AMJ Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 I don't want to fall into the overthinking hole, but let's say I don't do the asking out—how should I best convey interest in being asked out without actually pulling the trigger and asking? I also don't want to spend days/weeks speculating. Asking what a person's plans are for the weekend is usually showing that you'd like to participate in those plans, I think. I've also tried- unsuccessfully- to drop this type of hint- I really want to see this exhibit at this museum, but don't have anyone to go with. Or, fill in the blank with any other activity. New bar I want to try out, band playing that I'd love to see, hike I want to try..etc. More often than not I find if a guy is oblivious, he needs me to just be blunt about it. 2
Author losangelena Posted March 5, 2016 Author Posted March 5, 2016 Asking what a person's plans are for the weekend is usually showing that you'd like to participate in those plans, I think. I've also tried- unsuccessfully- to drop this type of hint- I really want to see this exhibit at this museum, but don't have anyone to go with. Or, fill in the blank with any other activity. New bar I want to try out, band playing that I'd love to see, hike I want to try..etc. More often than not I find if a guy is oblivious, he needs me to just be blunt about it. Yeah, subtlety isn't really my bag. I try to just let a guy know I'm interested and let him take the ball. I was out with a girlfriend last night for happy hour. It was 7:00 and I hadn't heard from him, but when I texted him, he texted back right away. I invited him to the place where HH was, but he said he wasn't going out until later, like 10:00. He did eventually ask what I was doing this weekend, but I'm leaving this morning for a overnighter to Death Valley. Anyway, I think I was pretty direct, inviting him to join, so at this point I'm just gonna wait and see what happens. 1
Popsicle Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 That's great. See, everyone should have birthday parties. 1
Author losangelena Posted March 8, 2016 Author Posted March 8, 2016 Well, I'm beginning to think this guy is just a serial texter. He texted me yesterday, asking how Death Valley was. I told him we were still there, and we had a bit of an exchange. There wasn't a lot of reception in and out of the park, so when we were finally back to civilization, I asked how his weekend was, and he was like, "alright, I didn't do anything too exciting." It's like he gives me nothing to hook into to ask more questions, his answers are near monosyllabic at times. It's like, why do you ask me how things are going if you don't sound all that interested in talking? Later, I asked him a couple of questions about Las Vegas, and he sent a reply I didn't get a chance to reply to, because I'd passed out in bed. It's so dumb and frustrating. I'm not really interested in having a text buddy. If he asked me out, I would go, but I'm not going to wait around forever. I think I'll give him through the end of this week, and if he doesn't step up, then I MIGHT ask him out one more time, and then I'm gonna forget it.
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