dlyall Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 So he breaks up with me on a Monday then he keeps contacting me ever since. I never contact him first. It is always him. As long as i have been dating I have never had that happen before. There is no begging about getting together ( I will not go there, nope) nothing just conversation picking up from the day before. I know I should most likely not pick up the phone but ..I am confused. How many of you all had this happen and what ended up happening in the end? Become really good friends? Cut them off? Eventually get back together?What?
266696687 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 So he breaks up with me on a Monday then he keeps contacting me ever since. I never contact him first. It is always him. As long as i have been dating I have never had that happen before. There is no begging about getting together ( I will not go there, nope) nothing just conversation picking up from the day before. I know I should most likely not pick up the phone but ..I am confused. How many of you all had this happen and what ended up happening in the end? Become really good friends? Cut them off? Eventually get back together?What? I read your other thread about this guy and based on that and this thread this guy has just demoted you. You are no longer in a relationship but he is going to keep in touch with you. You are now a backup option or an option for sex should he not find anyone else. Anyone who dumps you then starts contacting you immediately expecting to be friends has no respect for your boundaries or for you. He is keeping in touch all the time for his own selfish reasons (probably related to sex) to make sure you are unable to move on from him before he is ready or found a replacement. I've experienced this before. My reaction was to cut him off! Completely. Don't put up with it. He isn't your friend. He just dumped you meaning he doesn't want you in his life as a permanent fixture. He doesn't see a long term future with you. He is just stringing you along. It's about free and easy access to sex. Nothing more. When he finds someone else and he will your 'friendship' will suddenly be non existent and you'll once again be left heartbroken because you were hoping he would change his mind because of course you'll delude yourself into believing he must have feelings for you because he keeps in touch. Do not be fooled. If he had actual feelings for you he wouldn't have dumped you. Tell him to stop contacting you that you are not ready to be friends with him. Tell him you are moving on and that means not being in contact with him. 1
Author dlyall Posted March 3, 2016 Author Posted March 3, 2016 Oh I am not going to be fooled. Like I said I don't want him back I just think that is just strange behavior. I don't want that. I think you are right..act like nothing is wrong and hopes to get sex out of it. Not going to happen...nadda.. 1
thai_singles Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 I think you shouldn't stay in touch with that guy. What is done is done. Just start your life afresh. 1
Author dlyall Posted March 3, 2016 Author Posted March 3, 2016 exactly what I am going to do . Thanks for your opinions you all!
Otter2569 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 Definitely avoid this dude. Anyone doing that has an ulterior motive. Having said that, I am friends with almost all of my Ex's. It just ends up that way (I am a pretty good time, what can I say). I actually have hooked up with a number of Ex's down the road...so you never know. I know we will not have a relationship or anything but we have some sort of bond where we occasionally reconnect. Not sure how common that is?!
Marco Pierre Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 My ex and I broke up 5 months ago after a 5 year relationship. I would love to be friends with her We have not really spoken all year She has a new boyfriend now and Im happy for Im ready to be her friend as I miss her friendship deeply However I have no idea how to iniate this as I dont think she will beleive my intentions. I dont want her back, we hurt eachother too much I miss her immensley Maybe your ex feels the same way. What Im sayin is. It happens. Guys can move on yet want to remain friends with there ex.
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