mortensorchid Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 I've known many people in my lifetime from all walks of life - social classes, occupations, circumstances, etc. - either as friends or those I have dated. Some people are constantly on the rebound, bouncing from one relationship to another to another, some stay perpetually alone for long stretches of time. I haven't figured out how or why it is that this is the case. Sometimes it's fueled by the rebound energy, sometimes it's fueled by timing, sometimes it's just dumb luck that this can and does happen for some people. As to what does or doesn't happen in the next relationship, that's up for interpretation, but I wonder what it is that makes this happen for some people and not others. I've gone for a VERY long time without the slightest prospects of a relationship happening, I'm sure there are others out there with this same problem. And I'm sure there are ones who are the opposite. What has your experience been and how and why is it the way it is? I'm wondering.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 I've never been a quick rebounder. I feel it's not healthy or fair to enter a new romantic relationship if you're still healing from the last one. If you're serious, you need to wait till you're truly ready to love again. After a split, even if it's amicable, it takes me some time to rekindle my hope and optimism about love. There's always a period when I'm not sure my hope will return. But so far, it always has. The jury's still out on this time around...
Popsicle Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 I think it was just luck that caused me to jump into another relationship after one ended when I was younger, and it never caused a problem, but for the first time in my life now I am fully single and without a relationship (for a long time now) and it's a different experience. I wouldn't say it's better really but it has it's unique benefits. I don't think one state is better than the other overall.
VeveCakes Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 I left my husband and was looking forward to being single, then I ended up getting into a relationship right away. It was weird, but I'm happy as ever now
ashy555 Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 When i date a man for a while, it takes me ages to move on. I hate the feeling of being in a mans company, when all I can think about is my ex and how hurt i am. Then i have my ex best friend who could not be alone. Dated multipled men after splitting from her husband. Was in 4 actual (and very dysfunctional) relationships in the first year.
AMJ Posted March 3, 2016 Posted March 3, 2016 It's not a coincidence, it's part of who we are, codependent or not. You either attract relationships subconsciously or you don't.
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