MikePage Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Hello people! Hope yall doing great So.. As millions of others relationshp issues start: "My girlfriend went to the college" and met a handsome guy, and they talked like everyday for 2 or 3 months, they traded like 20.000 facebook messages (I snooped her once), she keep saying they were only friends but... In my mind i would never talk every day and excessively with a friend over facebook i mean ??? It just doenst make sense.. I keep ****ing getting pissed off everytime i remember that. Right now they dont talk anymore BECAUSE he got a girlfriend, who is actually kinda similiar-looking as my gf, like cute looking and ****s. Should i rly stay with this girl? I mean... Thats a disrespectful behavior, i kept telling her that was bothering the time that was happening, and she didnt respected it cus "he was only a friend". Tbrh that never escalated into more than a friendship for unknown factors where im not included. What should i do guys? Forget this bull**** and stay with her, or stick to it and ****ing move on?
Marco Pierre Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Iv been through a similar thing so Im relating on a level. However my girl had become 'friends' with a guy while we were together but going through a bad patch where we werent ****ing or even really talking just fighting. Originally he was dating her manager at work. When we broke up a couple months later it took her a few weeks to sleep with him and I beleive considered a relationship with him. It didnt wkrk and later that year, foolishly we got back together but it didnt work. I couldnt get over it. Take from this what you will buddy and make up your own mind
PegNosePete Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 I would say the chances that they are "just" friends is very small. If they are just friends then why stop talking when he got a gf? Does not add up. There is certainly something you don't know, here.
PacMann87 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 Since you know they aren't talking anymore then don't bring it up and make something out of it now for no reason. She's never going to tell you if she booked ho with him so stop tortutinf yourself by thinking about this guy. He's got another girlfriend so tell yourself that he wasn't interest in your gf if he was able to start dating someone else. (Doesn't mean he never did anything. With her but it's the truth you need to force yourself to believe) Anytime a guy harps on bringing up his girlfriends "guy friends" it just makes you look weak and less desireable in her eyes. You want to make it appear like you are the one who is confident and she should worry about another girl stealing you away while she's at college. She ovfioisly isn't worried and feels like you are just waiting for her to come back to you. The only way your relationship will last and she won't cheat, is if she feels like you will fall out of love with her or fall for someone else if she doesn't work hard to stay in your life and mind. Lastly... Your gf is at college. Guys don't text message, hang out, and Facebook message "buddies" who are girls. She doesn't need more guy friends to pal around with. They're not talking about politics or schoolwork during their chats... They're talking about whose dorm room they should have sex in tonight and who's roommate will be out. Don't be naive
ExpatInItaly Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 I don't buy that they were just friends. There was a bigger connection there. They're not talking anymore, but that doesn't address the underlying problem...which is that your girlfriend is apparently looking outside the relationship for emotional connections. This is not good. There is a leak in your relationship. How long have you been together, and how has the relationship been in general?
Popsicle Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 Hello people! Hope yall doing great So.. As millions of others relationshp issues start: "My girlfriend went to the college" and met a handsome guy, and they talked like everyday for 2 or 3 months, they traded like 20.000 facebook messages (I snooped her once), she keep saying they were only friends but... In my mind i would never talk every day and excessively with a friend over facebook i mean ??? It just doenst make sense.. I keep ****ing getting pissed off everytime i remember that. Right now they dont talk anymore BECAUSE he got a girlfriend, who is actually kinda similiar-looking as my gf, like cute looking and ****s. Should i rly stay with this girl? I mean... Thats a disrespectful behavior, i kept telling her that was bothering the time that was happening, and she didnt respected it cus "he was only a friend". Tbrh that never escalated into more than a friendship for unknown factors where im not included. What should i do guys? Forget this bull**** and stay with her, or stick to it and ****ing move on? Are you two long distance? If so, that would be your #1 problem to worry about. I'm guess you two are 18-19? That is so you young... far too young to be so serious or settle down, anyway. I, too, think that having "BFF's" of the opposite sex is disrespectful when you're in a relationship, but at such a young age, young people still need to socialize and explore the world and people. You don't even know about life and people yet and that's how you learn! Maybe you shouldn't be in such a heavy commitment right now. The both of you's!
Author MikePage Posted March 4, 2016 Author Posted March 4, 2016 I would say the chances that they are "just" friends is very small. If they are just friends then why stop talking when he got a gf? Does not add up. There is certainly something you don't know, here. Thats exactly what i thought.. She keep saying she only saw him as a friend... Still, having a girlfriend that green light a guy into those number of messages really bothers my mind
Author MikePage Posted March 4, 2016 Author Posted March 4, 2016 I don't buy that they were just friends. There was a bigger connection there. They're not talking anymore, but that doesn't address the underlying problem...which is that your girlfriend is apparently looking outside the relationship for emotional connections. This is not good. There is a leak in your relationship. How long have you been together, and how has the relationship been in general? Thats exactly what i think... 1 year, 2-3 times per week
truth_seeker Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 For one, the guy doesn't respect you knowing she is dating you and he's pursuing her... second, and this is the bigger issue, your girlfriend doesn't respect your relationship by chatting up this guy so much. Remember: there are women who treat relationships, men like jobs. Make sure a better, new one is lined up before leaving the current one. She could be setting this up to jump ship to him and then one day give you some BS that it wasn't working out or create drama to make you out to be the bad guy and justify her leaving you for him.
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