xingyi Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 (edited) I have been with this guy on and off for a few months. My gut tells me that he is a womanizer When I am hanging out with him, he just can't stop looking at other cute girls. I know guys are visual and would like to look at cute girls, but my point is,one or two quick glance is fine, but this guy keeps staring at the girls, sometimes he would turn around to look at those attractive girls. This makes me uncomfortable. I told him about it before, but he still doesn't change. I think it is a big reg flag and I think guys like this are more likely to cheat... Am I being insecure or this guy has an issue? Edited March 3, 2016 by xingyi
Marco Pierre Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Hey I think you are tight to be concerned. As a male I can relate to this guys behaviour as of course I notice cute girls. However his behaviour is really that if a single guy. Personally i dont find it too difficult to resist the urge to look and give all my undivided attention to my date It sounds like a question of respect. There are plenty of times he can look at girls im sure he doesnt need to while he is with you, he is choosing you. You could just lool and smile at attractive guys. See what reaction you get. If you think that is too immature you should confront him Hope this helps
Author xingyi Posted March 3, 2016 Author Posted March 3, 2016 Hey I think you are tight to be concerned. As a male I can relate to this guys behaviour as of course I notice cute girls. However his behaviour is really that if a single guy. Personally i dont find it too difficult to resist the urge to look and give all my undivided attention to my date It sounds like a question of respect. There are plenty of times he can look at girls im sure he doesnt need to while he is with you, he is choosing you. You could just lool and smile at attractive guys. See what reaction you get. If you think that is too immature you should confront him Hope this helps Hey I agree what you said. I think that he is disrespectful. He just can't help looking at the cute girls.. When he saw a cute girl either at a restaurant or in the mall, he became so excited...I think I will leave him.
thecrucible Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Yes leave him. If you're with a guy and his attention is more on other women around than on you, then he's not into you. I had a guy who did this to me and my friends only told me they noticed this after he broke up with me. But if I'd have known it would have given me a heads up. 2
elaine567 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 When I am hanging out with him, he just can't stop looking at other cute girls. I know guys are visual and would like to look at cute girls, but my point is,one or two quick glance is fine, but this guy keeps staring at the girls, sometimes he would turn around to look at those attractive girls. I would guess a real player would be a lot more subtle, players know how to seduce women. The last thing they need is to upset the woman they want to sleep with. They may jump into bed with anything that moves, but they tend to know how to act around women in public. This guy sounds like a jerk, he is clueless about how to act around a woman, his "eyes on stalks" behaviour is rude and disrespectful and if he never learns when it is mentioned that you do not like it, he needs dumping, sorry! 1
elaine567 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 When he saw a cute girl either at a restaurant or in the mall, he became so excited.... Ugh! Yes, you definitely need to leave him. 1
Author xingyi Posted March 3, 2016 Author Posted March 3, 2016 Yes leave him. If you're with a guy and his attention is more on other women around than on you, then he's not into you. I had a guy who did this to me and my friends only told me they noticed this after he broke up with me. But if I'd have known it would have given me a heads up. When I said to him "you are not into me", he never denied. He is not into me, otherwise he would not act like that when he was out with me. It seemed like he was more interested in other good looking girls. But the funny thing is, he always wanted to spend his weekends with me. I guess that is because he is lonely and wants the easy sex
Author xingyi Posted March 3, 2016 Author Posted March 3, 2016 I would guess a real player would be a lot more subtle, players know how to seduce women. The last thing they need is to upset the woman they want to sleep with. They may jump into bed with anything that moves, but they tend to know how to act around women in public. This guy sounds like a jerk, he is clueless about how to act around a woman, his "eyes on stalks" behaviour is rude and disrespectful and if he never learns when it is mentioned that you do not like it, he needs dumping, sorry! Yes I am gonna dump him. It is him who always contact me and wants to hang out. I guess no women want to be with a guy like that. In the meantime, he still talks to other girls on the dating sites and he is very cheap as well 1
preraph Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 I have been with this guy on and off for a few months. My gut tells me that he is a womanizer When I am hanging out with him, he just can't stop looking at other cute girls. I know guys are visual and would like to look at cute girls, but my point is,one or two quick glance is fine, but this guy keeps staring at the girls, sometimes he would turn around to look at those attractive girls. This makes me uncomfortable. I told him about it before, but he still doesn't change. I think it is a big reg flag and I think guys like this are more likely to cheat... Am I being insecure or this guy has an issue? Besides being a womanizer, it's just plain rude to do that when you're with someone. If a man was really into you, they'd never at least let you catch them looking at another woman while they're with you. They'd be too busy looking at you. 2
smackie9 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Tip: date those who treat you the way you want to be treated.....with respect.
Maggie4 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Turn around to stare?! That's not just looking. This is a guy who disrespects women. He stares at women as if they are objects, like staring at a car. He doesn't care that those girls are human beings with feelings. It's a sort of bullying that some men do to women, but they don't stare at men because other men will come over and say, "you have a problem?" But women, especially young girls just take it. It is extremely rude to stare. One time I saw a tall feisty blond refuse to take it, she confronted him and completely humiliated the sorry little man who was staring. Dump him. He's embarrassing. 2
brokengirl85 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 I don't know about a womanizer, but he surely is disrespectful. I don't think he's much into you if he keeps staring at others. If you think it's worth it, talk to him. Otherwise, just dump him and find someone who'll give you their full attention. 1
Jabron1 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 He stares at women as if they are objects, like staring at a car. He doesn't care that those girls are human beings with feelings. Eye contact is, and always will be, a way for two strangers to signal attraction. It's a sort of bullying that some men do to women Earlier this week whilst waiting for my train, a girl was staring at me, playing with her hair, and showing the inside of her wrist (a submissive gesture). Clear signals to approach, or was I being bullied? but they don't stare at men because other men will come over and say, "you have a problem?" Man staring at man = fight Man staring at woman = sex Animal tendencies and basic nature. One time I saw a tall feisty blond refuse to take it, she confronted him and completely humiliated the sorry little man who was staring. She sounds delightful Any man that allows a woman to dominate him in public like that is pathetic, and would never be able to handle a 'feisty' woman anyway. As for the OP's situation, It's hard to tell whether he's a 'player' or not. Any man can stare at women. However, if I tell someone to change something that I don't like, and they ignore me, they get dumped. Don't keep telling him. If he didn't take your concern seriously, then he doesn't take you seriously. Next him.
Maggie4 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Jabron1 you don't understand the kind of staring I am talking about. I know the kind you're talking about, eye contact to signal attraction. The kind of staring I'm talking about is not at all friendly! 1
Rumely Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Like others have said, he's just a jerk. My guess is there are many other ways he's inconsiderate also.
Author xingyi Posted March 3, 2016 Author Posted March 3, 2016 Turn around to stare?! That's not just looking. This is a guy who disrespects women. He stares at women as if they are objects, like staring at a car. He doesn't care that those girls are human beings with feelings. It's a sort of bullying that some men do to women, but they don't stare at men because other men will come over and say, "you have a problem?" But women, especially young girls just take it. It is extremely rude to stare. One time I saw a tall feisty blond refuse to take it, she confronted him and completely humiliated the sorry little man who was staring. Dump him. He's embarrassing. You are right. That was how he approached me. He sees woman as a target, and he doesn't think he has a problem. He said that he was being single for a long time and had lots of bad habits when I questioned that. We broke up then went back together, but he still didn't change, maybe he thought I didn't notice when he was staring at other women, but I had been very aware of it
Author xingyi Posted March 3, 2016 Author Posted March 3, 2016 (edited) Like others have said, he's just a jerk. My guess is there are many other ways he's inconsiderate also. absolutely. he is very cheap, and would shout at me and say something extremely rude when he was angry Edited March 3, 2016 by xingyi
stillafool Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 When I said to him "you are not into me", he never denied. He is not into me, otherwise he would not act like that when he was out with me. It seemed like he was more interested in other good looking girls. But the funny thing is, he always wanted to spend his weekends with me. I guess that is because he is lonely and wants the easy sex Why do you let him use you? This is the same hook-up guy you've been seeing since May? Why haven't you learned by now about this guy and why do you keep seeing him?
morrowrd Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 When I am in a relationship, I make a point of making my girlfriend feel like she's the only girl on earth who matters. Doesn't mean I don't see beauty when it's in front of me, but if I love someone, I respect them. Googling other women isn't very respectful to you. I also don't think flirting or doing anything else with the opposite sex that you "probably shouldn't see" to be disrespectful. Again, that's me talking. And honestly I believe those words are right, what can't be seen or shared, is questionable. Disrespectful to the relationship you are in.
Jabron1 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 You are right. That was how he approached me. He sees woman as a target, and he doesn't think he has a problem. He's a 'player' alright It can't be helped. When a guy approaches a lot of women, he goes into hunting mode. Your eyes just tend to scan, and you pick up on little things. A few weeks ago, I had a woman walk past me that really caught my eye. She was attractive, and dressed to impress, but there was also something else about her... so I considered approaching. I had a quick look around, and I looked back from where she came to see a man standing in a doorway giving me the biggest evil stare. It took me a few seconds to realise, she had just been in his place for a hook-up. It was the middle of the day, so perhaps they were cheating or doing something they shouldn't. That was why she walked with a kind of vibrancy that had attracted my attention. And this guy could tell that I was checking her out (I had stopped dead in my tracks when I saw her), and he was being protective. After you do a few hundred approaches, you start to pick up on lots of little things But being in a 'hunting mode' whilst on a date is just ridiculous. It's a sure sign that he doesn't respect you. Mentally, he is looking for other options - even while he is in your company. That is completely unacceptable.
katiegrl Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 (edited) I once dated a guy (briefly) who did this....and I called him out and he admitted to me he did it for the sole purpose of eliciting a jealous reaction from me (or attempting to) because HE was insecure... and wanted to see how I would react! It was a while ago but I believe I dumped him after that night. So perhaps he's not so much a player but just insecure? Just a thought. Edited March 3, 2016 by katiegrl
Author xingyi Posted March 4, 2016 Author Posted March 4, 2016 He's a 'player' alright It can't be helped. When a guy approaches a lot of women, he goes into hunting mode. Your eyes just tend to scan, and you pick up on little things. A few weeks ago, I had a woman walk past me that really caught my eye. She was attractive, and dressed to impress, but there was also something else about her... so I considered approaching. I had a quick look around, and I looked back from where she came to see a man standing in a doorway giving me the biggest evil stare. It took me a few seconds to realise, she had just been in his place for a hook-up. It was the middle of the day, so perhaps they were cheating or doing something they shouldn't. That was why she walked with a kind of vibrancy that had attracted my attention. And this guy could tell that I was checking her out (I had stopped dead in my tracks when I saw her), and he was being protective. After you do a few hundred approaches, you start to pick up on lots of little things But being in a 'hunting mode' whilst on a date is just ridiculous. It's a sure sign that he doesn't respect you. Mentally, he is looking for other options - even while he is in your company. That is completely unacceptable. Thanks for your perspective as a guy. He loves women too much to just focus on me and he always keeps his options open. I will just dump him and ignore all his texts
Author xingyi Posted March 4, 2016 Author Posted March 4, 2016 I once dated a guy (briefly) who did this....and I called him out and he admitted to me he did it for the sole purpose of eliciting a jealous reaction from me (or attempting to) because HE was insecure... and wanted to see how I would react! It was a while ago but I believe I dumped him after that night. So perhaps he's not so much a player but just insecure? Just a thought. He is insecure. He is about 5'3" tall and lost half of his hair since his middle 20's. But i guess he is addicted to small Asian women. So whenever he sees a cute asian girl, he starts to stare. I caught him staring at girls several times when he thought i wasn't looking. I am very sure that he did this not because he wanted me to feel jealous, but because he isn't into me and he has fetish
Maggie4 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 He is insecure. He is about 5'3" tall and lost half of his hair since his middle 20's. But i guess he is addicted to small Asian women. So whenever he sees a cute asian girl, he starts to stare. I caught him staring at girls several times when he thought i wasn't looking. I am very sure that he did this not because he wanted me to feel jealous, but because he isn't into me and he has fetish Yup. This is not an average western guy approaching a woman for a date. This is the lascivious eyes. In Asian movies, girls call him "color wolf", at least that's what the subtitles say, ha ha.
stillafool Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 He is insecure. He is about 5'3" tall and lost half of his hair since his middle 20's. But i guess he is addicted to small Asian women. So whenever he sees a cute asian girl, he starts to stare. I caught him staring at girls several times when he thought i wasn't looking. I am very sure that he did this not because he wanted me to feel jealous, but because he isn't into me and he has fetish I don't know if it's a fetish or he's just attracted to women his size or smaller. The probably make him feel more masculine.
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