Advice for women

[thathurts]

Well, i found this site using google, and i am reading what you all talking about. While i tell my story I will try to give some advice, and the things that i learned.

 

Met at college with her, i am 28, she is 22 yold. She had a painfull relationship before me(her ex, dumped her and she was hurt when we met), and same goes for me (i hurt my ex be4 her. i was the one who quits and runs away). My relationship background is not really good, i have experience, have been in so many relationship. Never been dumped, not even once, and most of the gfs of mine still wants me back.

 

We had really strong relationship for 2 years, and we both were sure that we found the love of our life. We have lived together for 1 year, after that 1 year long distance.(IM/Phone?Meeting once a month) We had fight like all couples. Through the lond distance part of our relation, she complained all the time, me not loving her, not caring about her which was not true. It is just the nature of most men. She wanted more and more and i was tired also. We both were planning to marry, in july i will move to another country for job(6 months, and we were both ok with that) i did not ask her to mary her but i know her, she wanted to mary as much as i did.

 

A month ago, she wanted me to come to her, and i was gonna, she was making plans where to go when i am there and when we were having conversation she said something not good(money issue, she wanted to go smoeplace romantic/expensive) and i said, wtf, you would not be happy with me if we do not go to epxensive place, she was hurt and trying to tell me that she did not mean it, i got it wrong yada yada...I said ok thats it, and i said forget it, it is over and took a vacation for a week. I did not take my cell phone to clear my head, when i came back home, there was a text message from her saying that she loves me so much. Did not reply a week, after a week suddenly, i realized that she is the one, i sent her text, and she replied exactly like this : You are the nicest person i would ever meet, and i wont find anyone like you, i love you and but i am not in love with you anymore. I need time, we well see what happens with time. I said ok, of course it hurt like hell. A day after i text her again, saying that i want to hear it on the phone. I thought she would not be able to say it, but she said she does not love me anymore, and she does not miss me like before. She begged me 1 year to show my love to her but i did not.

 

I waited couple of day and send another one, got same reply again. I did not want to push her because i know that it will make her go away, so yesterday i decided to send her an email , my last words. I thanked her for being honest, and told her that i am still on love, i wanted an explanation frm her, why she ended up, also i said i realized my mistake, i will show my love to her or the next woman after her. Said, we deserve each other. I wanted her to be more clear told her i am ready to hear the painfull one. i just want to be sure that she does not has feeling for me. If i know that, it will be easy to move on. She did not reply, i am waiting to hear from her.

 

I want comments from girls, because i know that your brain is so much different, and i would like to know what my gf is thinking, just thınk as you are her and what whould you? if is there any chance to get back together what should i do . By the way i have never cheated her.

 

Here is my advise to all woman who wants devoted and faithfull man . If you want to be happy with a guy. Most of all(men) so similar, but if you look close you find so much different things. First of all, pick the right one. Do not pick a guy who is surrounded with girls and so popular. Pick someone that you think he needs someone speacial. Pick someone who is ok to sit at home and be happy with you. Pick someone who treats his family real good. First couple of months give him all of your love. Keep it that way till you realize that he is bored. (A to Z all of us will be in this stage, some in couple of months some in couple of years)

 

You want him to make something, tell him but do not push him, everything that he should do about relationship is have to be by his wish. and tell him that. When he says nice things to you, reply him with all of your heart but do not be the one who says nice things first. It will make us think that you are belong to us whatever we do, after that we do not give a ****. There is line here, i am not telling that you should never show your love to him, he should know that you love him so much but he should already know that you are strong(none of you strong enough but pretend ehe, it works) and you are not %100 depentand to him. Have close friends, do not do everything with him, he should know that you have plenty of friends who wants to hang out with you. Believe me it will make you much more valuable to men.

 

You think that things are not going well, he does not deserve you? dump him, you must be the one who quits,it proves that you are strong. if he was happy with you and you end the relationship, he will never forget you and he will beg you. I have ended almost 15 realtionships and i do not remember myself thinking about them at all. Damn the last one, it has been 1 month and everyday i think of her. I guess you got the point. If he quits first whatever you do he won't remember you. If he loves you, he will come back,will try 1000 differents ways to get you back, if he does not it means he does not love you, and he will never love you again. Try to forget him and look for someone like i described.