fireflywy Posted March 5, 2016 Posted March 5, 2016 (edited) That might be one of the reasons I am hung up on her, but also because I never had this much fun in a relationship.Ever. This was the first time I lived with someone and we even have a cat together that we treat her like a daughter. We go on so many adventures together. I'm just so devastated at the fact that I will not have this with a girl for a long long time because I am only 21 and still on college. The guy that she is talking to is 25 and he recently came out of a 6 year relationship (according to her). He is also her ethnicity. He has tattoos and works out a lot. I work out a lot too. Do you think he would actually go out with her, especially since he came out of such a long relationship. He is also 7 years older than her, but idk if that effects how he feels about her. Stop. Just stop. Do you hear yourself man? You're comparing BODIES. You can talk about how much "fun" the relationship was in other areas but the bulk of your focus is on the physical I.e. we did this, we did that, I'm this, HE'S that. Who cares if he can lift a truck like Superman, looks like a walking mural, or makes sex like he's a porn star? IT'S OVER except for the ripples, ripples that YOU stir up with these thoughts. Drop those B.S. thoughts and drop them YESTERDAY and let the ripples subside. SHE'S no good for you man. Thats all that matters and needs exist in this your world now. Nothing else. You are also only 21 and in college. You have an ENTIRE WORLD of possibilities and fun waiting for you if you let this one go. I envy you in that regard. If you work out, go to the gym and meet some college hardbody and have FUN. Go out and have fun and enjoy your life. Edited March 5, 2016 by fireflywy 1
Eaglescout88 Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 Hello, I am so sorry for the situation you are in. It is never easy when people we trust do things to lose that trust, but it is worse when our feelings are involved. I know that it is hard now and it hurts, but it does get better over time. The old adage, "time heals all wounds" is true in this situation. I write this as someone who was in a six year relationship with someone I could not trust, who treated me with disrespect and hostility. She would "love" me one moment and "hate" me the next. It took me a long time to see what my parents saw, but I finally came around. Now, I have been married for nine years to a women who treats me with respect and love. I met her at church. That written, I do have one question for you. I have been doing a lot of reading lately about how our faith (or lack thereof) impacts how we cope with loss. What research is showing is that people who have a strong faith tend to cope much better with loss than those who do not. It does not necessarily make things hurt less, but it does help you cope better. For instance, I fell at work almost four years ago, leaving me bedridden and in severe pain ever since. I have lost the function of sitting, standing, and walking, which if you think about it is part of what we do in almost every activity of the day. This has caused a tremendous loss in my life, but I have been able to cope with it because of my faith and personal relationship with God. As I read your post, I see someone who has been taken advantage of and abused by another person. Nobody deserves to go through what you went through. You should be treated with respect and with love (the verb), not hostility, secrecy, and disdain. I wish you the best and I will pray that this person will evaporate from your mind and that the Lord will help you meet someone who will show you the respect and worth that you deserve. Kind Regards, Kevin
Grumpybutfun Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 The lesson in all of this needless drama is don't treat other people poorly...especially the ones who are supposed to be your romantic partner. Go back and read your initial threads if you need a reminder on what you did wrong. Take responsibility that it was your mistreatment of her that started this Avalanche. Good luck and move on, Grumps 1
Chi townD Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 Oh just move on and don't ever contact her again!!!!! She sounds horrible! She loves cheating on you and loves rubbing your face in it! She loves to watch you get all upset and knows that she's causing it! She laughs in your face about it and thinks your pain is funny! That's not love or respect! Move on dude. 1
Latino4Lyfe Posted March 7, 2016 Posted March 7, 2016 Oh just move on and don't ever contact her again!!!!! She sounds horrible! She loves cheating on you and loves rubbing your face in it! She loves to watch you get all upset and knows that she's causing it! She laughs in your face about it and thinks your pain is funny! That's not love or respect! Move on dude. Exactly what Chi townD said, this is disgusting man. BLOCK and DELETE anything and everything of her. People like this do not deserve the time of day.
gimlynick Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Sounds horrible... I know how you feel, I've been in a relation with a super hot chick that ****s like a porn star aswell and that flirts with everybody. She even had a girl ****buddy next to me... At least she told me allways what she was doing so I was okay with it. Don't stay blind! Your ex has huge issues. The chance that she was into porn or prostitution is realistic. More girls who love sex do this to escape the real world. Some kind of weird advice: when you're masturbating... Don't think about her! Don't look to all the naked pics that she has sent to you. Just try to relax and think about a crush you had earlier in life or a reachable chick with whom you should love to have sex with. It seems that, just like in my situation, your main problem is not getting laid again. It sucks, especially because the chance of finding such a good **** is extremely small, but you have to go on. She does not care about you. You do about her. It will never be something inbetween you two.
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