Heart Broken8 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 (edited) Hello Everybody. I got a little bit of a situation here. My girlfriend who I love to death and we've been together for about a year and a half wants me to move in with her. But the problem is that she has a 20 year old in the house that sit's around and play video games and eat up everything and he shows no responsibility. She has one that is 18 but I'll give him a little bit of credit because he's just getting out of school and he has plans for his future, but how do I tell her that I'm not ready until she get her priorities straight at home. I don't want to hurt her feelings but I can not take care of an almost grown man that is not willing to change. Since he got out of high school at the age of 18 all he does is sit around and feed off of her and she can't really support him with the income she makes but she doesn't tell him anything. Everyday he says things like mom I want a #1 from McDonalds or mom I want a #4 from Burger King or mom I want the new video game and it ticks me off because she is hurting herself because she doesn't make a lot of money and keeps doing it and he keeps quitting job after job. It's almost as if I don't move in with her that our relationship might be over with. WHAT SHOULD I DO? Edited March 3, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
PegNosePete Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 She forgave you for your cheating, then? And now 3 weeks later she is asking you to move in? Her kids will always, I repeat always come first. If you ask her to choose then you will lose. You have a choice, you can either move in with her and accept her kids, or you can say no thanks I prefer to carry on living in my place.
Rockdad Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 I'm in the service business and in a lot of homes. I witness this exact thing all the time. They have no incentive to not be a veg. Sure they may go crash at a friends for a few days but they boomerang back when they need money or they wear out their welcome. He is not likely going anywhere very soon. If you move in and there is a conflict between you and the kid her ultimate allegiance will be with her kid. My personal opinion is don't consider moving in unless you can live with a lazy veg, keep your mouth shut and attitude in check.
CarrieT Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Yeah, based on your First Thread about you sleeping with an older woman for money, I would say you have a lot of other things to deal with than a 20-year old who plays video games...
d0nnivain Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 I didn't read the back story but it sounds like a doozy. Taking this Q in context just tell her that you recognize her kids are important to her but you hope she can understand that you are not at point where you want to live with them. Don't say anything bad about the kids. Encourage her to run her family the way she sees fit but if you aren't up for the package deal, don't do it. 2
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