Mclaughlin12 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 My ex and I broke up in October and 3 weeks later she was already dating someone new. I did the usual wrong stuff. I begged and pleaded which obviously didn't work. I did research on her new guy and it turns out he pretty different from me. He also seemed different for her, however, she seemed to have changed to make it seem like she likes the same stuff he does. My ex blocked me on all social media after we broke up so I had no way of communicating with her anyway, a couple weeks ago, I saw my ex in the store where she works. Later that night, she sent me a friend request on Facebook. I ignored it and the next morning it was gone. Later that night, she sent me a facebook message asking how I was. We got into some small talk and then she went into this elaborate apology about our breakup, admitting it was mostly her fault and that she was sorry and wants to be friends. I told her I cant be friends because I still have strong feelings for her. She responded by saying she wishes she could fix everything and theres so much I dont know and so much she wishes she could say but can't. She said she would be there if i ever needed anything and to not be shy. Then, the next day, she blocked me again. So she says don't be shy to talk to her but then she blocks me? It seems like its all a game. What is she doing?
kztar Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 This is why YOU have to block her and maintain NC with her. Breadcrumbs all over and it does not help you heal. Now you're asking all these questions as of why this and that when to her it probably means nothing. Implement NC and see how you feel one or more years down the line. If you feel like you can talk to her you unblock her everywhere. Now if she contacts you then, see if she has those answers you want now but by then you probably wont even care. 1
sadpanda3 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 She probably expected you to be all emotional, agreeing to being friends and give her a major ego boost...didn't happen so she got pissed and blocked you. You're better off without her. 1
mightycpa Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 That was a hit-and-run **** with your head conversation.
Summer3 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 We got into some small talk and then she went into this elaborate apology about our breakup, admitting it was mostly her fault and that she was sorry and wants to be friends. I told her I cant be friends because I still have strong feelings for her. She responded by saying she wishes she could fix everything and theres so much I dont know and so much she wishes she could say but can't. She said she would be there if i ever needed anything and to not be shy. Then, the next day, she blocked me again. So she says don't be shy to talk to her but then she blocks me? It seems like its all a game. What is she doing? I don't know your girlfriend. If she's malicious then yes, it's a game. If she isn't and she was a decent person then her behavior sounds common. She misses you but then she knows she has to let you go but then she thinks "Oh wait we can be friends..maybe..."then she realizes she can't and she blocks you. That's my guess.
Author Mclaughlin12 Posted March 4, 2016 Author Posted March 4, 2016 Sadpanda, I agree with you. She said she didn't want it to be awkward if we ever saw each other at the store from then on, but I think since I declined friendship, her ego boost was denied and she got pissed off. If I'm ever in there now and see her, she purposefully tries to make no eye contact or will only look at me for a fraction of a second, or in one instance, turn her back to me completely
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