basil67 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 there was a whole post on this a whiel ago... Basically came down to "there are worse things in life than being super attractive" I'm sure there are worse things. However, that doesn't mean that it wouldn't get really boring for the girl.
Maggie4 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 My suggestion: Go sit next to her, be professional. Right away say you didn't catch her name, then ask how many more sessions has she got left. Chat and compare your course schedule. You need this info. Don't over thank her and mention her hand, cos you'd be saying "I noticed all that effort you made for me, did your hand hurt?" Yikes! She's not chasing you, so far she's just nice. You'd almost make her seem desperate. Don't compliment her on her looks, it's inappropriate at this point, you don't even have a dialogue going. 1
Author Kylemopar Posted March 10, 2016 Author Posted March 10, 2016 Okay so I'm sitting next to her right now. Talked a bit and got her name. But she has 2 more weeks left in the class, what do I do should I ask her out after class for coffee or something?
Easyguy14 Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 Okay so I'm taking classes to get my real estate license and I just seen the most beautiful girl today taking the same class. The class is once a week a Wednesdays. I've seen her last week and the week before but didn't tell her anything cause really no chance to talk to her since we're either in class or we're waiting for the class to start surrounded by everyone else in the class. I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable. But today she sat down before me and I sat down next to her and said hi to her, she said hi back. The teacher asked us to pull out a packet that she gave us last week, I forgot mine, so I asked her if I can read from hers for the meantime, she said yes. Even when I wasn't reading it she would still hold it up in a way where it looked like her hand was getting tired but where I can see it better. We didn't say anything at all really, just asked her if she was cold cause the room was chilly...that's pretty much it. Well then the class ended and I thanked her for left me read from her packet, reached in to to shake her hand as gratitude and said, "Thank you so much, I'm Kyle by the way." And she just said, "You're welcome." So I don't know her name, probably made her feel awkward, and only see her once a week (if I'm lucky). I'm the greatest looking guy in the word but I'm not ugly either. She's really pretty and honestly way out of my league but what can I say to her? I get super nervous and it's hard for me to imitate a conversation from the get go. Any ideas? Suggestions? Help please! Its over. You already blew it by being overly nice to her for no other reason than because you're attracted to her.
Author Kylemopar Posted March 10, 2016 Author Posted March 10, 2016 Wow you guys sure are pretty negative . Well I talked to her after class. I asked her if she would have time on the weekend to help me go over the class material and she said she was really busy. So I said okay maybe some other day and she said, yeah maybe. I walked away and before getting in my car I asked her if I can have her number, she said yes and gave it to me. She called herself using my phone so it's legit lol. Should I wait to text her?
Art_Critic Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 How to talk to a pretty stranger. Mr Microphone... on a serious note.. This one is easy... next time you see her make her laugh..
SammySammy Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 Okay so I'm sitting next to her right now. Talked a bit and got her name. But she has 2 more weeks left in the class, what do I do should I ask her out after class for coffee or something? Do you have prior sales experience? From before you decided to become a real estate agent?
Author Kylemopar Posted March 10, 2016 Author Posted March 10, 2016 Not really sales but I am a public representative.
SammySammy Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 Not really sales but I am a public representative. Okay. I was going to suggest talking to her like you would talk to any client. But, since you're not familiar with the sales process that bit of advice wouldn't help you here. Good luck in your new career though. Even if you're not able to attract this young lady, I think the skills you're about to learn will help you in situations like this in the future. Being able to open anyone at any time, establishing rapport, listening, always be closing, allowing the client to buy rather than selling them ... all skills that you'll learn and need to master. Skills that will help you in both sales and seduction because what leads to success in one readily applies to the other. 1
Easyguy14 Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 This is great advice. Beauty is just a test. If you don't dare approach a woman because of her beauty, then she has just filtered out a guy that isn't man enough for her - due to his own insecurities. My friends would tell me about my ex 'you've done well for yourself there'. Nope. And that kind of attitude is the reason why they wouldn't have pulled her. No woman is out of my league - no exceptions. Never make up a woman's mind for her. Typically, I approach with a compliment. Straight away i'm signaling my attraction and being direct. But nothing too over the top: you don't want to be saying "you're the most beautiful woman i've ever seen!" Just tell her that you noticed her and think she looks nice/cute, or mention something that took your interest, like her style or her demeanor. After this, if she's being receptive, the big danger is that you start asking gay hairdresser questions and kill the flirty vibe such as: 'what do you do for work?', or 'where do you come from?' . Instead you want to put a good energy into the exchange by bantering with her, making her laugh, and messing with her. Treat her like you would your bratty sister; don't be afraid to make fun of her (but in a nice way!). Whilst doing this you add in the odd normal friendly question as stated earlier and start being more real with her. But always be aware of the friend-zone; it's always lurking in a girl's mind. It's better to get rejected for being too much of a jerk than to be rejected for being too 'nice'. In other words its better that the OP be an ******* than to be polite? I don't think the OP should be putting said woman on a pedestal which he's already done but to turn into a jerk wont help either in his case since I feel it's too late to catch up.
Jabron1 Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 In other words its better that the OP be an ******* than to be polite? I don't think the OP should be putting said woman on a pedestal which he's already done but to turn into a jerk wont help either in his case since I feel it's too late to catch up. I reckon that for a 'nice-guy' to stop that sort of behaviour, they will probably have to push things outside of their comfort zone. Guys have to race the car until it crashes to know their limits. Like going back to basics, and being a kid again - testing rules and boundaries. So yeah, for someone just starting to talk to women, I do think it's better for a guy to get rejected for being a self-centered jerk, than a nice 'friend'. Being rejected as the 'nice friend' normally means you just didn't dare make a move.
RJ2000 Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 Wow you guys sure are pretty negative . Well I talked to her after class. I asked her if she would have time on the weekend to help me go over the class material and she said she was really busy. So I said okay maybe some other day and she said, yeah maybe. I walked away and before getting in my car I asked her if I can have her number, she said yes and gave it to me. She called herself using my phone so it's legit lol. Should I wait to text her? I wasn't there so can't say for sure, but this, my man, does not sound like she's hot to trot for you. Just being honest. However, you do have her number. She did give it to you. There's some hope there, a glimmer anyway. My advice: You have to get this dynamic well away from the studying nonsense, (as if you actually care about having her help you with that!). Jabron1 gave some very good advice. You have to make your interactions with her about man-woman stuff, not classmates poring over the final exam materials. Next time you see her, make your move. Get a convo going, then look her in the eye, give her a wry smile, and say something like "Look, while I def would want to study with you I really asked for your number so I could ask you out sometime. I was hesitant because this was a professional/educational situation and I didn't want to make you uncomfortable. Love to buy you drink/bite to eat sometime, are you down? If not, totally cool." She says yes, cool. Says no, cool. Simile, say alright. On to the next one. Even if she shoots you down, you have to be cool. You'll save your dignity and in your own head, will feel better about yourself and more confident for the next time.
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