LuvConquersAll Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 I know some people will probably say that I'm overreacting but I would like to have your opinion on this matter I've been crushing on a boy in one of my classes. We're both seniors and we've known each other since jr high though we haven’t talked as much in the past few years due to not having any classes together. I started crushing on him sometime during September and began slightly flirting with him, glancing at him during class, sending him nice messages, etc., and sometimes it looked like he was glancing at me a bunch during class as well. He also playfully teased me once for a little while during class a few months back. One day one of our close friends (let’s call her Lisa) private messaged me on Twitter and asked me if I had a crush on him to which I replied yes. She then proceeded to tell me she “honestly didn’t know how (she) guessed but (she) had a feeling I liked him” and also added how cute it was. One morning, I decided to make a joke about how I can always hear his car’s engine from down the street and how I love hearing him rev his engine (I really do love hearing that sound). This was also when Lisa messaged me and asked about me crushing on him. Later that evening, he ended up blocking me for a few hours but when I told Lisa he blocked me, she talked to him and he unblocked me (it wasn’t my idea for her to do that, she just volunteered). But neither Lisa nor I knew what his reason for blocking me was. Because I didn’t know whether I’d said something that offended him or hurt him, I sent him an apology letter along the lines of “I’m really sorry if I said something to you that offended or hurt you in any way and I’ve never had any intention of doing that to you. I hope you can forgive me.” I never received any message back from, and I didn't mind. I also know that he is actually a very forgiving person so I didn't dwell much on not receiving any reply. A few days ago I was surfing Twitter and I saw that I was no longer following him so I clicked on his profile and that’s when I saw that he had blocked me. Lisa found out and she told me how sad this made her and that she had no idea why he did it this time. The only thing I’ve been doing in class is casting a few glances in his direction. The last time I talked to him was when I sent him the apology letter a little over 2 weeks ago, which is why I’m confused to his reason for suddenly blocking me. One reason that I think could be in the realm of possibilities is that he and his on-again off-again girlfriend recently broke up a little over a month and a half ago. I also know that, sometimes, he can be a little bit of an overreactor. I was wondering what your thoughts are on this situation I’m in? Should I just brush it off and act like it never happened? Should I forget about him and stop crushing on him?
smackie9 Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 He didn't want to hurt your feelings or lead you on, so instead of coming right out and telling you, he is distancing himself. Sorry but you can't win them all. Also it's possible he is hoping him and his ex get back together. 2
d0nnivain Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 That was my take on it too. He blocked you because he doesn't like you back. Sorry.
preraph Posted March 2, 2016 Posted March 2, 2016 He started feeling awkward and (typical of high school boys) embarrassed because other people knew (your friend) you had a crush on him and were gossiping about him. Then the car thing may have creeped him out a little and he wasn't interested back (although he may think you're a perfectly nice girl) and so then there was the letter, which kind of forced him into a corner to communicate with you, which he isn't mature enough to deal with. So he's just scared off because he doesn't want any confrontation and isn't interested enough back. I'm sorry. Your letter reminded me of my high school crush. I moaned after him secretly for 3 years and knew the sound of his Mustang (1968 - I'm 63 now) and used to hear it come home after a date if I was staying at my friend's house. Our eyes locked a few times and the one time he gave me a ride home I was so nervous my hands were shaking the ice in the cup I was holding. Then after graduation a few years, I met the girl he married and had now divorced, and she said he had been abusing and hitting her, and I thought, wow, I really dodged a bullet. He didn't seem that way to me at all. It can take a long time to get to really know someone. That's why crushes aren't very reliable pickers! But I never could help getting them anyway.
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