he has a girlfriend

[sadpanda3]

A few weeks ago I broke it off with a guy I had a few dates with because I wasn't happy with the way he behaved around me and didn't see it going anywhere. I haven't thought about him in weeks. Today I found out he has a girlfriend. Even though I had already rejected him, we didn't get intimate and I wasn't emotionally attached....this stung.

 

It's not the first time I get approached by a man in a relationship and I'm starting to feel like there's a sign on my head saying "I want to be the side chick". Luckily I weed them out after three dates at most (there's always clues and they usually have some bad character traits) but it's super frustrating and humiliating. I also get approached by great guys, but finding out a few of them are douches still hurts.

 

Guess I just need to vent. I feel humiliated, like a fool and like I give off the wrong vibe. Like there's something wrong with me that attracts this type of guy.

[thecrucible]

I would honestly just put it down to bad luck. Don't let it drag on your self-esteem. Also at least you managed to avoid getting too close to him. How did you guys meet?

[sadpanda3]

I would honestly just put it down to bad luck. Don't let it drag on your self-esteem. Also at least you managed to avoid getting too close to him. How did you guys meet?

 

At an indian cooking class. We have similar interests so he asked for my number.

 

I found out through social media. He used a pseudo....it's actually pretty amazing I even found out.

[AMJ]

I think sometimes men who are in dull relationships are drawn to women who are the opposite of their partners. Don't take this personally, he's a jerk. Be glad you're smart enough not to get sucked in to his BS.

[smackie9]

I don't condone telling the GF when both parties know going in that they are in a relationship. But when you are deceived like that, it would be worth forwarding this info to her.