SmartDude Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 I keep on going on dates and getting it wrong. The women that probabbly just want sex from me..I try to not come on too strong. Women who are looking for relationships..I try and have sex with them because I think that is what they want, because they are on tinder. I swear I am just striking out so bad just latley. It would be nice to have my fun but know when a woman is looking for more so I can act appropriately. How do women use tinder really? Tell the damn truth please.
ff12343 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 (edited) Quality of women on Tinder is low. They want hook ups. Best to ask what it is they are looking for although the ones 26 and younger will and can lie to you. But i would ask anyway. Another strategy is don't reveal ''yourself'' too early or you give them what they want. If they give up too soon, then you know you were talking to a skank. Edited March 3, 2016 by ff12343
Gershwin Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Depends on the kind of people you swipe right on. My friend went on Tinder & was approached for a hookup immediately. I went on there & got mostly brunch invites & great conversations 1
Otter2569 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Like FF said, just ask what they are looking for and then you know. Lets face it, if the say they want a relationship then jump quickly into dirty talk and sending nude pics well you know the real deal. My Tinder experience is mixed: Ive had hook ups and some cool dates. Mostly is blah conversation with woman that live beyond my area. Not quite as exciting as the site and reviews proclaim to be.
Lorenza Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Where I'm from, Tinder is mainly not for hookups. I came across a very few profiles that stated they're in for hooking up. Met my current boyfriend on Tinder and before that had a couple of dates with guys who were serious too.
salparadise Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 You might get a straight answer by asking, and you might not. My tinder experience was less than stellar. Way too much gamesmanship when the tinder concept is to skip that drudgery. Many feign demure and say "not here for hookups," and you know damn well what they're doing; the other half show titillating pics and do play coquettish but won't engage in conversation so going from flirting to meeting is damn nigh impossible. Maybe I wasn't playing the game right- tinder is superficial by design. I think having a look that makes'em instantly wet is the key to tinder success. Maybe in the next life. 2
AMJ Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 I know of two couples who met on Tinder and have made it past the two year mark...but my experience with Tinder was garbage. I don't mind when guys ask me "what I'm looking for". Just ask, be up front. If people are really just looking for sex, they will say so.
iphone_user1 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Not exactly. According to my experience and with girls under 25, I can say many are opened to go with whatever happens if the situation is right, so it's not like they are there for hook ups only, but for whatever comes their way.
RecentChange Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 My brother in law pulls an endless string of chicks he hooks up with through Tinder. For him at least it's a hook up app, and around here (SF bay area) that seems to be the general consensus.
Mrin Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 OK, here's my take on Tinder in regards to your question: 1. Tinder for Women: Expect that guys you meet are looking for hookups. Otherwise you're pounding a square peg in a round hole. 2. Tinder for Men: Truth be told, you have no idea what women are looking for on Tinder anymore. So what's a guy to do? Well the first thing you have to accept is that 99% of the women you talk to on Tinder have their shields up because they are constantly getting dudes asking for hookups, naked pics, sexting etc... So they will always be guarded. The best thing you can do is immediately qualify the woman. Just be straight up very early on in the conversation about what you're looking for. And be honest and descriptive. Just say, "hey, I just want to be be straight with you, I'm looking for [x]". If you're looking just for casual dating, say that. If you're looking to meet someone that may lead to something longer, say that. Do not ask her what she's looking for until you've told her what you're looking for. Asking a woman on Tinder what she's looking for is complete crap. First off, she's not going to tell you the truth. Second, why would she? If she says she's looking for something longer, if you are a player you'll know exactly how to play her. Why would she expose that? Sure you'll say what you're looking for and she might bail. But that's okay, you've just qualified her and she's not a match. But Mrin - what if I don't know what I'm looking for? I get that. You might want just a hookup with girl X and with girl Y you might be open to something longer. You just need to make that decision on a woman by woman basis. Sorry, there is no perfect formula to this. Best of luck! Mrin
AMJ Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 OK, here's my take on Tinder in regards to your question: 1. Tinder for Women: Expect that guys you meet are looking for hookups. Otherwise you're pounding a square peg in a round hole. 2. Tinder for Men: Truth be told, you have no idea what women are looking for on Tinder anymore. So what's a guy to do? Well the first thing you have to accept is that 99% of the women you talk to on Tinder have their shields up because they are constantly getting dudes asking for hookups, naked pics, sexting etc... So they will always be guarded. The best thing you can do is immediately qualify the woman. Just be straight up very early on in the conversation about what you're looking for. And be honest and descriptive. Just say, "hey, I just want to be be straight with you, I'm looking for [x]". If you're looking just for casual dating, say that. If you're looking to meet someone that may lead to something longer, say that. Do not ask her what she's looking for until you've told her what you're looking for. Asking a woman on Tinder what she's looking for is complete crap. First off, she's not going to tell you the truth. Second, why would she? If she says she's looking for something longer, if you are a player you'll know exactly how to play her. Why would she expose that? Sure you'll say what you're looking for and she might bail. But that's okay, you've just qualified her and she's not a match. But Mrin - what if I don't know what I'm looking for? I get that. You might want just a hookup with girl X and with girl Y you might be open to something longer. You just need to make that decision on a woman by woman basis. Sorry, there is no perfect formula to this. Best of luck! Mrin And men say that women are complicated....geez.
Bossanova Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 In my experienc,mif you set you profiel and pics up carefully then you can attract the right dort of people. Be up front, show off the side of you you want to capture interest and have a bit of game in your messages. For exampls, I had a brief bio outlining my job, main hobbies, a short 'What I'm looking for' and a bit of humour. My pics were simple- 1 of my face, 1 full body and a couple of me doing my hobbies. I only liked men who also had a bio and a similar set of pics.
mike_89 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 I've only dated 1 girl through Tinder who wanted to be serious. All the others varied from one night stand to friends with benefits.
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