn't much intimacy/ flirting, and not much communication/ flirty text, excited to see you, then there isn't much interest. it won't make a hill of beans difference if you try to make a move. You make a move if there is excitement/sexual tension, not when a timer goes off and you have to by the second or third time you see each other.
Jabron1 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Ok so me and this girl have been hanging out on 2 occasions. we had a great time together not much intimacy but, we converse alot. we really dont text each other at all. what should i do next should i ask her out on a third date. i'm just in a state of unknowing i wanna continue seeing her but, the fact that we only hangout but we dont stay in constant communication leaves me weary. You escalate. That means if you have the number, you start texting. If you're texting, you ask her out. If you're out with her, you up the flirting and physical contact. Don't accept being put in the 'grey zone' where you don't know where you stand. Always, always escalate. It filters out the users and timewasters. 1
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